<p>I feel like we’ve come to a good understanding in our family about clothes and style. There are certain looks that a few of my D’s friends have adopted that I consider unacceptable. (Call me crazy but I just don’t think a cropped crochet sweater over nothing but a hot pink bra is appropriate for an 8th grader to wear to school, or anyplace else either). Luckily, D doesn’t seem especially interested in pushing those limits and her style is more restrained. She does choose some things that I think are not so flattering, but as long as they’re not overly revealing I consider that her decision.</p>
<p>I suspect that once she starts at boarding school she’s going to become somewhat preppier, although she cares enough about cultivating her own look that I don’t think she’s going to completely give up her California style. I’m planning to include a few clothing purchases that she won’t be too crazy about at the time but I think are going to be worn a lot in the end.</p>
<p>My daughter does not care about clothes. She often says that as long as she has a book in her hand, she doesn’t care what clothes are on her body. She will wear clothes that she has outgrown if I don’t weed her closet.</p>
<p>If I take her shopping for shoes, she won’t like anything. If I simply buy a pair of shoes for her… she will love them. She does not enjoy shopping and as a result, makes shopping with her a painful experience.</p>
<p>I, on the other hand, have clothes mostly tailor made (advantage of living overseas) and frequently where lots of jewellery.</p>
<p>I dressed my daughter in Hanna Anderson when she was little, but she has no interest in fashion or trendy clothes now that she’s old enough to choose.</p>
<p>@Rose2014: My older daughter (now in BS) was very much the “I hate shopping” type…until we went to a store that offered a “personal shopper” (free service) to help put together outfits for her. That sort of turned her on the whole matter. :-)</p>
<p>@SevenDad: I’m not sure who Gary Grant is and as for Grace Kelly, I believe I only have a vague recollection. More to the point, I wholeheartedly agree that appropriate, dress, specific to the occasion, is not only advisable, but certainly a requirement in our household. This claim is not made in an effort to be in line with “most, if not all parents on this board” as my opinions often run counter to conventional wisdoms. The notion that “all the cool parents are doing it” or any other implied peer pressure doesn’t hold much weight here. </p>
<p>That said, I would most certainly understand if DS was reluctant dress like the 40 Year-old Virgin on a day to day basis.</p>
<p>And I’m still trying to understand the need for the class, race and geographic disclaimer.</p>
<p>@nylecoj: that was supposed to say Cary Grant (I have no idea who Gary Grant is). ;-P</p>
<p>I put the disclaimer in as an attempt to bridge (perhaps unnecessarily) the “golf course/non-golf course” “different neighborhoods” thing (posts #14 & 15)…</p>