<p>yeah it's been like this since the first asian went to harvard and became a doctor and moved back to asia to gain world renowned fame and glory</p>
<p>I like how my dad told my mom that he thought I wasn't going to go to any college (that's including Community college). Reason: I had Bs in my homework category on my progress report.</p>
<p>I'm Asian but my parents are really understanding about college. They tell me that they want what's best for me and that I should go wherever I would want to go. I'm really grateful for such parents and it motivates me sometimes to stop slacking off when I am, but some of my relatives are a different story. Whenever we have family reunions, I always get cornered and asked about my grades, SAT, AP's, etc. It's really bothersome to know that people care about my grades just to brag to others.</p>
<p>I'm Indian and all the adults/parents want to know FROM ME what school im going to, whats my SAT score, whats my rank, whats my gpa, etc. it makes me mad because most of there children are dumb (like 1100 SAT dumb)</p>
<p>We don't really have a big Asian community so it's really not that bad. The moms talk about college during the fall and the spring when kids are applying/getting decisions but it's more...like they're interested and really care. </p>
<p>The questions I always get
--What grade are you in?
--What do you want to become? What do you want to major in?
--What college do you want to go to?</p>
<p>And then some joke about "Oh, so no Harvard for you??" haha we all just joke around..and nobody really cares if it's an Ivy..as long as it's a reputable school I guess.</p>
<p>But I get what you guys are saying because everytime we visit another Asian family somewhere else, in another state, they just bombard me with questions and I'm like...AHH I don't really know what I'm doing with my life just yet.</p>
<p>But reading all this definitely makes me appreciate my parents even more..</p>
<p>They want me to go to a good school, but just for my own good. As long as I'm happy and I did my best, they really could care less. Goodness, my own mother tried to convince me that undergrad wasn't really a big deal and if I want to go to the state school, that's just fine with them. Of course I laughed and told her no way but it was nice of her to take the pressure off!</p>
<p>My parents never cared much about prestige. They don't really care about my grades so long as I'm happy and learning things. They don't care where I apply to for college because they trust me to make the right choices. My name even means "happy even if average".</p>
<p>Of course, they -know- all the brand name colleges.. still, I like having atypical Asian parents :D</p>
<p>Other Asian parents, on the other hand... D:</p>
<p>Hahahah yeah, my dad can tell you like the rankings of the top 30 or so colleges. But he doesn't really care. He just does a ton of research about the colleges I'm interested in...like he probably knows more about those colleges than I do. THat way, when I need help or I just want to know about a college, he can actually help me instead of just sitting there and watching me freak out. It's pretty neat :) </p>
<p>Yeah...it's kinda scary how my parents never ask about my grades. I would be like HEY MOM i got all As. And she's like ohhhh that's nice..go get some sleep so you're not so tired all the time! And drink milk so you're healthy. I'm just like..but...mom..my grades? Or it's like hey I got a C on my last Chem test. My dad is like did you study? As long as I studied...they don't care.</p>
<p>@Muscovy--That's pretty cool that your name means that!</p>
<p>^ I can also use my name as an excuse for being lazy xD Nah, kidding. Thanks! Your parents sound cool :)</p>
<p>Wow some of you have some crazy parents, my mom cant even pronounce some of the ivy league colleges. I want to go to Yale partially because when asked where im going my mom would say jail as she is not very good with y sounds.</p>
<p>^ hahahahha. My parents can never pronounce Dartmouth right. </p>
<p>When I'm lazy and don't want to do anything, I just say I'm tired. Haha, and then it's like oh poor thing, go to bed! Hahaha but your excuse is much better :)</p>
<p>It's even worse when Asian parents brag as if their kid is the next Einstein but have nothing to show for it...</p>
<p>I find that annoying and trashy</p>
<p>I have the parents that think what ever I do is amazing no matter what. They think what ever I do is the best in our state yet I have nothing to prove it. They never attend any parent meetings its just "Oh you did great hon" </p>
<p>My message to them: **** off, thanks for making me feel over confident and under prepared!</p>
<p>It's not only Asian parents that are obsessive over grades..it tends to be immigrants. I'm a first generation American like most of you all...my parents say they want me to go to an Ivy League because they want the best for my future. I mean, I want to go to a good school not because of the brand name but because I'd be happy at a place like Brown, UPenn, or Yale. What the MOST frustrating thing is how they think you are a machine that is only meant to crank out perfect scores and do schoolwork all the time. I was crying about something the other day and my dad was like "Why are you crying? Did you get your SAT scores back?" </p>
<p>That was the last straw...it was like: everything in my life is not about school! I just want to be happy..and do what I love. It just so happens that I'm good at school but that doesn't mean that academics is the meaning of life for me.</p>