In my opinion, people shouldn’t post about every acceptance. No one wants to hear that a kid got into these places if they aren’t even going to go to those colleges. But it is common for parents and students to post about acceptances to the one school that they decide to go next year. About making others feel bad: If you got in, you deserve to be allowed to let people know about your achievements. Be proud of your acceptance or your kid’s acceptance and share it. Relatives who are friends with you on Facebook will want to congratulate you as a parent. Just make sure you only post about acceptance to the college that they will attend next year not all of them.
You shouldn’t be held back because of others; they will at some point get into a college. If your child makes a great milestone in his or her life, share it.
But at the same time, be aware that there are other kids in the class who will be attending colleges they don’t particularly like – maybe even the local community college – for financial reasons.
Is it really necessary to make these kids feel worse?
@VaNcBorder our HS does the same thing with everyone wearing their school-logoed t-shirt and it looks very adorable. When the acceptance rolling in, school makes public announcement at morning meetings.
I plan to make a post once she decides where she is going. I haven’t done acceptance by acceptance because, in my opinion, nobody really cares about that until the final decision is made.
I posted when my D15 got her ED acceptance. It was mid-December, she was committed and I was certain that no one else at her high school had applied ED to her LAC. Her HS was a suburban competitive public where few kids applied to LAC’s at all unless they were recruited athletes.
I waited until posting high school graduation photos then made the formal college announcement at the same time. By then everyone knew their own fate and made plans, so it seemed less obnoxious to celebrate and, yes, brag a little. Got to say, it was hard to wait while others were blasting their news but in the end I’m glad I did.
Acceptances - no
Decision - yes.
Only on FB where just my friends will see it - we have friends around the country/world, and it’s great for them to see where my son decided to attend. I don’t see the need to brag on all of his acceptances. I also hope to see where the children of our friends decide to attend - hoping one or two will end up in the same school.
No, I haven’t and don’t plan to (haven’t posted visits, either, in part because I feel like being able to visit OOS schools is a luxury that’s not available to many people).
Eventually, when there’s a decision or when my son starts college, I imagine that I’ll post it.
My S18 doesn’t post his acceptances, either. He did earlier apps and has higher stats than many of his friends and feels like he doesn’t want to boast. He tells his close friends in person.
Related to the days at school in early May, our school’s seniors color in a pennant (while eating snacks) of the school they are attending and it is put on a bulletin board with a photo.
It is too private of a process for me to post on FB…D18 wants to work through it without the world involved with their opinions and I agree. I do post here (nice outlet since I am silent in real life). We also has DD set up a text group to her grandparents, aunts and uncle. She only posts schools as she gets in ( and when she gets rejected will do that as well) and they all know we are not discussing yet. Though the family is definitely itchy to be involved.
We are not posting acceptances on social media. I do think we’ll post when he makes his decision. I always like knowing where my friends’ kids are attending college.
Only posted after a decision was made, close to May 1. My D17 went to a small private where they wear uniforms. Like others above, they have a College T-shirt/sweatshirt day in May for all the seniors to wear their school garb.
I’ve posted some pics of college tours. But I won’t post acceptances not even sure if I’ll post final decision. My D and her friends share their information.
S17 got upset at me just for talking with a mom within earshot of other parents about logistics for our kids both needing to go interview for a scholarship at a UC where they had both gotten admitted early. Another mom overheard and her kid dearly wanted to attend that UC but hadn’t heard anything early.
They mostly don’t post acceptances on social media at DS’s school, and there is no “wear your college t-shirt” day. Only about 40-50% attend 4-year colleges. Part of that is because our community college is free for 2 years, so a lot of parents have them do that and transfer to a UC.