<p>my brother and i are not twins but we are as close as most real twins are. we have our own language, inside jokes, share the same thoughts, finish each other's sentences, etc. he's my best friend. we do everything together and nothing ever seems completely "right" if we're not doing it together. </p>
<p>problem is, all of the colleges i'm interested in are out of state. there are some that i could go to that are close to where my brother will be living, but they don't look as appealing. </p>
<p>on one hand, i feel like i should go to the college that looks the best for me. but on the other hand, i feel like any experiences i have there won't be as good if i'm having them without him. i have already spent six months away from him at a different college and did not enjoy my time there at all. partly because the college was not right for me, but if my brother had been there with me, i suspect i would have had a good time. </p>
<p>What a sweet sibling you are. I guess I would start with what your brother’s plans are? Might he also go away to college? What happens when either of you gets into a serious relationship and doesn’t have the same time for each other that you do now? Or one of you gets a job that requires you to move far away? </p>
<p>There are ways, especially in our age of technology, to stay close while you are separated by distance. You just have to decide what works for you. Good luck.</p>
<p>Ever think about getting married, having a job, going on vacation or do you want to count n your brother your entire life. If I was someone you were interested in as a romantic interst say, and I read this I would turn and run other direction as seems no one would be as good as your bro.</p>
<p>No one can judge you but the other posters are legitimately bringing out issues of maturity that you need to consider and ponder the consequences of your actions. Will the two of you be the old bachelors with cats on the corner house one day? If that’s OK with you and him, then fine.</p>
<p>My twin brothers are 14 months younger than I … and they were pretty much inseparable for many, many years. We all went to the same small college, but one of the twins was not happy there. He left. His twin still felt very connected to him, and it was a difficult separation at times. However, eventually one twin married and had a family. My brothers had to figure out how to become their own “person” apart from one another. I won’t say it was easy, but it was necessary. You may feel sad at first, and you may even need to see a counselor at school to deal with it. I am not saying this to keep you from following your dreams, though … I am saying it so that if it happens that you feel sad, you will know that it is normal, that you can ask for help, and that all will be well in both your lives.</p>
<p>how does your brother feel about this? does he want to apply to some of the schools you like? is he excited about having an environment where he can have more independence? would he set aside regular time to skype or call you? I think what you should do definitely depends on whether you’re on the same page about this or not.</p>
<p>This sounds like a ■■■■■ to me…but if not it’s a little odd to that connected in my opinion. I know of twins that are super close with all of their siblings , but they don’t close themselves off from the rest of the world and possibility of broadening their own horizons and experiences</p>
<p>my brother is older than me, he already graduated from college (he went to a local college). we are both interested in the same industry (film) and are planning to move to los angeles together. </p>
<p>we know that our connection is not ordinary. but we also feel blessed to have it. we’re both very eccentric and no one really understands us except us. i do have a girlfriend and she’s almost just as weird and understands me in other ways…anyway that’s off-topic. </p>
<p>but even if i do move to los angeles and go to college there, i could have my own group of friends and activities but still have my brother nearby and sharing a lot of the same experiences. we wouldn’t be spending every minute together because he’s interested in film and i am pursuing tv, and i am also interested in doing other activities that he’s not and vice versa. but to at least have him there and be able to have a lot of experiences with him and stuff…i don’t know if i want to give that up just so i can go to a college somewhere else but i also don’t like the choices of college i have in los angeles, compared to others.</p>
<p>i guess it’s really up to me but i just wanted to see if anyone here had a similar choice to make and what they did and stuff.</p>
<p>when i was away before, we talked on the phone and stuff, but not really skype. even if we did though, it’s not the same as doing things together in person, imo. it’s a really hard decision.</p>
<p>You sound way too attached to your brother. It’s one thing to be close to your sibling, it’s another to want to be joined at the hip.</p>
<p>Sounds as though you rely on your brother for your own happiness. It’s easy to socialize with your brother, but it takes skill and a bit of a risk to seek out your own friends and life experiences</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with being close to a sibling, but when you focus so much on the sibling bond that it inhibits you from moving on and developing your own life, it’s not healthy.</p>
<p>I suspect you will always remain close to your brother, even if you go to an out of state college. But it is very important that you learn to have fun even if he isn’t there. I think you should go out of state and have your own experiences. You can then move to the same city after graduation and bring with you the life lessons you learned while apart.</p>
it’s a really hard decision.</p>