<p>I was talking to my friend about colleges yesterday when he said he wouldn't tell anyone where he planned on going until after applications were out. I hadn't really thought of that. Are there reasons you shouldn't talk to your friends about where you're planning to apply?</p>
<p>I guess your friend is thinking that if he told his friends about which schools he was applying to, they might apply to those same schools, thereby reducing his chances of admission. But I think that's really silly, considering even if they were to be swayed into applying to those same schools, the chances that he would be rejected because his friends applied is really slim.</p>
<p>I don't see why one wouldn't share the information, if asked. Unless they're worried about competition, but that still seems pretty irrational to me. There are some friends that I don't even bother bringing up college to, because they have no interest, and of course, there are those who will laugh when I tell them my choices. I go to a school where 70% of graduating students continue to community college, and only 2% go onto ivies. Although I'm a good student, if I shared that I wanted to go to an ivy with some people, they would laugh in my face.</p>
<p>Maybe some people don't want to share because they feel that if they share, people will later ask if they were accepted, and if they were not accepted they fear feeling embarrased.</p>
<p>Maybe he doesn't want anyone to know incase he changes his mind. I don't tell people where I want to go/what I want to study (I'm a jr. in HS), because when I change my mind I don't want to explain why and have to hear "I thought you were going to be a..."</p>
<p>maybe he's worried about people giving him crap because he's either applying to schools people think he's too "good" or "smart" far, or maybe he's applying ot some people will think are way out of his league.</p>
<p>i tell my friends. of course i hang out with the less intelligent crowd so when i say im worried about not getting into X school, they go "oh you will, you're smart." yeahhhh i wish that was all i needed to get into a good school.</p>
<p>Sometimes it just makes life more comfortable for the student and keeps a lid on stress and competition. A student may choose a school that had not been "the hot" name in their HS for some years and that one student can spark interest and many apps. We had had only the rare app to Brown until one kid talked her love of the school and 7 applied early with her ----- this next year I know of 8 who will choose Yale as their #1. In our small system, we usually have only 1 or 2 applying to any one top school. Keeping info quiet tends to let the applications spread naturally over many schools. At least that is our feeling--- I know statistical clusters are natural, but charismatic kids influence peers.</p>
<p>98% of the kids in my ghetto school don't know what Stanford or an Ivy League school is, so no, I don't tell them.</p>
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maybe he's worried about people giving him crap because he's either applying to schools people think he's too "good" or "smart" far, or maybe he's applying ot some people will think are way out of his league.
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<p>I know that this is why I don't tell most family members. I really just don't want to hear any comments on why I am applying to certain schools that are not that well known or high ranked. I usually just tell them my first choice is NYU and they leave me alone, but if I said I'm also applying to GW,Tulane, Pace, Depaul, etc then come multiple annoying questions. It's just easier not to talk about it.</p>
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when i say im worried about not getting into X school, they go "oh you will, you're smart." yeahhhh i wish that was all i needed to get into a good school.
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Ugh. My friends all say the same thing. It makes me feel even worse, because I KNOW that there are certain schools that I probably won't get into... but they are completely convinced that I will.</p>
<p>That's the main reason that I'm not going to tell my friends where I'm applying EA. They EXPECT me to get in everywhere, so if I were rejected/deferred, I would feel even worse.</p>
<p>I talk to them about what schools I like or dislike, but I don't think that I'm actually going to tell them where I apply EA (regular... I don't really care). When early decisions come out at my school, EVERYone knows where EVERYone else applied, and there's a huge rush to find out who got accepted and who got rejected. It's terrible.</p>
<p>When I do get my decisions back, I'll tell a few really close friends, but tell them not to tell anyone else.</p>
<p>^ I'm like that too sometimes.</p>
<p>I tell a few close friends, but college usually isn't the subject of our conversations, so it doesn't come up much. I tell people when they ask.</p>
<p>I dont tell my friends because 1.) I dont want to make them feel bad if they're applying to lower level colleges 2.) I dont want to feel myself competiting with them if they are applying to the same level(top) colleges</p>
<p>also, if the person for some reason is devious, im sometimes sugestable to reasoned suggestions from other ppl so if they are applying to the same college for ED or somethign I dont want them to suddenly talk me out of it (that college sucks, that college is too high for you, that college is too low for you), just in case, however unlikely that would happen</p>
<p>so for me its just a secret until its all over</p>
<p>Just tell everyone you're applying to the same school they are (even if you aren't). Then let them sweat the competitive feelings.</p>
<p>I don't tell people where I'm applying, because I'm mostly looking at art schools. I know that I'll get the, "Oh, but you're smart. Don't you want to study science or math?"</p>
<p>He probably doesn't want to tell anyone where he's applying because he doesn't want to be embarrassed if he's rejected.</p>
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I go to a school where 70% of graduating students continue to community college, and only 2% go onto ivies.
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<p>"Only 2%". Yeah. Sure. At my school, in a good year, it may be about 0.25%, and that's much higher than average.</p>
<p>My school (last year): .0138%</p>
<p>To be fair, lots of other students went on to top private universities/LACs but... really. 2% is a pretty big percentage, if you think about it...</p>
<p>at mine only about .5%, which means about 2 ppl usualy...its expected since no one at my school does EC's really making it 1.) Really easy to become president of a long established club but 2.) hard to have enough members/ members with motivation to do anythign special</p>
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when i say im worried about not getting into X school, they go "oh you will, you're smart." yeahhhh i wish that was all i needed to get into a good school.
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<p>thats exactly how my friends are</p>