<p>(another student opinion)</p>
<p>As much as I might not like to admit it, I think that my parents have had at least some impact, although it was probably more while I was younger, especially with regards to schooling. Education has always been "number one" in our family, and as a high school senior, I can definitely understand where my parents have been coming from all these years. The most influential thing they've probably helped to foster is my voracious reading hobby (which, unfortunately, has gradually weakened over the past few years from lack of time) and introduce me to public radio. I'm a NYT junkie, and the local librarians make jokes about having to buy me a cart to take books home in when I do get over to the library. Seriously, a lifelong passion for, or even appreciation of, words will really serve them well.</p>
<p>However, that is not to say that we share the same educational philosophy -- they are understandably very concerned with grades, while I would rather struggle with material and learn it (and get a B or B+) than not have to work and pull straight As. A prime example of this was my AP Euro class as a sophomore, which was the first time I was truly challenged by a course. My grades first quarter weren't exactly stellar, but once I developed an appreciation for the topic and how to approach the material, the change was amazing. I think it's tough for them to accept that though, because they are not privy to daily life at school and don't want to see their daughter fail at something. Truly though, that's the best way for me to learn something, so that sometimes causes tension, especially with college applications looming.</p>
<p>Other than grades, my parents are not really involved in my education, but that by my choice. If I need help with something or am struggling they're always willing to help, but they have enough faith in me to pretty much do my own thing. Plus, they don't know a lot about most of the subjects I'm taking, so if I do ask for help it doesn't always really pan out, but that's why I have resources in my teachers and friends. I'm always stunned to hear about kids letting their parents read every essay before they hand it in or something like that, especially at the collegaite; maybe it's just more common than I imagine. The sheer volume of paper that I use for essays every week would probably scare them off, and I'm not even taking a seminar-based course this year where 20+ page papers a week were the norm. Most of the time they do not know when I have upcoming tests or activities, but that's been fairly consistent since sixth grade and has never really presented a problem.</p>
<p>All the qualms here about SAT preparation never occurred at my house, although I have a feeling they might for my younger brother. My dad asked me once if I felt it necessary to take a course or review a bit before the exam, but I truly didn't feel it was. No 10 Reals, no vocabulary flash cards, no cramming -- and what was probably the most beneficial, NO STRESS! Same applied for SAT2 exams, except to make sure that I understood in what format the test would be. Honestly, I don't think the lack of prep made much of a difference, if any at all, and it certainly left us a lot saner than some of the horror stories I've heard at school.</p>
<p>That independence they grant me spills over into EC and social life too, but I suppose that stems from having a driver's license and being a good kid. No curfew as long as I tell them when I'll be home, I get myself to and from two jobs, numerous ECs, and an internship, do a lot of our grocery shopping and cooking, etc.</p>
<p>I too wonder about the intrinsic qualities which have made me turn out like this, and what is actually an effect of how my parents raised me, but I don't think there's really much of a clear explanation for that.</p>