<p>Is it terrible... manageable? Can you even fit a fridge? Please give me all opinions. Kinda freaking out right now.</p>
<p>Don’t freak. The rooms are large enough to handle triple. I’ll talk with my daughter later and get her take on it. She had friends in South so hopefully she can offer some insight. </p>
<p>Yikes, we have been holding off on buying some things, planning on the triple.
But he ended up in martyr’s with only 1 roommate.</p>
<p>My D was placed in a triple in Queens. The room was big, and it had a huge closet, so worked out ok, but she wanted a double. She put herself on the list for a double immediately (I’m not sure what she did to put herself on the list, so I suggest that your child asks the RA on move in day) and within a month she was moved into a double. The RA and other students helped her move her things to the new room so the move to the double was quick and easy.</p>
<p>@hen4763 was she able to fit a fridge in the triple? A tv?</p>
<p>Yes, they had both fridge and tv in there. </p>
<p>Spoke with my daughter and she said the rooms are big enough that it will be fine. The only thing she mentioned that is small is the closet. She didn’t go into much detail just that it was small. </p>
<p>Triples happen. Why? Because every college is playing a guessing game on how many kids will accept their offers of acceptance. Some accept they think will go elsewhere. However, some kids will get into an Ivy off the wait list and bolt. ResLife does the best they can with the numbers that come in.</p>
<p>Also some kids will leave Fordham after the first semester due to grades or personal issues. That opens up rooms sometimes. </p>
<p>Everyone panics about triples, but then when it comes time to live in Walsh or Campbell/Salice-Conley, they are in quad apartments and its all hunky dory. </p>
<p>Some kids like triples. Most kids study in the library or a special place other than their rooms anyway. Its all good. Fear not. :-)</p>
<p>Its important to make sure they communicate with each other so that not everyone brings a fridge and everyone brings a throw carpet and everyone brings a giant lamp or mirror. </p>
<p>Definitely discuss who-brings-what, as mentioned above! It’s a good idea to see your room before making decisions on large items. Dorm rooms in general are tight for storage space. Depending on the meal plan you and your roommates have, you may not need a refrigerator or may only need a very small one. (Fridges seem to sometimes cause friction between roommates.) </p>
<p>When you decide what your room will need, it is easy to get those items. Stores are close-by. There is a TJ Max, a Best Buy and Sears across the street. Target is a short bus ride away. Plus, there is always the mail order option for those without family near. (One favorite - Ikea rugs can be shipped easily.)</p>
<p>The freshman dorms have both tv and study lounges. Studying there greatly increases the number of students you’ll meet and friends you’ll make that first year. There are many other places to study on campus - the library is open late, and many buildings have study areas. (The basement of the church, right across from Loschert/Alumni Court has one of the most stunning study areas!) Finding your own space to study also frees the dorm room for sleeping for roommates on different schedules. </p>
<p>DD just moved in yesterday to converted triple. A set of bunks and a lofted bed with drawers and desk underneath. Having the only bed on the ground, she shared her underbed storage with her bunkmate. Closet is two large ones that must be split into three. Each should get 2/3rds of a closet, but the last roommate to arrive pushed my DD stuff over and took too much space! Commented this to DD but she only smiled and said it will be handled later… Rooms in Alumni Court South do not have A/C and it was oppressive. DD brought a big fan, a small fan and a tiny desk fan that plugs into computer. No other roommate brought a fan. Building has elevators but one poor dad got stuck in the elevator, so they are iffy. Rooms are spotless, mattresses were new, DD has a real NYC view complete with a loud train under her window. She seemed excited! Biggest complaint about room besides the heat: no overhead lighting. Only main light was one over the door that takes a while to power up. Bringing a floor lamp and a nightstand lamp on next visit. Girls are shopping for a rug together. Everyone was very, very nice and I can’t wait to hear about orientation weekend fun. GO RAMS!</p>
<p>It gets cool and crispy quickly in New York so its just a week or two of late summer heat. Air conditioning not really needed, though its nice if you have it. OHare (sophomore dorm) has it. </p>
<p>Sharing space always an issue and they have to work it out. Overhead lighting has its own issues, and lamps can direct lighting better. They are available at nearby stores…and also they add color and personality to a room. Its hard to let go and let them learn on their own…but its what has to be. Embrace the independence and joie de vivre. I had to raise the helicopter up about another 10,000 feet. LOL.</p>
<p>Welcome to Fordham and hope she has a great year.</p>
<p>Welcome to Fordham!!</p>
<p>It wasn’t until I was moving my DD in today that I learned South and Loschert didn’t have AC. She told me Martyrs is the only other freshman dorm besides Queens that has AC. I’m sure your daughter will take care of the closet issue with the room mate. Some things are best left to the roomies to work out. </p>
<p>As for the trains, after a while she won’t hear them. I’m speaking from experience. I’m a native NY’r who lived near elevated trains and Metro Norh. It becomes background noise after a while and she won’t hear it.</p>
<p>Welcome to Fordham. </p>
<p>Thanks for your responses. DD has already worked out the closet issue and her schedule is finally in order. So, off she goes! She called tonight and sounded absolutely exhausted from the busy day of orientation. Her roomies also are wiped out and they all agreed to a very early night. Seems like all is well. Have to cut the cord now and wait until the end of the week for more info. Thanks for the friendly welcomes!</p>
