<p>I originally posted this in the parents forum and got some good advice and would now like some advice from college students. :) Anyways, here's my dilemma. Im a current college freshman and because of some bad family issues (don't wanna go into for privacy) I've developed an irrational fear of women. Every time I meet a girl, even in a friendly situation and in public (i.e. lunch) and even if other guys are present, I tense up and act like Neo acts in the matrix when he's facing agent smith. I just get a feeling of dread all over me and am so socailly crippled its painful. Because of past experience, its hard for me not to believe that women don't only care about money, hate men, and are willing to ruin a man's life just for enjoyment. I am less afraid of asian girls probably because on a subconscious level, my mind equates them as being different from my family members. My area has few ppl of other races. Also, reading articles online about how the USA is now a manhating country where women can accuse men of anything and the man goes to jail, loses everything, etc. is certainly not helping. I don't hate women and I know many are good, but I am just afraid of them and its seriously hurting my social welfare with both genders at college. Please don't be offended. I don't want to feel this way. I just do.</p>
<p>More social interaction.</p>
<p>Maybe you should talk to a therapist/psychologist about this? It sounds like it’s adversely affecting your life to a high degree. You’ve recognized that there’s a problem, but unless you’re willing to actively try and fix it, I don’t think that it will just go away.</p>
<p>disregard females, acquire currency. words of wisdom</p>
<p>^ Otherwise known as “There are two things that don’t mix: Women and Getting Better.”</p>
<p>But in all seriousness, you should talk to someone about it. Women are much better at emotional abuse than men, and the very very few who choose to use this for malicious means are very effective. Even if the therapist/counselor/friend can’t help you completely, it’s only going to take one nice, non-crazy girl to get you out of this.</p>
<p>What’s the worst a girl is going to do to you?</p>
<p>Call you names or reject you?</p>
<p>Most of us don’t bite.</p>
<p>Newton had nothing to do with the opposite sex and lived a full and enjoyable life. You can do the same.</p>
<p>Yeah you might wanna talk to a therapist if you’re getting severe anxiety talking to women.</p>
<p>That said, you just gotta talk. Realize they’re basically guys but with breasts and no *****. Now obviously you shouldn’t just start talking to them like you do with your guy friends, but you shouldn’t act like you’re talking to some sort of goddess. </p>
<p>It can be hard, I know, but often times as long as you get the first words out, the rest come out easily. Hell today I finally had a perfect chance to talk to this cute girl in my health class, and I took it. Now I know her name, have established some sort of rapport, and I plan on talking to her again next class and probably suggesting we get some coffee. You just gotta try man. As I posted in the inspiring quotes thread, “who dares wins.”</p>