<p>ctymomteacher:
I agree with you ... I'm a doormat.</p>
<p>I can't go into all of the background. Just suffice it to say that she is truly benefitting from the year abroad. I mentioned elsewhere in this post that she is seeing a psychologist abroad. There is a reason for that.</p>
<p>I don't want to take away something that is truly beneficial to her. Her psychologist abroad is very good, he seems to be addressing her issues, which is more than I can say for the psychologists that treated her here in the US. The staff at her school abroad, and my friends from abroad have noticed positive changes in her.</p>
<p>The problem is really far more complex than I can describe in a post. I said right up front, I didn't expect an answer (though I did contact her psychologist via email and told him that I want to work with him to establish a lump sum budget that is fair and reasonable to both our family and her). I just posted because I'm so sad.</p>
<p>If you had a kid that had a problem, you'd also feel sad. Sometimes the kids problems hurt you. Sometimes parents have to go to extreme, sad measures. Suppose you have a kid whose illness manifests itself in violence. You'd have to make a very sad choice to either live with the violence, or put the kid in a home. I'm not saying that my daughters issues are as extreme as that. I am saying that my daughter is greatly benefitting from her stay abroad. No matter how much I am hurt by her behavior, I have to weigh the fact that she is greatly benefitting by being abroad, and I want to help her, not hurt her (contrary to what she thinks).</p>
<p>Again, I'm not looking for an answer, because most problems don't have easy solutions. I posted because I'm just so sad.</p>