<p>Can off-campus police arrest the roomates for harrassment/drugs?</p>
<p>Also, can these morons ever be accepted to another school or will they have to work at McDonald's forever? It's wrong to say this, but I think it would be funny if no other school EVER accepted them. It's their own fault anyway.</p>
<p>jam23, I am so happy to learn that they have given you new permanent housing. I am surprised these two clowns haven't been put out of the school yet. I personally think it is best for you to refuse mediation at this point as your biggest concern was housing, and since you now have a new room, I see no need for you to have to face them again. It's so unfair that they are the ones who committed the crimes, yet you are the one who is being intimidated. It's not as if you want to be friendly with these folks again, so you may as well leave the ties severed. Do not get rid of any of the pictures you took of your damaged belongings nor the note that was left with your key. My advice would be to have a report on file with your campus police as well as the area police. Should you ever experience any trouble with these guys again, you will have documentation of the prior harrassment. Good luck and stay safe!!!</p>
<p>Dear Jam,</p>
<p>So relieved and happy that you're safe in a new room, leaving the louts behind. I'm in agreement with other posters. Save the documentation. Avoid mediation. (What's the point?) Concentrate on finals. Pat yourself on the back for having weathered a very difficult, stressful situation.</p>
<p>Yay!</p>
<p>Jam; Great job negotiating a difficult situation. Be SURE to send notes of thanks to Deans, Housing Staff (as inept as they are, they do have control over your housing for next year, LOL) and most importantly, your parents.</p>
<p>Don't share the info about the uni if you don't want to. There is no need to spread negative press. It could come back to haunt you in ways you cannot imagine. It's shameful that CC posters are digging for that info.</p>
<p>If you really feel physically threatened by a meeting with the bullies, then by all means, skip the mediation. I believe the Housing Office is simply trying to gather evidence against the two to thrwo them out of the dorms? Protecting other students? You might ask them if that is the case and consdier a private interview? Your choice. I realize that it is enough drama already and you have finals to think about. If anything, you can beg off by telling the Housing office you might consider it next year. I certainly don't think you should 'hide' from these guys. </p>
<p>Now, get to the library and make sure this incident and those two clowns don't leave an imprint on your record. A great finish would be the sweetest revenge.</p>
<p>How is it shameful to want to know whether I'm sending my own son to a school where the housing office treats its students this way if they run into a threatening situation?</p>
<p>Jam,
glad to hear it's resolved!</p>
<p>Hi everyone,</p>
<p>Just wanted to say thanks one more time for your help and support. I finished moving all of my stuff into the new room, and hopefully, this ordeal will be over. I told my building director this morning that I had no desire to do any mediation with my former roommates, and my parents have called several times to tell him that they will not allow me to do so. The building director and area director (his boss) have asked me to come in for a meeting next Tuesday...they say to "discuss the situation" which seems odd to me because it all seems resolved now, but I am guessing that they will try to pressure me into a roommate meeting to provide "closure," as they said.</p>
<p>To the posters wanting to know what school I go to, I have no problem sharing, but I also wanted to emphasize just how helpful and effective everyone was OUTSIDE of Housing was. I think its important to realize, no matter what school you're talking about, that the Housing dept is always going to be less than stellar, and so if something needs to be done, the place to go is straight to the Dean. </p>
<p>I hope that my experience will help someone in the future who is in a similar situation get out ASAP. A friend of mine who had housing difficulties this year and I are going to create some type of "support group" for freshmen to go to next year when they have roommate problems. The good thing about me going through all of this is that I will make sure that no one else ever is kept in a situation where they feel unsafe in their room again.</p>
<p>Thanks so much everyone</p>
<p>Wow--you are just terrific! And your willingness to share not only your information but especially your newly acquired expertise will possibly help many people. </p>
<p>I have to add that, while it is anyone's private decision NOT to share such a bit of information, I liken it to being unwilling to tell someone who the doctor was who botched one's surgery.</p>
<p>Jam,
Way to persevere!
Best of luck on you end of semester exams, papers and projects.</p>
<p>Well said, Jam.</p>
<p>I just read this entire thread and I am shocked!! To read how some thugs threatened another student and forced him out of his room shocks me. We've been living overseas for a long time and my oldest D is about to apply to colleges next fall - she would be totally unprepared for something like this. I am glad everything seems to have worked out for you Jam.</p>
<p>Jam:</p>
<p>Good for you. But I think that the interview with the Housing Office (without roommate) is an opportunity to lay your evidence out and to make your case that in case of harassment, mediation is not the appropriate remedy and that you hope that in the future, the Housing Office will put safety concerns first. That would be closure for all concerned.<br>
I hope you get to enjoy the rest of the term. I'm glad you like the rest of your experience at this university.</p>