hi everyone! i need a little bit of help from a personal side…
back in april I enrolled at Villanova University but was also on the waitlist for Wake Forest. I was never super excited about Nova as it was a safety for me but in the end I didn’t get into any other schools that were a better option, only waitlists. So, I went along and found a roommate at Nova, connected with upperclassmen that I met at candidates day, and secured a spot in a selective and specialized 25 student major. However, in June after I became comfortable with the idea of attending Nova, I got the call from Wake saying that I was accepted off the waitlist. I immediately wanted to accept because I was IN LOVE with it, but after getting the financial aid offer I realized I would have 44k in personal student loans after graduating. Additionally, I would have to leave my roommate and go to a school where I knew no one at all. In the end I decided to stick with Nova, but ever since I have thought about Wake pretty much every day. I constantly find myself thinking that I would have been happier there, mainly because of the southern atmosphere which is something I always wanted, and because wake’s business school seems to be more highly regarded than Nova’s ( I am pursuing business). Anyway, I leave for Nova in 1 month and am excited but could really use some help letting go of Wake. If anyone has any perspectives about Nova and can possibly give me some affirmation that I made the right decision, I would appreciate is so so so much!
Buyer’s remorse over the summer is normal, especially when you’re headed to the school you considered a safety. You were wise to realize that Wake is not worth the additional debt you’d incur, and it sounds like you have set yourself up for success at Villanova with your student connections and your major. I hope that after a few weeks at Nova, you are back here posting that you are having a wonderful experience! If you wind up pursuing an MBA, the regard which your undergrad school commands won’t matter much. Move south for your post-college job or grad school if you still like the southern atmosphere. Go get 'em!
My daughter had the situation where each of the six schools that she was admitted to offered increasingly attractive merit scholarships. She would get really excited and start planning on one school when the next came along with a better offer. Each time there was a little grieving of the school that had to be given up. The last admission and offer was the best, and once she made a decision she opted to never look back.
You made the best decision for you with the offers you had. Move on and don’t look back. Embrace your choice.
Try to see it like this:
I could have married Brad Pitt. but that would mean I would have to lose a zillion pounds and be a movie star.,I’m sure it would have been great if I could have done it:)
I know it’s silly. But you can’t mourn losing something that was never yours! All you are doing is “what if-ing”…
What if I’d been a skinny movie star? No point what if-ing what could not happen! This will pass. I promise!