College rumors/gossips...how bad does it get?

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<p>I am Asian and I go to a huge public university with more than 10k undergraduates. The Asian community here is quite big. People know each other by face(but not on a personal level). </p>

<p>Recently I just went to this club and I started talking with the people there. Many of them know me by face but my name. The other day, I saw this guy who seemed quite familiar at the library. Because of that, I went up to him and started talking to him (I only wanted to make friends because I haven't made a single friend during my first week of college yet). I guess I came off a little flirty and ,hopefully not, but a little pushy. I also said some really stupid things now that I think of it. I think he seemed a little annoyed. The next week I went back to the club, I realized he was a long time member at the club. He knew and is close with basically everyone there.</p>

<p>Now it makes me feel extremely awkward and I do not want to go back to the club again. I guess I felt kind of stupid. I'm not sure if he told people about what happened at the library after I left the club that day...I was really trying to make friends so I basically talked to a lot of people in the club and asked for their FB. </p>

<p>I don't want to go back...because I feel like if he did told people, they might think I am weird and desperate too.</p>

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<p>I think it depends a lot on the group and the people. From what you’ve said here, I think you might be blowing it out of proportion? It sounds like you just had an awkward conversation in the library, and looking back you feel weird about it. Unless something crazy happened (the kind of thing you would tell a friend a story about), I wouldn’t worry too much. Go make friends, keep being friendly, and don’t make an issue out of this unless someone else brings it up.</p>

<p>Or if you’re really that uncomfortable, you could find another club to hang out with. I’m sure there are other interesting organizations on campus.</p>

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<p>I think there are two options here: 1) everything’s fine, you’re just feeling a bit awkward so you’re misinterpreting things, or 2) people at this club are, for whatever reason, really judgmental and have decided not to like you because of something as silly as a few awkward comments.</p>

<p>The first seems far more likely, but occasionally groups can be judgmental. I would go back one more time, at least. Be casual, bring friends, and test the waters. Hopefully you’ll find that everything is okay.</p>