<p>Memories…memories…fun times…we all laugh now. Back then, not so much. I was FREAKED. TOTALLY 
:(( </p>
<p>We are not New Yorkers or Northeastern people. I/we had lived in many places and in big cities. But when it comes to my kid? NOPE. Dropping her off and saying goodbye and seeing her run across Eddies…and then driving home…that long drive…hours and hours…feeling like my arm had been cut off and my stomach disgorged. Then we got frequent updates and saw some facebook postings…some of them funny and some of them OMG…on the Metro North at night with “new friends” some of them males. OMG! LOL. This from the kid who said, “no boyfriends for six months…I’m going to ward them off like vampires!” LOL.</p>
<p>Then the D train stories. Then …I had to just shut it off and let it ride. Gradually my fears subsided and we learned it was going to be okay and reminded ourselves that Fordham has more females than males on campus and that wouldnt be the case if it was a horribly unsafe school. Its not. </p>
<p>There will be drama. There will be discoveries. There will be all sorts of stuff for “kids”. But its a process…a growing up process. By Thanksgiving the stress was at fever pitch, the drama reaching crescendo and the angst about cafeteria food and exams and papers…but then they won the Queens Disputatio competition and it was seemingly going well. </p>
<p>You have to go through it to get through it, so to speak. Just know its coming and learn to roll with it. Lots of tears. Lots of fears. Lots of worries. Lots of doubts. By January we were in full fledged trouble: didnt get a 4.0, roomie issues, the flu set in…and serious health issues (not drinking…though others were doing plenty of that!) and we had to go up there twice…almost pulled her. Had “the talk” in the hotel…that moment when its fight or flight. A fabulous meal in the hotel restaurant midtown manhattan joined by the new bff and a new male interest (who is now her fiance! lol) and we reached a decision to stay and fight: first for health, then for a plan to get on track at school. That medieval french class put her over the top on anxiety…a wicked hard course. We got all her professors (except one) to work with her and by March the weather was better, the gray clouds gone, she had restored faith in herself and gotten out of a hole…it ended up fine. Not perfect, but fine…good enough (above 3.5) for honors recommendations in departments…which yielded a good class rank (in June), and some emails from professors asking her to major in THEIR departments. Its nice to be wanted. Its nice to be noticed. Its nice to be told you are special. Also, when we moved out of Queens in May, there were lots and lots of tears. Mostly relief and happy tears…that they had survived…they knew they werent going to flunk out, and they could handle it. </p>
<p>Bottom line is freshmen year is full of all sorts of excitement and unexpected twists and turns and ups and downs. Know it. Embrace it. </p>
<p>Fordham is such a wonderful experience and the four years really do go by too quickly. I wish all of you the very very best. </p>
<p>We moved my freshman into martyrs. It was not his first choice but he has a great view from his first floor window,
And air conditioning! He also has a tv mount so we could put his tv up. He brought 4 times as much stuff as his roommate but he was perfectly organized when we left, thanks goodness, because he says the schedule has been packed and he hasn’t spent a minute in his dorm. He met the ROTC guys across the hall and they introduced him to the bars. Funny way to start the year! Because he would rather be working out but he wants to be social.
Good luck to all</p>
<p>Drinking and college are like peas in a pod, a moth to a light bulb and a magnet to metal. The trick is to be responsible. I wish nobody under age was drinking. I wish the upperclassmen respected freshmen. But in many of their goofy heads, including ROTC students, seeing how many freshmen they can get hammered and to puke is a game. My advice? STAY AWAY from drinkers. If that means being unsocial and getting cat calls so be it. The rewards are many the price you pay is minimal (bruised ego and a bit of flack). Drinking causes drama. It can get you in big trouble. It WILL affect grades. </p>
<p>Being a nerd isnt much fun, but it produces the best grades. The cream rises to the top and the kids who do well first semester usually finish well and also socialize together. My kid did well (above 3.5), then slammed it the remainder of her years at Fordham. They roomed together (girls), they hung out with boyfriends (several of whom are not engaged) and they ALL finished Phi Beta Kappa. They had fun. They werent perfect saints. But they were responsible. </p>
<p>Its hard for 17/18 year olds to make decisions when there is so much peer pressure. So hang with kids like you who are academically oriented. Its a misnomer that ROTC is the cream of the crop. Some are and some arent. I admire their service to country, but that is wholly different than behavior on campus. Just a warning. </p>
<p>You can have fun without being drunk. Drinking also is very dangerous…its when kids get into trouble off Fordham Road. There are many bars who have served Fordham students for decades…watering holes. Its no different than most other colleges. Even completely dry colleges have people who drink to excess. I have heard the stories trust me. Its all about safety and grades and reputation. </p>
<p>Tell him to keep looking around. Lots of students have tons of fun without the alcohol. Why start out the year that way?</p>
<p>Not everyone goes to bars to get drunk. He told us about the bar scene because he was in shock that the drinking age is basically 18 which is much different than here.
He wanted to be social and we are supportive of him trying new things. These guys and the bar scene will not be his landing spot…</p>