conflict with hallmate?

<p>i live in a dorm, and this person down the hall from me is always very aggressive towards me. this behaviour started at the very beginning of the year, and i don't really know what sparked it, but when she first began acting out like this, i tried to smile, say hi, and stay out of her way and stuff, but i think that just made her worse. once i was walking out of the bathroom and she jabbed me in the ribs with her elbow. sometimes she slips passive-aggressive notes under my door. most of the time she just scowls at me, and since i'm rarely around her, i don't mind.</p>

<p>but recently she was verbally aggressive towards me, and now i kind of want to break her face. i have pretty much decided that the next time this happens, i'm inviting myself into her room for a good heart-to-heart. i'm also concerned for the safety of my stuff, since she seems kind of crazy.</p>

<p>does anybody know what to do in this situation?</p>

<p>Document everything and talk to your RA. Do not retaliate in any way, especially physically, as it could weaken your case.</p>

<p>how do i document it, though? i can save the notes - but short of carrying a switched on dictophone on me at all times and hoping she hits me hard enough to leave bruises, idk.</p>

<p>It sounds like she’s physically abusing you, and not just poking fun at you. If it gets worse I would talk to your RA about it.</p>

<p>Why is she doing this?</p>

<p>Just walk through the hallway with your phone out and if you see her start recording audio with it and put it in your pocket. Then you’ll have some pretty good proof.</p>

<p>Document it by writing down each incident and noting the date/time/location. If it comes down to her word against yours you will look very good to be able to recount specific incidents. Don’t exaggerate. Does anyone else notice this - anyone else commented to you about it? I would definitely talk to the RA now-that’s what they are there for.</p>

<p>Parent here. I’d talk to your RA about this situation. I would not recommend that you invite her into your room especially if she “seems kind of crazy.” Does she act this way towards everyone or just you?</p>