<p>It seems a little passive-aggressive to me… the note before the letter is written tactic. Could backfire, IMHO. I would feel “pressured”, not “thanked” if I were the teacher.</p>
<p>You could thank the teacher for “being willing to” write the letter - that is a little nudge without implying that it is already done.</p>
<p>@NEPatsgirl - in situations like that I look for a “buffer” - basically someone who can act as an intermediary on my behalf. Could you ask D’s GC to give the teacher a nudge? </p>
<p>Tough call. I think I"ll just table it until November 1st and worry then. She is a great, well respected teacher so I’ll have to have faith that she’ll take care of this. I guess I feel a little let down because we were so on point about letting the two teachers know in mid-August that they were the “chosen ones” haha. I certainly didn’t expect them to write their letters then but I figured we’d be first on the list lol. Actually, one teacher completed his on 9/5. She added another teacher who has since left the school for another country, emailed and asked him last Friday to be a third recommender when we saw that a few schools were actually looking for more than two, and he did his that evening. I have two friends that are GCs from very large schools and they aren’t as committed to their students/recommendations than what my expectations are either. Wonder where daughter gets her Type A, over-achiever, perfectionist thing from?</p>
<p>Is this a school that absolutely insists that all materials must be in by Nov 1, no exceptions? There might be a few schools like that, but for the most part the schools are okay if the letter is a few days late. The student needs to get their stuff done… but the college know that the high schools don’t always have their act completely together. And the GCs know this, too. They are used to parents’ bugging them when THEY know they have extra time. I am pretty sure they roll their eyes when we aren’t looking…</p>
<p>Yea, I get it…I’m just a stickler for deadlines and it seems to me if you expect these kids to get everything in on time, you should be a role model for the same. Its a little difficult to explain to our students why its okay for the teachers and guidance counselors to be late especially when you gave them ample time but expect that they will follow the “rules”.</p>
<p>Last year there were lots of problems with Common App., and daughter was lucky she got some done days ahead of deadlines. As deadlines approached, the system was overwhelmed, crashed, and everybody was freaking out all over the country. Please don’t put yourself in a position where you run the risk of missing a deadline because there is a technical snafu somewhere. You will never forgive yourself.</p>
<p>So? Did the early application get in?</p>