<p>By the way, I'm having a very difficult time accessing this thread. I don't know if it's the website or the computer so I may not be able to respond. (It's just taking too much time to get on here.) Anyway, I really don't think this thread needs to go in this direction. The op asked about colleges and I'm adding in two considerations-- basically, I would 1- make sure housing is stable irregardless of college enrollment and 2- I would generally encourage a relationship with the dad and not move baby too far away but if relationship with dad is a bad idea, I would see if I could put legal ducks in a row before a move. </p>
<p>No one has to agree with me. Calmom, this comment: "unless posters practice law in Oregon I don't think they should be speculating on whether the father could object to the move" sounded unnecessarily condescending to me. Please do not chastise me. Calmom, we do not know if paternity has been established but even if it hasn't, from what I've seen, a judge could keep her from leaving if there's a pending case and delay her life.</p>
<p>2college, these points were brought up (by me) on page 5 of this long thread. It's not clear if the baby's dad wants involvement, nor is it clear that this family even has a support system. I absolutely agree that the baby/dad situation must be resolved. He could make things difficult for her if she moves against his will. (No, I don't practice law in any state, but you'd have to live under a rock not to be aware of these custody fights surfacing years after a baby's birth. People have changes of heart. They can be nasty & incredibly disruptive to all involved.) There really aren't enough details provided by the OP to know the situation.</p>
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Just curious-- why'd you pick a post that was written over 24 hrs and 50 posts ago to respond to??
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<p>In defense of Consolation, sometimes people who are new to the thread read the early posts and respond to them before they've read the rest of the posts. I know I've done that before. Just because most of us have been involved in this heavy discussion doesn't mean everyone has been here with us all the way thru.</p>
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sometimes people who are new to the thread read the early posts and respond to them before they've read the rest of the posts
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While I understand and agree with this statement, leal, it doesn't look like that is what happened here. Consolation wasn't new to the thread. This was Consolation's 3rd post, with the first being as far back as post # 10. And the post Consolation responded to wasn't an early post-- it was post #144. </p>
<p>Back to the OP's original question, as far back as 25+ yrs ago, UF had a lot of undergrad married students housing in on-campus apartments. I would imagine nowadays they would be open to your specific situation. It is an excellent school and the housing opportunity might work well.</p>
<p>jym626-- To answer your question, that post was the straw that broke the camel's back for me.</p>
<p>Obviously, when I made the post in question, having visited periodically and read through the thread as it expanded, I had every expectation of seeing yet more vitriol from the person in question, despite her being asked to stop many times by other people, or I would not have finally responded to her. </p>
<p>I must say I was surprised to see myself the object of your discussion, since I am far from the only person to express dismay at the tenor of some posts. I hope that you do not find the interval between your questioning of my motives and my response inappropriate, but this is the first time I have returned to the thread because my internet access has been spotty for a couple of days.</p>
<p>consolation, IMO, this
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Look, anyone can look up your earlier posts and find out that you are a 20-yr-old living at home with her parents and having issues about it.</p>
<p>I think it's about time you stopped working out your personal issues at the expense of the OP and her daughter.</p>
<p>Give it a rest.
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was extremely harsh. An ad hominem attack on whoever it was you were responding to (I forget), that seemed out of place with the tone of the conversation of the thread at that time. Maybe the time away from the computer, from spotty internet access, is a good thing. Is usually gives one time to cool off a bit.</p>
<p>Consolation,
I neglected to mention-- I didn't "pick you" as the object of a discussion. Yours just happened to be the last post that was on that thread when I went to look at it, and the post seemed out of place, given the conversation going on. So I politely asked why you chose to make that comment when it seemed that the thread had moved on, well past the vitrioloc attacks to which you refer.</p>
<p>I'm very late to this discussion, but Hillsdale College had a young lady in similar shoes to your daughter's. This young gal made such an impact in their school of education, they wrote about her in their newsletter. You might want to discuss this with Admissions there. Great advantages: excellent education w/ relatively cheap costs (for a private LAC); and very reasonable housing costs in local area. </p>