Hi I have been really depressed since last January/February of 2015.
I even contemplated on skipping college classes over this.
I am at a really low point in my life.
I am a rising freshman who is going to the University of Maryland College Park. I sort o’ told my parents about this but they are still forcing me to go to college or my rear end is to the curb.
I want to be left alone while dealing with this depression.
How do I politely tell other college students if they approach me to leave me alone without telling them to pound sand.
Some students from my high school are going to UMD. How do I tell them to leave me alone when they approach me?
Hopefully I will eventually overcome this depression.
I will not be a sissy and kill or cut myself over this depression.
I do not want to talk to others about this.
I do not need others to feel sorry for me.
I want to be left alone to suck it up and deal with it myself like a real man.
I am not on campus yet I will be commuting. I am sorry I was not clear. I did not say I wanted to tell anyone to “pound sand”. I am depressed and I need alone time. How can I ask others to leave me alone politely?
Have you tried going to a therapist? You shouldn’t isolate yourself-- as someone who has been diagnosed with depression and mild anxiety, it can really multiply the more your feelings fester, even if it’s what your depression is telling you that you should do. I strongly, STRONGLY suggest seeking professional attention if it is seriously cutting into your personal life and ability to interact with others.
I do not think that I need a therapist. I do not have the money anyway. I will be fine. Hopefully I will be able to overcome this hurtle. I just need to be alone to deal with this and not have college drama get in the way.
Depression is not insanity. You have admitted that you are depressed and have been for 8 months now. Clearly this is not something that you can simply wait out. It’s beyond my jurisdiction to cast judgement on why you are so unwilling to get help. But can you honestly not see that it’s not normal to be depressed from January until August to the point of dreading human contact and not wanting to continue onto a new chapter of your life? Don’t you want not to be depressed? There are professionals to help you-- you aren’t the only one who feels this way. There’s no need to internalize your problems and hope that they go away.
Guys seriously I said I do not need counseling I just need to be left alone while dealing with my depression. How do I tell others to leave me alone without being rude?
I literally answered that in my first post, though. If someone approaches you, you smile and say hi and then make an excuse to leave.
There are FREE, CONFIDENTIAL services available SPECIFICALLY FOR YOU on campus. Use them! That’s what they’re there for!
Your depression could do all kinds of horrible things if you just stick your fingers in your ears and go “LA LA LA.” You could fail all your classes and be stuck back at home, forced out of school. You could stop eating and lose too much weight. You could miss out on making friends. You could start to lash out at everyone around you. You could want to commit suicide. You could actually do it.
You don’t have to live unhappily for MONTHS AND MONTHS. It’s not supposed to be like that. And chemical imbalances in the brain are a medical issue. You wouldn’t hope that a bullet wound would just “go away on its own.” Avoiding treatment with a bullet hole in your chest wouldn’t be manly, it’d be dangerous. Same applies.
My appetite is normal and I do not want to make friends while dealing with depression. I will not kill myself over this. I will be fine.
I will follow your advice of smiling and saying hi than making an excuse to leave during the depression time.
I realize that when I work my depression goes away for a short time. I am the neighborhood gardener. What college jobs can I do during the thanksgiving, winter, and spring breaks since my job is only seasonal? I get bored during thanksgiving, winter, and spring break and then fall into depression.
It doesn’t usually occur to people to try to kill themselves, either, but depression can make one do crazy things.
Remember that you’ll be dealing with this on top of harder academics than you’ve faced before. Do you really want to be giving less than your full attention to two different issues–mental illness and tough classes–that TRULY require 100% of your effort EACH?
Depression is a mental illness by definition. You’ve had it since January – that’s not just being sad over a failed test or something. That’s eight months.
I agree with @bodangles, you should see a professional or some sort of student counselor.
MIT had like 6 or 7 suicides within the last year. I will bet you that most of them had a similar mindset as you currently have, that you think you can keep it in or you don’t need help. Don’t take that path - you really should talk with someone about it.
"Depression is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Also called major depressive disorder or clinical depression, it affects how you feel, think and behave and can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems. You may have trouble doing normal day-to-day activities, and sometimes you may feel as if life isn’t worth living.
More than just a bout of the blues, depression isn’t a weakness and you can’t simply “snap out” of it. Depression may require long-term treatment. But don’t get discouraged. Most people with depression feel better with medication, psychological counseling or both." http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/basics/definition/con-20032977
“Depression is more than just feeling sad or going through a rough patch. It’s a serious mental health condition that requires understanding, treatment and a good recovery plan. With early detection, diagnosis and a treatment plan consisting of medication, psychotherapy and lifestyle choices, many people get better. But left untreated, depression can be devastating, both for the people who have it and for their families.” https://www.nami.org/Learn-More/Mental-Health-Conditions/Depression#sthash.sWqmN3KA.dpuf