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<p>I can’t even imagine that kind of high school atmosphere. How sad.</p>
<p>^^Got to agree with OHMomof2 here. I can’t imagine a high school with that kind of pressure. Certainly, not a place I would want to send my child.</p>
<p>^^ Got to agree there. (And FWIW: my kids attended a pressure cooker of a high school, where GPA’s are calculated to the 100th of a percentile and half the class applies to the ivies but only a small percentage are accepted.)</p>
<p>No I am not trying to lie to my hs. I’m just hoping that when I go to college, no one from my school would find out where I am going so I can never have any contact with them.</p>
<p>Even if your GC is told, I doubt s/he would tell anyone else.</p>
<p>I am trying to hide where I am going, but no I am not trying to lie about what college I got accepted to. I don’t want my school to find out because I don’t want any contact with people from my school after I graduate.</p>
<p>In that case, why would they want to contact you if you don’t want to be contacted. And you could have said that up front without being so mysterious about it.</p>
<p>On the other hand, unless you change your identity completely and down to your SSN, you can be found if someone wants to find you. As an amateur genealogist, I can tell you that the amount of public information out there on anyone is pretty substantial, particularly in an age of social media. You’d have to do a pretty thorough job of scrubbing your internet presence plus never reappearing in records again to completely disappear.</p>
<p>Our high school has started just with my grade to ask for our test scores and acceptances and college admission results so they can accumulate data for future students on Naviance. But most of the people who apply to competitive schools try to keep their acceptances and stuff a secret or not tell a lot of people. It gets really heated sometimes, like when last year only one kid got into where he wanted for early and everybody started hating on him. That was bad… But for us, the high schools know only as much as they are told by the students, except test scores.</p>
<p>Substantialqueen, why not share the bigger issue you seem to be having with your high school? Maybe we can help.</p>
<p>^^ If it’s a bullying situation or something similar, have a frank discussion w/your GC and see what events/publications the school generates that might disclose your eventual college (e.g. some schools list student’s college on the graduation ceremony program or there might be a Senior awards banquet where people’s scholarships/college accepts might be mentioned). </p>
<p>If your scenario is one of privacy or indeed, danger, I would hope that something logical can be accommodated. In general, your college is no one’s business – but schools like to celebrate in the ways I’ve just mentioned. See what you can do to duck out of those scenarios.</p>
<p>I can’t imagine hiding anything from my GC, they have been awesome in helping me sort some things out, but I can see how it’s tempting to try to not let the world in on your whole college admissions situation.</p>
<p>Just today I ran into the mom of one of my classmates at the post office. She asked me all sorts of questions about where I was applying and what I thought my chances were. I was friendly and answered her. Then I asked about her daughter and I realized she was going out of her way to try not to tell me anything at all. I thought, why?</p>
<p>That part about photoshopping rejection letters into acceptance letters or taking time off for accepted student days sounds crazy to me. Wow.</p>