Did I get Played? How should I/ should have reacted?

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<p>So i'm at the local student bar last night. I've had acouple of drinks, but not too drunk. So i'm standing at the bar and trying to get the bartender's attention. Being a guy of course is much harder to get a bartender's attention. So I pull out a $10 to try to get a drink. 2 very attractive girls approach and stand next to me at bar. One of them, she's gorgeous by the way, grabs my money. Intially i'm like oh am I getting robbed and she turns to me. She says "what do you want to drink?" and I say rum and coke. She leans over bar holding money and of course bartender walks over takes money gives her my drink. I then proceed to buy her a drink. We start talking, she was cool. She then pulls me close and I was like oh sweet make out session. I mean our faces are very close and she goes "Have a good night". So of course now I'm dealing with a male situation so I walk away. </p>

<pre><code> So my question is did I get played last night? I mean i'm a good looking guy so i've talked to girls before, but never had this happen. If I did get played, why did she do that? Or is it a situation I just misread?
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<p>You can’t just buy a girl a drink out of the goodness of your heart? Seriously though, she might remember you if you see her at that bar again.</p>

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<p>That’s kind of just part of the college bar scene. A lot of people have anonymous make out sessions in clubs/bars. </p>

<p>It can be kinda gross, but hey, whatever.</p>

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<p>She got you a drink and she got you to buy one for her. Transaction ended. So far.</p>

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<p>You didn’t get COMPLETELY played seeing as she did do you the favor of helping you get your drink, but it sounds like you either got sort of played or (and this seems more likely) after talking to you for a little bit she realized she wasn’t interested in you. Whose idea was buying the drink for her, yours or hers?</p>

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<p>My guess is either that after talking to you she decided she wasn’t that interested, or you didn’t make a move that she was waiting for you to make. I can’t imagine there are very many girls so desperate for a drink that they’re going to “play” you for ONE. While that’s possible it’s unlikely enough that that is not the conclusion I would jump to. It’s not like she was off to get drunk on your dime, it was one drink.</p>

<p>And, frankly, a drink is a drink. You should not get into the habit of reading any more into it than that. Did you enjoy having a drink with her? In my opinion, if the answer is “yes” then you did not get played. Nobody is obligated to do anything more than have a drink with you if you buy them a drink.</p>

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<p>Sounds like a fun girl with some sense and self respect! You did not get played! She expedited your drink purchase (or perhaps totaly made it happen). YOU decided to buy her a drink - end of exchange so why think you are going to get a make out session? Maybe if you run into her again - buy her another drink and have another conversation - treat her like a lady if you have the luck to run into her again.</p>

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<p>not every girl you talk to in a bar is going to let you in their pants</p>