<p>Well, better that your parents care too much, rather than not at all. The Asian education obsession has its merits. Benjamin Franklin compared the European descending <a href="hereditary">/i</a> honor unfavorably with that of the Chinese *ascending honor.</p>
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For honor, worthily obtained is in its nature a personal thing, and incommunicable to any but those who had some share in obtaining it. Thus among the Chinese, the most ancient, and from long experience the wisest of nations, honor does not descend, but ascends. If a man from his learning, his wisdom, or his valor, is promoted by the Emperor to the rank of Mandarin, his parents are immediately entitled to all the same ceremonies of respect from the people, that are established as due to the Mandarin himself; on the supposition that it must have been owing to the education, instruction, and good example afforded him by his parents, that he was rendered capable of serving the public.</p>
<p>This ascending honor is therefore useful to the state, as it encourages parents to give their children a good and virtuous education.
<p>I agree with Corey91. My parents never went to college, and they don't really seem to care if I got an 18 or a 29 on the ACT. They just say "Good job" and move on.</p>
<p>you're making it seem like asian families are the only ones that want their children to succeed.
all parents want us kids to be the best in order to not only justify sacrificing their livelihood for our benefit, but more importantly to ensure our happiness.
a prestigious school like an Ivy league is a good indication of success.. it proves your qualifications over the thousands of other kids applying to those schools</p>
<p>Anytime after EA ED results come out, and you get two or more parents with hs seniors together, topic one is acceptances/rejections. It can be at the gym, dentist waiting room, grocery store line, getting their car smogged, anywhere parents congregate, they are compelled to compare and brag. In some places, not so much, in others it can be an irritating obsession.</p>
<p>Yeah, asian parents are pretty notorious for bragging about their kids. I'm asian and my parents just told me, "do your best," and what do I do? I do my best. I don't understand why they can't be a little more humble....</p>
<p>I'm glad my mom was basically adopted so she didn't pick up the many traits of our Nigerian people, but she does seem to have this inherent tendency for competition. My dad? Typical Naija man. Lol. He has NO idea how the educational system in America works (even after being here for well over a decade), and expects crazy stuff from me. Nothing's really good enough...especially since I am female, but he knows his teasing limits. :p</p>
<p>I lucked out lol.
I'm asian.
Expectations are high. But when I told my dad I would pass up Harvard and Yale for Upenn CAS if I was accepted, he said okay. I was like "***?". I had an arguement prepared lol.</p>
<p>yup, I'm Mexicano and yes, My dad talked to his buddies about how "I applied to Yale" and whatnot, I was not even considering Yale Seriously, I was more into UCI one year ago...yeah</p>
<p>I got the same questions
1. How are you? I'm good!
2. How old are you? 18
3. How are you studying? Um, studying?</p>
<p>my parents r definitely like this... well my mom anyways. she denies that she does it but she indirectly brags to others and herself all the time about me going to an ivy... it really gets me mad because i try to downplay it if anything and i dont like bragging... so i hate it when she does because she's my mom, and i dont want to be embarassed of her ridiculous bragging</p>
<p>My parents are the complete opposite. They could care less where I go to school and just want me to stick with a state school or somewhere I can get scholarships. I know this sounds weird, but I actually believe that they are jealous of the idea of me going to a better school than they did...</p>
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JBVirtuoso: I only wish my children had such motivation! Until age 8, the only thing my son was anything but indifferent to was his Pokemans game! (But when I started confiscating it as incentive for him to get better grades in his classes, I brought out the real scholar in him.)
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Absolutely horrifying, never, ever, deprive someone of the right to play Pokemon again.</p>
<p>Once I went to my dad's office, and this guy (who I have never seen before) asked:
How are you? -Fine
What grade are you in? -11th
Have you taken your SATs? -Yes
How did you do? -I did OK
What is your class ranking? -My ranking is OK.
Then he just left. </p>
<p>It annoys me when people, who I have never met, care so much about my school life. Like there's absolutely nothing outside of SAT and colleges.</p>
<p>Yes I can totally relate! I go to a school with 75% Asians, so my friend's moms and my mom's friends are just like that, they keep asking me how I did on SATs, what college I want to go to, and on and on. And then after I finally day an answer, they say how theyre own child did, and how "bad" a 2300 is. Its really annoying, because it's so obvious that they're trying to brag about their kid. Ugh.</p>
<p>YES!! My parents even explicitly told me that they would get "wow"s by saying, "My daughter goes to Harvard," and that they would "lose face" if they say a lower-ranked school or something.</p>
<p>My parents say that they don't care, but they do...
I was fine with UT in Austin, but nope....
Oh, they also forced me into Biomedical Engineering, but I applied for mathematics, :D..
When I got accepted is when I told my mom what I really wanted to study..</p>
<p>I used to hear:
!. What college are you going to?
2. Where did you apply?
3. What are you majoring, and what do you want to do?</p>
<p>Which, when asked by other people, leads to a my son/daughter went here and brag brag brag...</p>
<p>Now my mom brags, but it's bragging that is fine with me, because I was accepted by doing what i wanted to do and going where I wanted... Which is way better than the pressure I used to have.. It's not an Ivy, but it's up there, and it has what I want so that makes me happy, and my parents also :D</p>
<p>Yeah, this definitely happens even for non-Asians. Although I heard from my Asian friends that the concept of "losing face" is incredibly important, especially for those from the Far East (Japan, China, Korea, etc.)</p>
<p>Oh, gosh I wish soooooo much that this was happening to me. You have no idea how many times I have wished that my parents were Asian. Instead....they don't care at all. The other day I told my Mom my friend got into Cornell and got a blank stare. Then I tried to explain how it was an Ivy, like Harvard.....and got another blank stare.</p>
<p>They are forcing me to go to U of MN....no ifs, ands, or buts.</p>