<p>So glad you had a good talk & cleared the air among yourselves. I hope the structure will work out well and help your daughter succeed. Big cities can offer a LOT of distractions as well as amazing opportunities–for good and bad.</p>
<p>I’m glad you spoke and are all came to a comfortable solution. Please, hope for the best but plan for the worst, just in case. Keep your eyes and ears open.</p>
<p>Wishing you all a wonderful year!</p>
<p>Glad you were able to talk. I wish you and your daughter the best. I know you’ll be vigilant.</p>
<p>I just read this thread and I want to wish your family all the best. This is a difficult and painful time.</p>
<p>I think you have a good plan, Mom876 Only you know your d best. In spite of this past summer, she did have a successful first year at school. Some people would need to spend a semester or two at home to get back on track, but others might find being pulled back to live at home hard to move forward from. Its all about knowing your own child</p>
<p>Wow, thank you everyone who complemented me on my posts.</p>
<p>I am really glad to hear that you and your daughter came to a good compromise, Mom876. I wish you guys the best and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.</p>
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<p>It is great to hear your d is going back on track.</p>
<p>Have her look at the Pace placement office, there are many Wall Street jobs/interns opportunities. Lots of Pace Alums work on “the street”. I was able to work 25+ hours a week and get $6/hr while the minimum wage was only $2.25…Located in Lower Manhattan by itself presents a great opportunity, don’t lose it.</p>
<p>In addition, if she is an accounting major, the “Big 4” require 3.5 gpa from Pace to get in, so she should work on the grades as well. I had 10 wonderful years with KPMG, just let you know.</p>
<p>I am nervous here. Having some remorse and a plan are terrific – but having some variation of “trust but verify” in place might keep D on the productive path. I hope you will tell her that you plan to stop in, unannounced, on several occasions in the next two semesters. Whether or not you do is up to you – but I’d want her thinking that you could be leaning on the doorbell at any time. It could help give her the resolve to turn down certain invitations . . .</p>
<p>I would turn on the GPS feature on her phone - but that’s just me.</p>
<p>Actually, it might be even more effective if not only you but others you trust have an open invitation to drop in unannounced to D (loved ones who are in or happen to stop by NYC). It would be especially effective if at least a few visits are made, offering to take your D out for a meal or snack and providing support for her to stick with the new plan.</p>
<p>Good luck–“In God/Allah/Buddah/The GREAT ONE we trust, but all others must pay cash,” type of situation.</p>
<p>I hope it all works out in the best possible way for you and your D. You sound like a loving mother. I hope your daughter appreciates you.</p>
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<p>Oldfort, you slay me!!</p>
<p>I’m with Olymom, also…trust by verify (discreetly). I’d definitely keep one eye wide open for inconsistencies and try to nip any backsliding in the nub.</p>