<p>Is it possible to be straight your entire life and then just start feeling Bi or gay. I'm 21 & male and have a Panic Disorder where I am obsessively compulsive about things. I get obsessive about health and am a hypochondriac . I even need to take a Anxiety Medication because I used to have constant fears of having a heart attack, it was really bad. I really even had the actual pains and such.</p>
<p>Well I have always considered myself straight, but one day I wake up and just couldn't stop questioning myself. All I do is ask myself if I am gay and while I really have absolutely zero attraction to men, I still question myself. I even feel really awkward around Gay people. Just as this new obsession started the older one stopped and has been going on for about 2 years.</p>
<p>Any ideas, this may not be the best place for this, but maybe some opf my peers can help. I dont know if I am Bi or not, though I can say my attraction to women hasn't lessened any.</p>
<p>"really have absolutely zero attraction to men"</p>
<p>lol ummm ya...that means ur straight. Don't worry about it.</p>
<p>Feeling awkward around then might mean ur hobophobic or something tho...altho u do seem to have some strange syndroms that could explain ur anxiety. Don't worry about it tho,</p>
<p>You know, I read that obsessing over one's sexual orientation is one thing Obsessive Compulsives do sometimes. Maybe that's it... And you are an Obsessive Compulsive.</p>
<p>But straying away from that a bit... Yes, it's very possible, IMO. If I had to put I label on myself, I'd say I'm mostly straight. I've always been very supportive of people with "different" sexual orientations, but I always considered myself straight. Well then I fell in love with/became attracted to one of my best friends. And I realised that sexual orientaion is much more of a fluid thing. I've not felt exactly the same towards other girls any more times, but I've had slight attractions a couple other times.</p>
<p>Straight/Bi/Gay... They just box people in too much. Nothing's that black and white... Sure, it's not as black and white as straight/gay, but it's still saying that things are easily defined. Nothing is that easily defined...</p>
<p>I think the problem here is that society pushes people so strongly to find some sign of homosexuality within them that even straight people think that they're gay. I think that many "gay" people are actually bi-curious; I have an extremely hard time believing that there are men out there who are absolutely not turned on by the sight of a woman in the nude. If there are, there aren't many.</p>
<p>Go find a hot girl. and stare...<em>cough</em>...If that gives you a <em>cough</em> then you're still straight.</p>
<p>or if you're not like me and are able to get <em>cough</em> then do that.</p>
<p>Asking if you're gay is like asking yourself if you really prefer ****ing up or sitting down. If you think too much you end up sitting down. If you catch my drift.</p>
<p>BTW I'm not homophobic nor do I want to crucify gay ppl. I just dont support it. Kinda like not supporting milk with rice. </p>
<p>I think the problem is that society likes to label everything. Obviously no one can draw a conclusion from your feelings but you, but if you're not attracted to men sexually then that's that! ;) However, the real point I would make is to not worry about it. Who cares? Why not go on with your life just deciding to be attracted to whomever you may without worrying about their sex. It's likely that you're straight (label) but that you are nervous around gay people because you're worried that you might be considered gay if you get along with them well. IMHO, labels and people worrying about how they are perceived leads to divisiveness and prejudice. Be yourself and don't worry about it.</p>
<p>While I dont have any problem with gay people, I really dont want to be one. I dont think that I dont want to be one because of society, I am just kinda shocked that I have these thoughts because for 19 years I was 100% driven to women. Like I said I am just kinda disgusted because I dont know how I could ever be attracted to a man(nothing against those who are). I highly doubt im gay with the reading ive been doing, just the constant questioning myself sucks.</p>
<p>What I was thinking was that could it be that well im 21 but still a complete Virgin, Ive never even been on a date with a girl. There have been many girls that I have thought about asking, though I always Puss out. I dont know why I haven't, I have just been to scared I guess,</p>
<p>oh ah well that's interesting. my advice is to get out there pretty soon, make a very strong effort to go out on a date with a girl at least. being a virgin at your age isn't something to be ashamed of. though the fact that you've never even been on a date with a girl, said you've been 100% attracted to females, and suddenly wondered if you're gay, shows that your questioning yourself probably comes solely from the fact that you've never even been on a date with a girl, so how would you know if you weren't gay. That's logical. I can't help you with whatever uncertainties you may be having within yourself (if any) but I can reiterate my suggestion to make getting a date (girl) one of your very top priorities.</p>
<p>haha uh sorry just saying that if you've never been on a date with a girl (much less had sex with one) it would not be illogical to wonder if you might be subconsciously gay, as you are doing now. I don't know the answer to that but judging from your reaction to the possibility it's likely that you never will be. Most important then is that you reinforce your established sexuality by at least getting out there on a date with a girl. I mean, even if you have to "settle" for a girl that you're not quite as interested in, it's at least nice to be around someone that is attracted to you.</p>
<p>If you do not start exploring your sexuality soon, you could find yourself continuing to be "confused" as you don't have any personal experience with which to relate to either sex to determine your orientation. But as I said in my previous post, I really don't think people should worry about giving themselves a label. Get out there and meet people. If you feel like it should be women, good! Do it! But don't worry either if you feel uncomfortable around certain people or question yourself. If you're really gay (or bi or whatever) YOU will know eventually.</p>
<p>You don't have to date to know whether you're gay or not. I've known I was gay since first grade, for example. I remember being attracted to some of the boys (I still remember how my crushes look like- wow, I had good taste even back then!), and I'd get nervous around them.</p>
<p>You just have to look inside yourself and honestly ask if you're sexually attracted to men. Furthermore, could you have an emotional (romantic) connection with them? If not, you're not "gay." That's all there is to it.</p>
<p>People don't experience changes in sexual orientation. They only <em>realize</em> what their true sexual orientation is.
Some straight people are grossed out by same-sex fooling around, some are not. Fooling around with someone of the same sex does not really change one's sexual orientation. Sure, you might not get as aroused as having sex with your preferred gender, but it could still be a sensual thing. When your body parts connect, you can't help feeling an overwhelmingly intense connection between the two of you. It's like love, except not really.</p>
<p>Dude like 'tisthetruth said you don't have to date to know it. But I can see where brand_182 is coming from.</p>
<p>and don't worry about it. Seriously, when there's a girl you like a lot you'll be driven to ask her out. Almost as if you can't help yourself. So just wait for the right girl. I'm not saying she'll be the one you'll be marrying though. Lol.</p>