Nice girls want genuinely nice guys

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<p>I have been having this recurring conversation with a male friend of mine (I am female btw) about what girls want in a guy. Now, I can't speak for all girls, but I know that I want a nice guy, who is a gentleman. A guy who will open the door for me and care about me and listen to me. </p>

<p>I don't want a guy who is some sex god that has dated tons of girls. I don't want to be just another one to add to his list. </p>

<p>This male friend of mine has had relatively little experience with dating (just really awkward. He's actually quite a great catch, son of a neurosurgeon, smart, and athletic). He's a freshman in college and has only gone on a few dates. </p>

<p>He is afraid that girls won't want to date him because he is inexperienced. But honestly, how much does that matter?</p>

<p>Girls, do you care about inexperience?</p>

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<p>I feel like that is kind of a lie. Would you really date a super ugly guy even if he is very nice?</p>

<p>No.</p>

<p>/male perspective</p>

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<p>Okay. I mean obviously there must be attraction. But this guy I am talking about is actually quite good-looking. He has girls ask him out a lot, but he is too shy to say yes sometimes and also quite picky other times.</p>

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<p>I don’t care about inexperience…but there has to be some sort of attraction.</p>

<p>I’m not sure what else to say to that…</p>

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<p>First, let me state that I am a girl. Apparently, I have masculine pixels that have consistently led CCers to think I am a male.
Go figure.</p>

<p>Anyway, how are you defining “nice?”
In my head, I keep thinking of some super-friendly, sunshine and smiles, does-anything-for-you type of guy who I’d probably walk all over.</p>

<p>ETA: Ohhhh, I see you’re emphasizing experience.
I’m fine with inexperience, then.</p>

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<p>I consider my self pretty nice, and of course I want a nice guy (who would want a mean guy?)</p>

<p>looks aren’t that important, but he can’t be ugly either… I’m fine if he’s average, just not ugly. As long as he’s not ugly, personality’s next. I’d rather date a awesome, kind guy who’s just okay looking then a guy who’s hot and has a bad attitude.</p>

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<p>LOLOL All girls want some badass Edward Cullen who can sparkle. They want a dude whose all mean and mysterious and rough and dangerous.</p>

<p>No girl likes nice guys, even if he’s good looking…I’ve been unjustly rejected waaayyy too many times to finally understand that.
I’m currently working on becoming a bad boy who doesn’t given attention to girls’ needs as much. ;]</p>

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<p>^ Right there with ya man</p>

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<p>totes agree with you, OP. where are all of the nice guys, these days? [& message me your guy friends number, anytime ;} lol.] </p>

<p>^^john, from a girl who reads twilight…it’s obvious that you don’t. edward is practically the epitome of gentleman-liness. hello, he’s the freaking sensitive vampire who is in love with a human, duh. i don’t know why guys are so threatened/get the wrong idea about the vampires/wolves in the twilight series, lol. guys-take a pointer or two, & move on ;)</p>

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<p>^hahahaha yes! :D</p>

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<p>^^ and guys are really gonna be able to understand your references to twilight…</p>

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<p>Well…don’t use references to twilight if you don’t understand!</p>

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<p>@thisgirlistG: Actually, no. Edward is a CREEPER. He watches Bella sleep and he’s developed sexual desires on food, aka human which vampires should EAT, not have sex with.
And don’t tell me he’s “vegetarian.” Thats both repulsively incorrect in many levels and a great insult to Dracula, the legendary true vampire.</p>

<p>He’s so controlling and so annoying. Very violent at times and a complete idiot for not using protection (oh God, I can’t believe I just said this).
He’s classically for some reason portrayed as the typical “bad guy” while Jacob is the “good guy.”
And yet, Edward Cullen has attracted a A CULT OF GIRLS in America.</p>

<p>I really don’t know anymore. Point being: Girls don’t know what they want. As much as they say they want a nice guy, they really want a cocky fool who apparently give girls this misguided sense of security.</p>

<p>PS: Yeah, I’m a guy who had the terrible misfortune to read the Twilight series…</p>

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<p>Eh, IMO girls want both. Then again, what do I know, right?</p>

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<p>^^Edward Cullen is attractive…Robert Pattinson is not.</p>

<p>^true true.</p>

<p>Read Blink by Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘Blink’, it will give you an insight to the female mind on a few of the pages… :b We don’t know what we want…</p>

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<p>Ew @ Edward.
Edward is a loser. I keep secretly hoping that Buffy will come out of retirement and kick Edward’s ass.</p>

<p>And Edward is hardly a bad ass vampire.
Spike was a bad ass vampire.</p>

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<p>lol Dracula was helllllla badass :]</p>

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<p>“^^ and guys are really gonna be able to understand your references to twilight…”</p>

<p>i haven’t made any specific references to twilight. then again, my point was that a guy could always try flipping through the books & emulating <em>some of</em> what they read ;)</p>

<p>john-i’m going to give you some insight on twilight from the female perspective. &, NO, i am not one of those crazy fan-girls. i’m quite logical, if you didn’t know.</p>

<p>you say that edward is a creeper. 95%+ of girls who read twilight disagree. do you want to know why? it’s because he actually ISN’T. if i was him & never slept, therefore had 10+ hours every day to fill with nothingness, i would watch the love of my life, too. it’s really not that creepy that he wants to protect her from being killed, either.</p>

<p>&, what? female human vaginas aren’t ‘food’ (yeesh, i said it). human <em>blood</em> is. vampires start off as humans, before they get turned, so it makes sense that they would still have sexual desires. they just-so-happen to crave human blood, at the same time.</p>

<p>he may be overprotective, but he is FAR from abusive. & when was he ever violent towards bella? oh, that’s right…NEVER.</p>

<p>“He’s classically for some reason portrayed as the typical “bad guy” while Jacob is the “good guy.””</p>

<p>okay, NO. i have no idea where you got this from. when i was reading the series, i LOATHED jake [talk about emotional immaturity] & loved edward [because he is (in my opinion) the ideal boyfriend]. the only thing edward was ever portrayed as was the ‘suffering vampire’. honestly, he’s not even tough. like, at all, lol.</p>

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<p>*** John117, all respect lost for you…</p>

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<p>^ A true man would not know that much about Twilight.</p>