<p>determining if gay is "right" means that i have to judge someone else's life. am i qualified for that? are you, bigfoot? i hope you judge yourself the same way you look at others.</p>
<p>Bigfoot, i.e. Sasquatch, was a myth, I think. The only pictures they ever took were grainy and some looked very much like a person dressed in a gorilla suit. It doesn't stop people from going in search of more Bigfoot pictures.</p>
<p>The thing is biggestfoot, your story keeps changing.<br>
First you were accepted at Andover and WL at Deerfield. And asked someone "want to swap?" That doesn't sound like someone who never intended to go to Deerfield.
Next, you say you were got a "top 25" WL at Andover.<br>
First you get full FA at Mercersburg, then you applied without FA, then you got a full Merit Scholarship.</p>
<p>I think Financial Aid could reasonably be described as the best kind of affirmative action. Why be too proud to accept one and not the other?</p>
<p>As I said before, one is money that someone else may need. One is earned.</p>
<p>In a way, fa can be "earned" as well. If you look at the school websites, many of them state that the amount of fa aid available is limited and will be given to the student who can bring the most to the table in terms of academics, athletics, musical talent, DIVERSITY, etc.</p>
<p>The Regent Scholarships at Mercersburg, which I think is what you are talking about, are limited to 4 per year. As such, someone else may need them.</p>
<p>All the same, really, you just feel better about one than the other.</p>
<p>BiggestFoot: Please don't misuse my arguments to support your statements. And the original point of THIS thread was to discuss an incident at a boarding school that targeted a certain group of students. Others chose to make it a thread about whether or not being gay is "right." Frankly, I don't need your judgment or approval. I don't judge whether being a Native American is "right." It happens to be something you were born with, and most scientific studies show that being LGBT is also something that people are born with. Do you really think that most people would "choose" to go through life being victims of intolerance and hatred? To be shouted at on streets? To be beaten up and killed? Merely for expressing love for another person?</p>
<p>And I am glad others have taken the time to go through your posts and point out the inconsistencies. I have been meaning to do it myself for a couple of weeks.</p>
<p>Also, I am happy to report after our visit today that Andover seemed very welcoming to LGBT issues.</p>
<p>BrooklynGuy:</p>
<p>I'm assuming you're not going to judge me as being immoral for being attracted to people of a totally different gender...</p>
<p>If I'm correct in making that assumption, I appreciate your openminded attitude towards the hetero community!</p>
<p>Of all the problems the world faces today, I just don't see this as being something worth the time debating. The debate itself is too affirming of intolerance or the authoritativeness of the Bible on this subject. We wouldn't be debating intimate relationships based on differences of religion, race, nationality, ethnic origin, lactose intolerance, freckles, handedness, etc., so this should just be dropped as quickly as all those other absurd debates if someone were to posit that they are immoral.</p>
<p>Even among Christians, the debate is nothing other than a distraction from other, more pervasive human interactions that Jesus actually thought were important enough to address: such as our struggle with avarice, our propensity to make war, how to extend compassion to the poor and infirm. These and other challenges are so difficult for some Christians to confront personally that changing the subject to point fingers at others is a temptation that cannot be resisted. I think he had something to say about that, too.</p>
<p>D'yer, Nicely said.</p>
<p>MORE IMPORTANTLY, and somewhat a change of the topic.</p>
<p>These kids are 13 - 18 years of age. I get perhaps the wrong impression from the girl from Deerfield that her roommate is her girlfriend. If she were straight, we would all be up in arms (I think) if she was rooming with her boyfriend. I do not think that a child in high school should be rooming with their "significant other" no matter if they are straight or gay. Am I the only one whom this bothers?</p>
<p>Princess'Dad: I didn't get that impression from the Deerfield student's post. I got the impression that she was referring to faculty members, not students. However, I don't think that teenagers should be rooming with significant others. Distraction from school work, relationships don't often last, not fair to others, etc.</p>
<p>seej.a.k.run,
So, Is your roommate your significant other?
thanks</p>
<p>Big-----ot,</p>
<p>Here is a link to the <a href="http://www.thacher.org/%5B/url%5D">http://www.thacher.org/</a> boarding school you claim most recently to have accepted you. I thought you might like to verify how the name is spelled, since as of yesterday you still seem not to know. Is it spelled correctly on your acceptance letter?</p>
<p>California? Should meet your criteria, God only knows that there are no gay people in California.</p>
<p>LOL elio
Bigfoot, drop it. Please. You're NEVER going o change our minds. The only thing that this "Debate" is doing is causing lots of tension between you, me and a lot of other board members.
Everything you're saying is discontenting me more and more. I don't want to lose respect for you because of this, and I'm coming dangerously close to doing just that.
We don't agree with you.
You don't agree with us.
THE END</p>
<p>a. I do not have a roommate. like nearly all students at da, I live in a single. brooklynguy is correct, i was referring to faculty members living with their spouses.
"we have several out female faculty living happily with their partners"
visitation rules for same-sex student couples are the same as they are for hetero couples (granted same-sex relationships are a bit more complicated as the school is not always aware of the situation and cannot enforce those rules if the relationship is not out and open to the community). </p>
<p>b.biggestfoot, the names of students who were admitted or denied acceptance to the academy is public knowledge and the deans have no responsibility to keep them a secret. i've gotten no information that would imply that you are expected for a second visit day, but we'll look for you. </p>
<p>c. amen dazzlezz</p>
<p>lol, let's hope it works!</p>
<p>Well,
I did not see you seej on Monday. Had a great visit (Ms Curtis stopped by) and discussed the gay situation. Was told that any gay student living or closed door with a significant other would face same suspension as straight student. Went to baseball game that evening. Got a 24 hour response question and told Ms Gimbel: "thanks, but I was happy with Villanova. My impression is that administration is much more liberal than trustees would like.</p>
<p>Andover was also interesting. Ice cream, classes and again baseball (lots of baseball). Again too liberal for my liking. Much more liberal than above.</p>
<p>Glad I re-looked. But, think that America's downfall is sliding down to these schools.</p>
<p>BF, you had to drop some names in order to make us believe you actually revisited DA on Monday. I, for one, don't believe you for a minute.</p>
<p>Yes, by the way, it's DR. Curtis.<br>
I'm with you PlanetFan.</p>
<p>He wouldn't make that kind of slip-up with Andover....</p>