Conflict with friends and a social life

Student Lounge College Life
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<p>Hello. So I'm a freshman in college and as a person I'm pretty normal and I usually get along well with people. I don't normally party or go crazy, but I do want to develop a social life, just because I like being with active and friendly people, however, I feel like I'm held down by my friends and my roommate, whom I like but they are so hateful towards people who don't think like them. My roommate can't really do anything without me and she's really messy and is kind of gross (she farts and burps a lot), I'm okay with it and I think she's sweet, but these things are what scare away people who I really wanted to be friends with. The year's just begun, but I feel like I'm slowly being fitted into a group I honestly don't share the same interests, they like to play magic cards and sci-fi stuff, meanwhile I like playing with plants, nature, having fun laughing, running around... etc.</p>

<p>I guess I just feel like they're gonna drag me down somewhere I don't want to be, as much as I love them as characters, sometimes I feel really overwhelmed and annoyed. And I just want to have a group of friends that enjoy life and don't mind doing things for the heck of it, no negativity... but I'd feel extremely selfish too if I didn't hang out with my "nerdy" friends too. I'm kind of ranting, but for me to feel this socially frustrated within 2 weeks shouldn't be something okay. Can someone help me find a good standpoint or a way I can balance academics with fun, as well keep friends and make new ones? I feel like I'm getting no where...</p>

<p>I'm sorry if I come off as pretentious, but I just feel a little bugged..</p>

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<p>One thing you will soon find out is that your roommate isn’t necessarily going to be your “friend” per se. You guys can depend on each other and help each other out with tough issues, but don’t feel like you’re compelled to hang out a lot - especially if you guys are so different. Just work on making friends that YOU like, and that share your interests. </p>

<p>Don’t alienate your current friends though, since well… they are your friends. It’s okay to hang with multiple groups and cliques.</p>

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<p>I feel like people have already found friends and stuck with them, how do I make new friends while at the same time being my free-spirited self, a lot of the people here are really into the party scene, but I’m seeking a good balance. I know that not everyone here is like that, but I’m just stuck in a hard spot I’m not normally in, thanks for the advice though. I’m gonna still stay friends with my nerdy group too</p>

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<p>you like playing with plants?</p>

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<p>^ I think it means op is 420 friendly</p>

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<p>you’ve been in college how long? just meet as many people as you can. i’m a junior and i’m living with 3 of my best guy friends but we didn’t meet until halfway through freshman year, and we didn’t really get TOO close until sophomore year. and all the while i’ve maintained acquaintances. and i love playing with plants :D</p>