<p>btw quesiton for people here who are in/have been in relaitonships before: whats the exact "spark" that starts a relationship? did the guy/girl suddenly one day just start holding hands etc, or is there like a convo, "hey wanna date?" kinda thing?</p>
<p>i think that question depends on the couple...</p>
<p>but, i went on casual dates with my last bf (like to the movies and stuff) and then he gave me flowers one day and asked if i'd be his girlfriend.</p>
<p>lol idk... this just seems obvious to me:
Guys who are jerks or arrogant (which are the ones I fall for) have something going for them that make them that way... whether it be brains or looks or athletic ability, humor, etc.
They have something to be arrogant about and know that girls like that about them and therefore act the way they do.
My friend who's majoring in psychology tells me I fall for stuck-up guys cause I'm a nice person and I want to help them... well it may be true but I still think it's cause those guys are amazing and have things that attract my attention.</p>
<p>Jerks don't get all the girls. I'm a girl, and I'm not attracted to jerks at all. Sure some of them might be cute, but personality makes it happen... if I can't talk to them, and I mean really talk about anything, I can't do it. I love nice guys - guarded on the outside and a bit shy. The mysteriously sexy smart ones (which a lot of smart guys are, but don't realize it)... damn. It drives me mad with curiosity, like you just want to find out everything about them but they won't let you. And I need to be needed... not dominated at all. I love making guys (and people in general) feel better about themselves. Making somebody smile will always make my day... :)</p>
<p>Ohh... and guys who can play guitar/piano or sing... mmm. Not like the "look at me I'm a rock star" type but the quiter "just loving music" ones.</p>
<p>^ohmygod. you just described my ideal guy. :)</p>
<p>i love guys who play guitar.... and play like really mellow songs like jack johnson or howie day or pretty much any male artist who plays the acoustic guitar...</p>
<p>thisyearsgirl, looks like I'm your ideal guy ;)</p>
<p>i love guitarists too :D</p>
<p>With my boyfriend we first met in 11th grade on a school "grade retreat". They were taking us on a hike, but decided they didn't want us walking with our friends. They wanted us to meet new people. So they distributed like 2 packs of playing cards and you had to walk with the person who had the same card as you. Well I got matched up with him and we spent like 4,5 hours talking and got together a week after that. But then we broke up. </p>
<p>When we got back together this year it was like a random thing. I was online and he had been blocking me on MSN. Then out of the blue decided to unblock me. We started talking, then he called me and we got back together. Those were definitely spark things.</p>
<p>how do you know he was blocking you? lol</p>
<p>This is mostly true. Look at the example of King Arthur and Guenever (her name is spelled so many different ways) and Lancelot. She liked Lancelot, not necessarily because he had a good face but because he was different and at first he was mean to her and she noticed that and he was a jerk for a while and thats how she loved him and preferred him over nice caring, oh-too-simple Arthur.</p>
<p>Now I think its more of the man being confident in himself that attracts the women, not necessarily the jerkiness.</p>
<p>Confidence seems to ring pretty true on here....there's also that basic need to be protected :)</p>
<p>"The mysteriously sexy smart ones... damn. It drives me mad with curiosity, like you just want to find out everything about them but they won't let you."</p>
<p>exactly. add to that being tall, and you've entranced me. hehe</p>
<p>haha</p>
<p>^ditto.</p>
<p>o_o...
minus the guitar-playing part.</p>
<p>I can't stand those that think ...
strawberries are citrus fruits.
:|</p>
<p>"the mysteriously sexy smart ones... damn. It drives me mad with curiousity, like you just want to find out everything about them but they won't let you".</p>
<p>now THAT is my ideal man. add height and killer dancing moves and i will hunt whoever he is till i am dead.</p>
<p>waiit... first of all, Arthur was a real jerk. Lancelot was the nice one.</p>
<p>But anyways...</p>
<p>If a girl is attracted to a jerk, then the girl has no taste. There's no need to equivocate. There are some girls that like being treated like dirt. There are some girls who are needy and dependent and who desire someone to control them, use them, and physically dominate them.</p>
<p>To me, those girls are not attractive. Sure, they might have looks, but do their personalities attract me? Not especially. Frankly, I've made choices when it comes to girls - some good, some bad. In the end, y'all just gotta let it all loose.</p>
<p>Don't try too hard, don't chase the girl. You want a girl who respects you, and that's the type of girl you won't have to run after. You don't want the girl who's waiting for the bad-boy streak that you don't have. You want a girl who likes your own character. And if you're falling for a girl who's falling for a jerk, well then, you have pretty rotten taste as well.</p>
<p>Yesss Arthurian lit!!!!</p>
<p>I'm totally in Arthur's camp, and I detest Lancelot, who is Sir Sissypants and is ruled by his... nevermind. If I were in the story I'd marry an Arthur any day: who can you have that's better than a wise king and brave hero? I don't think he's merely a silly, simple man at all. And he's not bad looking either. Anyways, yes he committed one whooping sin under the influence of witchcraft, but Lancelot has many more wrong deeds in his book if I remembered correctly: adultery with his liege lord's/best friend's wife, raping Elaine of Astolat and causing her to commit suicide, murdering two of his fellow friends and knights, Sir Gareth and Gaheris while fleeing his scene of crime with Guinevere, causing a blood feud that tore the Round Table fellowship apart... I really hate that man. It's not fair that Arthur had to pay the blood price of his one sin in his pure life, where Lancelot got to live into a jolly old life as a monk.</p>
<p>On another thought, the life of a monk is probably torture for the likes of him <em>snicker</em>. :D</p>
<p>Ivy, </p>
<p>I figured it out pretty quickly. We have mutual friends and they casually mentioned that they were talking to him online. Yet he didn't appear online to me. First sign. </p>
<p>Second. I told him how to block people when we were still together. </p>
<p>Third. He later told me that he blocked me.</p>