Don't love college yet.. is that a problem?

Student Lounge College Life
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<p>I've been in college for almost two months now, and I still don't love it. Whenever I talk to my friends from high school, they're always around huge groups of people and they go on about how much they absolutely love it and don't want to come home. I hate it, and it's mostly for social reasons.</p>

<p>My grades are great. Classes are difficult, but managable, and I love the subject matter and my professors. </p>

<p>I tried to join clubs at the beginning, but they weren't what I expected. I write for the newspaper, but all of it is conducted online. We don't have regular meetings. I ran for a couple student government positions, but I didn't get elected. And I joined a sorority, but I don't click well with the majority of the girls in it, and I'm personally not the sorority type. </p>

<p>My rooming situation is decent. I have two roommates. One has become my best friend, and I am on good terms with the other. Our dorm is not ideal, but college dorms never are. I have made a handful of friends here, including two people (including my roommate) who I consider my best friends here. We click really well, but I have trouble clicking with many others. I have other friends, but mostly just aquaintances who I don't think will turn into anything more than that. </p>

<p>I just wish I loved it here, but I really dont. THe parties are already old, and Greek Life is stronger than I thought it was. I just don't click with most people here. Everyone is nice, but I don't see lifelong friends. I dont even see year-long friends with most. The worst part is that one of my two best friends here (not my roommate) is already certain she's transfering next year. I just feel alone when everyone has groups to go out with, and I don't. The school isn't as strong of a community as I thought..</p>

<p>So my question is... will I grow to love it here? Or should I consider transferring? Because, honestly, I've already considered the latter in depth. I know it is early, but I raelly just don't like it here at all. I want to love it, and I want to love college. My high school friends are having so much fun. But is it normal to feel the way I do and, if so, when will things change? I cant help but think I picked the wrong college. </p>

<p>Also, I'll add that I definitely did not start with high expectations. Before I got here, I did not want to go to college at all just because I was terrified and thought I'd hate it. I wanted to stay with my friends in high school.. but now that I'm here, I love the idea of college. It seems like it could be so much fun, but right now I'm not having fun at all...</p>

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<p>Not everyone is emotionally prepared for college. You may want to consider taking a gap year, staying at home or with a friend’s apartment, and working. Maybe the experience of being in the real world will teach you what a wonderful opportunity you’re squandering. The best things in life aren’t “fun”, but they will help make you a better, stronger, and more mature person.</p>

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<p>I don’t think I would be productive during a gap year, though. I truly love learning. </p>

<p>I know I’m fortunate to be here, and I know college isn’t only about having fun. However, realistically, enjoying yourself is a big part of college. If it can be fun, I want to try and achieve that so I can have the best experience possible for the next 4 years. And even though this isn’t the best quality to have, I’m the type of person whose happiness partially depends on other people, and if I become truly miserable here, I’m worried my grades and health will eventually slip.</p>

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<p>Ditch the sorority/greek thing. It certainly doesn’t help you academically. And for crying out loud, it’s only been two months.</p>

<p>Join a volunteer group. Just not a political one. There are plenty of college kids with free time joining volunteer groups for you to meet.</p>

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<p>Many people don’t meet the people they click with or will become really strong friends with until their sophomore and even their junior year. Both my daughters were lucky in that they made good friends in their dorms (none of which were their roommates) and in their academic interest areas. Many people think about transferring freshman year… and by the end of second semester are happy that they didn’t actively pursue it but sometimes, it is just not the right fit or the right environment and transferring is not a bad option-assuming it is workable financially and academically.</p>

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<p>And that’s going to be a problem for you your entire life. You’re not always going to be in love with your boss, your coworkers, or the job that you have. But as an adult, you have higher obligations than your cheap thrills. You should view this as a learning experience. If you can’t cope with social issues in the rarefied, safe environment of college, how are you going to deal with this stuff in the working world? No one is going to hold your hand and walk you through your entire life. You’re not entitled to friendship unless you’re willing to step out of your shell and do something to earn it; join some clubs, join a team, volunteer, get out of your room and DO SOMETHING! There’s no quick fix or magic bullet.</p>