Dealing with relationships for the first time in college?

<p>So here's the deal, I have zero experience with relationships since I just did not care about that kind of stuff in high school and wasn't really comfortable with the people around me, but now that I'm in college and thrown into a different environment where I've learned so much and met so many different, amazing people, I think that in my group of friends, I may be starting to fall for someone. And I haven't realized until now how naive I've been about relationships.</p>

<p>It's kind of weird (for me at least) because I've seriously never felt so strongly about someone like this until now, and it's so amazing yet confusing at the same time. It's nice because there are times where all I really want is to just be next to him and see him smile/laugh, and there are also times where I feel that it just won't work out in the end even if we did get into a relationship because our personalities may be a little too opposites (thought to be honest, there are times where I've felt like we had the same unique habits/ways of expressing ourselves and we both can still talk to each other without it being too awkward, sooooo I'm not sure?).</p>

<p>People have told me to just straight-up ask him, but after hearing some conversations about relationships with our group of friends, he's hinted at stuff like how it'll feel too awkward in the end for both parties if the relationship doesn't work out in the end and it'll never be the same ever again, how you need to hint it out to someone that you like them before asking, and etc. The way he talked in those conversations he sounded like he would be caught too off guard if someone asked him out out in the blue and that a relationship would work better if the two people were best friends (and though I wouldn't say we're "best friends", we are definitely "close friends"). I've thought about doing the hinting out part, but the problem is, I'm not sure how to do it in a way where most of our actions would be considered "close friends" rather than "Hey I kinda like you, wanna go out?". Like the asking him out for dinner example, I can't exactly do that because ALL of our friends do that to each other just because we don't like eating alone. And I'm worried about doing small stuff like putting my head on his shoulder because he is a bit of a reserved person and I don't want to invade his personal space or be too touchy-feely if he's going to be uncomfortable with it.</p>

<p>Anybody have some words of advice for me about what to do really? All this is so perplexing that sometimes I feel like dealing with falling for someone is harder than all my midterms combined haha!</p>

<p>Re read your post.
The guy is telling you…
Don’t ask him out with a blindside invitation.
He wants to be best friends with his future gf.
He is reserved and you plopping your head on his shoulder is an invasion of his personal space.
No PDA.</p>

<p>How do you know he even wants a relationship?
You have the crush, not him.</p>

<p>IMHO, if it hasn’t happened by now then you aren’t the girl or he doesn’t want to be in a relationship now.
Guys are pretty decisive about whether the girl is in the friend zone or not.</p>

<p>It sounds like neither of you have the slightest idea what you’re doing.</p>

<p>You should probably first determine whether he feels the same way about you before worrying about a relationship. You can either a) tell him explicitly how you feel or b) flirt with him and hint at it. Try inviting him (just him) over to watch a movie or something; that alone should be enough for most guys.</p>

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<p>seriously. if he doesn’t get it after that then he’s either obtuse or gay.</p>

<p>Post is too vague but it seems you’re falling for him and he hasnt asked you out yet though. So considering you have very little experience remember this: you are not in love. Youll learn soon enough this is just infatuation. Anyhow, he seems to have hinted not to ask him out because hes scared of it falling apart or some ish. Anyhow, this is really dumb since some trash guys like to put off the perspective of being the ‘nice, nerdy, friendly guy who is considering a deep intimate relationship’ but Ive been there before and been that guy and I can see straight through it and what I see inside is a guy who just wants to get it in with a hot girl so is using emotional things to his advantage since girls are much more emotional. I mean come on this is college. So… dont take it too seriously and just do your own thing. Dont ‘wait for him’ Just do your own thing. hang out with him if he wants to but just keep it normal. Dont think youre in love because you most likely aren’t yet unless you know the guy for a real long time and stuff. But really in college, things are pretty shallow until you face the real world when you graduate, thats when you can take things serious. Otherwise, you’ll end up hurting yourself more</p>