<p>The most likely reason girls are man to you and guys are not is that you’re probably beautiful, smart and nice at the same time. Let’s not sugarcoat the situation, ladies and gentlemen (and transsexuals). Girls love to assume I’m feminist because I’m gay, but ACTUALLY, I do not hesitate to call out girl-on-girl bullying when I see it and treat it the same as gay-on-gay bullying and other kinds of bullying that I am adamantly against and vocally condemn. I doubt you will have trouble finding sophisticated people (gay and non-gay) at this urban Ivy who have a mature outlook on life, and who understand that some people are just beautiful, nice, and intelligent, and that’s okay. </p>
<p>If the urban Ivy you’re talking about is Harvard, I’m not surprised at all about your assessments of the scene. Indeed, Harvard is very accepting, mostly of the ilk of gays who ARE NOT the kind who are so dogmatic about gay equality to the point of sacrificing intellectual sophistication, who hypocritically profess to care about one kind of equality and then perpetuate another through their consumer choices. Harvard is very welcoming of those who are passionate about equality (as well as others who are not) who are grounded, intellectually sophisticated, down-to-earth, and distinctly non-materialistic. I’m a gay conservative and have found a home here. I have to say Harvard does an excellent job of screening out gays who are of that other kind, the ones who are self-victimizing and take advantage of their plight to seek attention. If you want those kind of gays, go to Stanford. For some reason, a lot of gays apply there with visions of “Gay San Francisco” and a “carefree” and “laidback” college experience in their heads. They manage to get in in droves. Those who apply to Harvard as well don’t get in.</p>