I’m not in that boat yet, but I imagine I will post where she chooses to go after all acceptances are in. If people ask, I will tell them where else she was accepted and where she was denied/waitlisted – but only if I have my kid’s permission.
Couldn’t post about the success of my S16 on FB. That is why I joined CC. Of course now that S20 is on his way with his LDs and other issues people would be happy to hear about failure and difficulties. Odd how that works. I had to leave CC for S20 for the same reason I had to join CC for S16,
Never. Ever.
Full Disclaimer - I don’t have a social media account, CC is as close as it gets for me. Figured I would only post about my kids if I did because they actually do interesting stuff, then they would disown me because of said posts, which would leave me to posting about my exciting trips to Costco. No one wants to hear about that.
One post on Facebook by a parent about the school their kid will be attending is great because it saves hundreds of questions from friends and family who may be uneasy even asking about a touchy subject. As for those who post about all schools their kids get into, that’s a bit creepy.
I think Facebook is okay, because it is usually amongst family friends and people in your social circle. However, the caption needs to be watched. For instance, “Congrats to xxx for getting into her dream school!” is reasonable celebration. When it turns into “So proud that xx got into xxx! Such a bright, young lady and she’s worked so hard to be the best of her class…” then it becomes gloating. Especially when that kid is NOT the top of their class.
I suppose my view is a bit biased. GA Tech EA’s recently came out, and I was not rejected but I did get a non legacy conditional transfer for 2019. I do xyz and im guaranteed a spot. I’m happy that I get to go at all, yet it is still bothersome to me that some kids with lesser scores get in for the freshman class. I read on a forum for ea applicants that some kid go into tech with a 1210 sat and a 28 act…
Still, the point is that we should be charitable to be happy for others success (if i may add, when it’s deserved), but also know when to be humble in our own.
I have posted with my first child , but just like raising kids you learn what to do and not to do from the first one. I will not be sharing my other kids acceptances on social media.
@plxsendhelp That’s an interesting solution for GT to let in more qualified kids. I know Chicago has done something similar by offering an acceptance to kids if they promise to take a gap year. University of Southern California sometimes lets kids come if they agree to start in Spring term. I wonder if these “creative” solutions are viable long-term.
Plenty of colleges do this and have been doing it - January start, gap year delay, guaranteed transfer, plus more - for awhile, so yes, I would consider it viable. Examples: Middlebury, Harvard, Cornell to name a few for each category.
No, I imagine I will post on May 1st with everyone else once he has decided where he is going.
I do have friends who post all acceptances. The worst was when a friend posted J got accepted to XX. People congratulated her and she said, “He doesn’t want to go there but it’s nice he was accepted.”
Why apply to a school you won’t consider and why post it and make it seem like the school is beneath you when to others it may be a dream or reach school? Tacky
@Studious99 I read something, a blogpost possibly, where it theorized that conditional acceptance is for letting down legacies “gently.” I am not technically legacy, and my transfer as i stated is non legacy, but my cousin attends currently and my aunt went back in the day.
It also claimed that they possibly do this because they know that some students will not be returning for sophomore year, for whatever reason, and that this both reserves those spots for qualified/semi qualified students and does not give a freshman spot to someone who was not going to stay.
It is soooooooooooooooooo OBNOXIOUS when parents post each and every acceptance. Totally fine to post once you know where the kid is going. That is news, that is to be celebrated. Anything prior to that is totally out of line bragging and honestly makes me think so much less of the parent posting…
A parent who posts any and everything that little Johnny or Susie does gets tiresome. But I disagree that it’s wrong to post acceptances simply because it might be insensitive to those not going to college or who didn’t get in where they wanted. You could say the same thing about any accomplishment. Are you saying that you shouldn’t post the picture of your kid scoring the winning goal because somebody else’s kid didn’t make the team? Or a parent can’t be proud of her daughter who is the lead in the school play because her neighbor’s kid ended up in the chorus? Sorry, it’s okay to be proud of you children’s accomplishments. Just don’t be obnoxious about it.
Oh yes I share my Daughter’s acceptances! She deserves glory for her hard work! I’m proud of my progeny
Whether I do it or not, people will know… my kids will post it to friends. Their friends will post theirs back.
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