<p>Mommy_Dearest, Nobody on this board except you knows the full story between you and your daughter, but some of the information you supplied reminds me of the relationship between my friend and her mom (I'm still a high school student). Ever since she and her boyfriend got together, she has been txt-messaging and calling him nonstop--often in the middle of class. As a result, her family's monthly phone bill has skyrocketed. After the first time, her mother threatened her and took away any extras that she had on her phone. During that time, my friend was extremely conscious of how she used her phone because she wanted to get that service back. Well, her mother gave in after a while and gave it back to her--she's already racked up another $200+ on their monthly bill. </p>
<p>You seem to accept the fact that you're a "doormat," as you call it, but you're not making her any better of a person by doing so. Since my friend's parents divorced, her mother has given her anything she's asked for. You would think that would make her more appreciative and grateful, but it's done exactly the opposite. She goes around calling her mother a b*tch when she doesn't get her way, and lies to her constantly. She sees nothing wrong with her cell phone usage. She even blames the extra bill on her mom for not getting the unlimited plan. My point, though, is that sometimes you need to stand your ground. Her mother always gave in, so she never learned a thing. It's true that sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. </p>
<p>At least witnessing her behavior has made me realize that I would never do that to my own parents. I'm working toward my own cell phone now, and I plan to pay for a part (if not all) of the bill. Maybe you should ask your daughter to do the same if she wants to continue her cell phone service. </p>
<p>Also, I know you wanted your daughter to call you at least three times a week. As a teenager, I can tell you that this won't happen. When I'm gone on a trip, my parents are lucky to receive a call a week. That does not mean that I love them any less, just like I'm sure that not calling you doesn't mean that your daughter loves you any less. Let her have her freedom, but make sure she understands that you care and want to hear from her once in awhile. She'll come back to you on her own, trust me. It's happened to me and it's happened to my friends. It's fun hanging out with friends and doing the 'independent' thing, but at some point, we realize that we still need our parents. </p>
<p>I know you didn't want an answer, but I hope this helps.</p>