<p>If money isn’t an issue then:
Daughter will miss out on her first real true college student experiences together with other 18 year-old age-level peers. This is really important for me because the kids learn everything at an “away college” experience, at the same time as their new friends, and they don’t learn by themselves. They problem-solve with other kids their age. </p>
<p>I will never forget this experience that convinced me, to have my kids shoot for the universities, even if we don’t and didn’t have the money, but this is me just being a nervous mother.</p>
<p>I was a frequent Mom volunteer at the high school especially for the sports teams. A parent/friend of one of the team girls was really upset, and wanted some advice from me. Her eldest daughter, Sara, was friends and graduated with my eldest in 2008. My eldest was attending SUNY Buffalo in fall 2008.</p>
<p>The family is/was middle class could not afford a full college tuition at that time, with 4 kids, so they sent Sara to Mesa Community College. Sara is a cute, happy, petite little thing. Sara came home, midday, somewhat upset. When Mom asked what was wrong, Sara said,
“I was asked out again by some old dude in my class.”
Mom tried not to react and said, “An old guy??”
Sara said: “Yes, he’s been bugging me to go out with him, and when I told him I wasn’t interested, and that I was just 18, he said, ‘Well you’re an adult, aren’t you? That’s good enough for me.’
Isn’t that gross, Mom? He asks me out all of the time! My lab partners say that he’s over 35 and has said that he wants to ‘get it on with me’; What should I do??” </p>
<p>After the feelings of nausea subsided, I told Mom to contact the Dean with Sara and explain the situation and to try to get Sara’s schedule changed out of that class. So while they were busy trying to switch around Sara’s classes, Daddy and Momma started escorting their eldest to classes.<br>
I know this sounds awful on my part re: ageism, but at least in the dorms, most of the kids are within the same age range! </p>
<p>I like that my daughter learned the following:<br>
How to pack and travel with peers, taking the local buses and trains to the airport.
Learning to do the laundry while sitting on the dorm washers.
Learning how to budget Momma and Daddy’s money!
Time management skills with everything!! Both daughter’s now wear watches!!!
Missing their younger siblings.
Asking questions, going to office hours, doing papers, organizing team projects, networking within her STEM major and a host of other things.</p>
<p>A lot of friendships and move-in/move-out connections are formed at the freshman and sophomore dorm levels. </p>