<p>“Ya, totally agree with peter_parker’s #4. It’s not like fatties are actual people, that is just liberal propaganda-like muppets or Jesus.”</p>
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<p>It’s disturbing that most guys think of girls as fish to be caught or some kind of prize you win with tricks or playing ‘the game’. I never said ask women; most women are terrible at giving advice. I think, however, using your damn common sense might help. I never asked any woman OR man for boy advice and I seem to be pretty popular, so either I’m a relationships genius (bzzt, wrong) or someone who just uses their head and doesn’t obsess over their dating life on a college internet forum.</p>
<p>There aren’t even tricks, for god’s sake. Shower, wear something that shows you don’t get all your clothes from Goodwill, use your manners, and get some self-confidence. Worrying that something you did ticked her off? Ask. </p>
<p>Problem solved, and I think I’ve made my point on this thread. Happy moping?</p>
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thank you!!</p>
<p>Best advice here (even though this is common sense): don’t try to get a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend. If there is someone you are genuinely interested in, then take the time to make something of it.</p>
<p>You don’t have to date fat chicks. Be realistic, date girls in your league.</p>
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<p>I have to back peter here. First off, you aren’t even acknowledging how much more difficult it is to date as a guy. Ofcourse chicks don’t need advice; they just have to look hot. There aren’t tricks, but there are guidelines, many of which people don’t understand. Doing all of the things you mentioned will not help you if you don’t escalate a relationship with a chick into a sexual one (not talking about sex, either).</p>
<p>First of all, the fish metaphor was simply that: a metaphor. A salesman might use the same analogy it doesn’t mean he thinks people are fish at some moral or value level.</p>
<p>Secondly, your lack of self-awareness is hilarious.</p>
<p>Why are you popular with boys as a woman?</p>
<p>A. You are a relationship genius.</p>
<p>B. You use your head, i.e. “common sense.”</p>
<p>C. You have a pretty face, slim waist, and a nice pair of tits. In other words, your face and body are physically attractive so guys (who are more desperate on the whole) will put up with all kinds of your b.s. and abrasive personality in hopes to score with you or more likely just bask in your attention and validation b/c they don’t think they have a shot with you. This was not earned through hard work or intelligence whatsoever.</p>
<p>Girls just stand there and look hot. And most are passive most of the time anyway (cue a bunch of girls telling me all the “moves” they make that are so subtle and timid they are virtually invisible).</p>
<p>We’re just telling the guy to get out there and start making some moves. Which is great advice for a guy. You’re telling him to chase chubbies because it’s all he can get? I should just tell you that you should just give up and become a garbage man because finding a career is too hard.</p>
<p>son you needa jus take it from step 1 learn how to speak to girls lmao go freshen up, get a haircut, shave or somethin since it seem like you dont get out much [ i aint tryna be mean or nothin but just how tellin you like it is ], go to the mall or somethin with a friend & look around for some chick you think is pretty and be like excuse me i actualy have to run but i just thought you were real pretty … whats your name ?? SHE ANSWERS, introduce yaself, then be like nice to meet you you got a facebook or anything [ every1 does ] and if she say yeah then be like alright well ima hit you up on facebook or somethin smile and jus be like take care WALK AWAY</p>
<p>… im serious though some of you overanalyze like craaaaaaaaaaaaazy how you gota act when you wana meet a girl… actin like theres some kind of formula a^2 + B^2 = C^2 lol all you gota do is be straight up, simple to the point it aint that hard</p>
<p>Hook up with a fat chick just to gain some type of dating experience. At least make it a kinda chubby girl who is somewhat cute and you can get along with to some level. Then after you’re done with her you can move on to the next chick, and eventually you can ask out the type of really hot girl you have always wanted to hook up with. It worked for me this way. </p>
<p>I agree with the others that you should go work out to start feeling good, get a good hair cut, shave your facial hair or at least manage it, start dressing nice, etc. The way guys like when a girl looks sexy is the same way girls like when a guy looks sexy. Once you have established a good look you can change it up a bit more, but for now just focus on trying to find a look that makes you look sexiest. </p>
<p>All while hooking up with with fat or unattractive chicks who you will eventually realize you can do better than. </p>
<p>But being that you are entering your senior year, there isn’t much time left as you only have a year or so left until college is over. Perhaps graduate and return to take additional classes for graduate school, giving you more time to fish around for undergraduate girls? This issue should have been addressed a lot earlier. At least being able to tell a girl you are an engineer will impress, but it’s worthless if you don’t know how to present yourself.</p>
