<p>I'm not the pick up artist type, and most of my friends aren't either. I know people hit on each other outside parties and bars, but for some reason, I never see it. The ones I have seen were desperate people who probably creeped the girl out. Maybe I just need to get out more.</p>
<p>But suppose you're in a situation where a beautiful girl looks at you and smiles at you. You want to go talk to her because she's hot. But then you realize you're not as charming as you imagine, and there's a thousand to one scenarios where you see yourself coming out of that situation a jackass in front of a group of people, as oppose to a 'winner.' This happens to me every so often, where my senses hold me back like a leash.</p>
<p>I don't have a lot of experience with relationships, but I do hear stuff from other people. Guys don't talk about this stuff with each other. So what are other people's thoughts on this?</p>
<p>You talk. You get their number. What’s so hard about that? It happens anywhere.</p>
<p>cmon. girls don’t give out numbers like free candy. at least not in everyday life.</p>
<p>I’ve gotten hit on at the grocery store. I wouldn’t consider that inappropriate unless I was buying something awkward- if the timing feels ok, then I would go for it!</p>
<p>“But suppose you’re in a situation where a beautiful girl looks at you and smiles at you. You want to go talk to her because she’s hot. But then you realize you’re not as charming as you imagine, and there’s a thousand to one scenarios where you see yourself coming out of that situation a jackass in front of a group of people, as oppose to a ‘winner.’ This happens to me every so often, where my senses hold me back like a leash.”</p>
<p>You have the wrong mindset. Girls, no matter how beautiful, aren’t looking for a super-charmer, they’re looking for a person. If a hot girl smiles at you, you’re good-looking and you’ve passed the first test - now all you have to do is go up, talk to her with some confidence, and be the genuinely interesting person that I’m sure you are. However, you’re letting fear of failure get the better of you.</p>
<p>And to answer your original question - yes, it does happen often. It’s often subtle, so unless you do it yourself, you probably won’t notice. I hit on girls a lot when I first meet them, so I kinda notice it when other people are.</p>
<p>just talk to girls. they don’t bite. yeah it’s one thing to try and talk to a girl on, say, the bus… but in class? start with some random question and make witty reparte from there.</p>