<p>How should I convince my parents to let me live on campus when I attend college next year? I see myself as an independent and responsible (I have a 4.1 gpa, I stay out of trouble, I hardly ask my parents for any help or aid anymore, and etc...) person but my parents are reluctant to let me move out. I know that this might sound cliche but I want to immerse myself into the college experience and meet new unique people.
Can anyone give any advice on how to covince my parents to let me move out to go to college or at least a way to wane them down?</p>
<p>I agree that it is very important for most people to really "immerse" themselves in the college environment. It really helps you grow up. I've heard that there are many studies that show the importance of living on campus (higher GPAs, lower suicide rate, etc.), perhaps you can find a few of those studies and show them to your parents?</p>
<p>That is an excellent idea! Can you direct me to a website where I can find these studies?</p>
<p>anybody else have any suggestions?</p>
<p>google??? idk...</p>
<p>Grow a pair? Learn to communicate with your parents? Tell them what you want to do, and do it?</p>
<p>I have communicated with my parents about this subject numerous times but they always respond with the same answer. I guess I should just wait it out until spring and try to talk to them about it again and if they give the same answer I will just have to find another way.</p>
<p>The first semester is a totally different experience than the second.</p>
<p>When my son was applying to college he was really reluctant to apply to the University of Maryland because he was afraid that I was going to make him live at home instead of on campus. And I said, "No way are you living at home!" I even joked that I was going to change the locks so he wouldn't hop on the Metro with all his dirty laundry and expect me to feed him and wash his clothes. I told him that he was going to be outta here. </p>
<p>Part of being a successful student is making decisions for yourself, getting youself to class on time without your mother telling you to go, getting your own laundry done, feeding yourself, and so on.</p>
<p>Part of being a successful parent is letting go.</p>
<p>My son didn't go to the University of Maryland and, ironically with respect to your situation, his roomate's parents lived about five miles from the campus. His roommmate really didn't go home that often.</p>
<p>What reasons have your parents given? Are you the oldest and the first to leave? Are you the first in your family to go to college and your parents have no experience with college life? Are you an only child and it will be an empty nest when you are gone? Some more info might help.</p>
<p>If it's a financial concern, perhaps you can find a way to help pay for the cost of the room and board. You can mention that with the cost of gas/insurance/car maintenance, it may not amount to such a big difference. Maybe the school can help you find a job on campus; see if there's a student employment office. It is very important for you to live on campus, especially during the first semester/year. Maybe if you can approach them on a year-by-year basis, it won't seem so overwhelming. Have a talk during a quiet, less-stressful time. Let us know how it goes!</p>
<p>LWMD: I am an only child so they don't have experience with sending kids to college. They weren't born in the United States so when they came here they went to community college (that's how they met each other) then transferred to a University. The schools they went to were not far so they lived at home with their parents. I guess not having experience living on campus they are uncertain to let me go.</p>
<p>franglish: I have already talked to them about how I could get a job on campus and help out on the finances of room and board but they said it is not about the money but they still won't give me a real reason.</p>
<p>I would put less emphasis on the whole "immersion into the college environment" idea and more on taking on personal responsibility. It's part of growing up.</p>
<p>You make it sound like it's a done deal that you are going to the local college. I hope you have more than one college on your list.</p>