<p>^ did you really just suggest for him to go to graduate school just to chase girls?</p>
<p>the whole notion of work your way up from fat girls is pretty funny. fat girls are still women, they’re not practice people for you to use to gain confidence. i can’t wait until someone takes this advice and gets rejected by a fat girl.</p>
<p>what you should do is ask one of your friends to dinner just so you can get comfortable with the idea of a date. once you’re used to it just build up the courage to ask someone you find attractive.</p>
<p>No, I meant that if he is thinking of going to graduate school (he doesn’t have to because he is an engineer, but he could to enter the industry at a higher level), he could go back to undergrad school to take or re-take classes to get into graduate school while having more chances to hook up with undergraduate girls. Since he’s an engineer, he doesn’t have to go to graduate school at all, so he would miss out on the experience of hooking up with girls in college.</p>
<p>Here is what not to do:</p>
<p>I’m reading comic books on my laptop because I am cool like that. This guy sitting two seats away from me is leaning over an empty seat to look at my screen (creeper alert). I pretend not to notice him though he is kinda freaking me out. He has a Stalin mustache, btw. CREEPY. The next day he is sitting near me again even though I had moved back a row (UGH) and he decides to try to talk to me about comics.</p>
<p>“So you like comics?”</p>
<p>(no sh–) “Yeah…”</p>
<p>“I stopped liking comics because I realized the same characters appear over and over indefinitely.”</p>
<p>“…” (■■■) What the hell?!</p>
<p>Also, he sounded like Kermit and was staring straight ahead the entire time he was talking to me.</p>
<p>I moved to the very back of the room and plan on staying there.</p>
<p>Just FYI, I am not fat. Haha.</p>
<p>update:</p>
<p>okay, so my friend asked me to go mini golfing with a girl he met and her friend. The girl was pretty but the friend was fat…like really fat. </p>
<p>So i tried talking to her as advised by you guys. </p>
<p>But i’m not very attracted to her, at all. It feels like dreadful work more than fun.
Is this what talking to girls is supposed to be like? Cause the experience was much more painful than talking to (slimmer) prettier girls in my class.</p>
<p>^ Yay you talked to a girl!!
I’m not a guy, but I’m pretty sure that “dreadful work” and “painful” is not the normal feeling one gets when talking to girls…
Keep looking.</p>
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<p>You spoke with her only because she was fat? That sounds wrong on so many levels.</p>
<p>i didn’t speak to her just cause she was fat. My friend brought me and his friend brought her and she just happended to be obese.</p>
<p>what the f*!# ??!!?
the argument on the last page so reminded me of the new movie coming out, the ugly truth.</p>
<p>Just wait OP. Once you’re making 70k a year from your EE degree right out of school, you won’t have any problems.</p>
<p>having a girlfriend would be pretty nice.</p>
<p>i just finished freshman year, and i messed around with quite a few girls at my school. it leaves something more to desired. even though i say this, ill probably be back to my old ways next year =)</p>
<p>nonetheless, just dress sharp and groom yourself. it goes a long way in terms of confidence, which you’ll need with most college girls.</p>
<p>“You sound extremely intelligent and hard-working, which is fantastic and something to be proud of.”</p>
<p>are you sure girls like guys who are hard working? I think my hard working is partly why girls don’t talk to me. I’m spending too much time doing homework. But if i had to choose it again, i would. I care more about school than getting a girlfriend. </p>
<p>“Just wait OP. Once you’re making 70k a year from your EE degree right out of school, you won’t have any problems.”</p>
<p>Yeah…assuming I get a job i guess that will be true. But i don’t want a girl who just wants money either.</p>
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Ok, girls definitely are more passive and guys usually make the first move, I’ll give you that - but think of it this way: for the girl, it really comes down to looks, which a guy can make up for by other things (being smart, funny, charming, good personality, money, etc). But if you’re a college girl and ugly/below average in looks, you’re screwed. Having a good personality earns you friends, it’s doesn’t magically make you hot in the eyes of young college guys. A girl can control her weight, but no amount of makeup can make up for being genuinally ugly.
Well there’s a difference between being hardworking and living in the library not having a life. My boyfriend is a hard worker and I work hard too, we both take difficult classes and have jobs, but we have lives and make time to see each other. You don’t need a 3.8+ GPA, you can get good grades and still have time for a girlfriend. I know someone doing Engineering (mechanical, I don’t know if that makes a difference) and he definitely hooks up with girls. You might be dedicating too much time to school and maybe need to relax more?</p>
<p>If he’s making 70k per year, and looks professional with sharp dress style, slick hair style, $1,000 watch, and brand new sports sedan to show for it, that would make a difference with getting girls. But if he doesn’t actually look the part, then it won’t help him get girls no matter how much money he’s making.</p>
<p>So how are you holding yourself up anyways?</p>