So glad it was helpful! My counselor also suggested Wesleyan – she knew a few trans people when she went there and I think it’s very Reed-y, but the surrounding area is a little more conservative. And our tour guide at Bowdoin was a nonbinary person who seemed to have no problems there (though, of course, they’re paid to seem that way).
Happy to talk more about other schools & being a trans applicant in general. Best of luck to you & your son!