<p>Okay, so basically, I do not like the sorority that I am apart involved in. I do not like this sorority because after giving it long and careful thought I realized that I am wasting my true potential in this group. I realized that I have so much more to offer and instead of this group boosting me to become a better person it is actually holding me back from the person that I want to become. What I mean by this is, I love to do community service and big projects that help in a really huge way. But this group is just content with doing standard "car washes" and "bake sales" and think that it's going to get the job done right. Any opportunity that is available to better ourselves is just met with a "It's too much work" or "we don't have the money to do that" To me, they look like the sorority who just does the bare minimum to keep our letters on campus. </p>
<p>Recently, our sorority went through a huge transition and many of the members were eliminated (Okay, too harsh a word--disaffiliated). That left 3 of us. 3. Some people came back and as of right now the total is 5. I wanted to start this New Year off right. I wanted to find inner happiness and peace and stop torturing myself so I think I am going to disaffiliate from my sorority. I am transferring to another University that is in a different county (By the way, I live up North) and one that I believe is much better for me. With a much better view of how recruitment works I believe I would be able to make the right decision the second time. </p>
<p>I'm a first generation college student as well as a first generation American. So there were no relatives or siblings to really "school" me about college much less Greek Life. Do forgive me, but I had thought that all sororities were the same. Exclusive sisterhoods that all had their place on campus and were the elites of the school. I just thought some were liked more than others. Also, I didn't have that many to choose from. With only 4 sororities on the campus it was very easy to narrow your choices. Sorority A was the most prized sorority, but their reputation wasn't one that I was looking for. They have a universal nickname, but I won't reveal that on here. Sorority B was the runner-up but their reputation was questionable as well. All the guys liked them, for obvious reasons. Sorority C was new on campus but when they were a local group I had been rejected from them twice. They were all too different and my personality could not match up with their medley of personalities. Plus, because they were new they were taking anyone who had put them down on their Bid Card. They grew from 30 to 50! And then Sorority D the one that I joined appeared wonderful on the outside: Sweet, charming girls that cared about who you were and what you were about, those who didn't have to make you feel like you had to be anyone in particular to join, etc. When I joined that all changed: Girls were stealing other girl's boyfriends, pledge classes against pledge classes, lazy sisters who did not want to make the effort to do anything on campus, and active sisters who were like 26, yes 26 who thought that they could talk to us anyway that they could!</p>
<p>So you're probably thinking what made me actually want to leave, huh? Well, there was an entire pledge class that was on the executive board (loads of fun) and it had leaked that they were discussing how useless and worthless the outside members (those that weren't on the executive board) were. We, and I quote, "Didn't contribute anything to the sorority"......... I didn't contribute anything after I had made sure that our group was included in Greek Events, after I made sure that our group got representation through our school, got representation throughout the entire city, put our picture in the paper, and finally put someone on the Greek Council after 3 years, I DIDN'T CONTRIBUTE ANYTHING??!!?? My fellow Greeks, PLEASE tell me that I am not in the wrong for feeling the way that I am feeling right now!!</p>
<p>I know that this post is very, very long and I thank you if you have reached this far. What I need your help with is: Do you think I should be allowed to rush at my new university if I were to disaffiliate from this one? This organization is not local, but it is NOT a member of the NPC, NPHC, or any of the groups in the multicultural council, like Sigma Lambda Gamma and such. It's a stand-alone sorority that has a national board, but no kind of elite board/council/conference. </p>
<p>I want a second chance. A chance at a better sisterhood and a chance to have better networks and resources once I graduate. Do you think I still have a chance? Any advice of any kind would help me tremendously. Thank you! :)</p>
I don’t think he knows the entire situation, but I think my case would be more acceptable if I were talking to a woman. What do you think?</p>