<p>This scenario is pretty common for me and most of my friends. I find it frustrating, but the best thing is not to get emotionally attached. Girls are complicated...don't over analyze. </p>
<p>Also, was she way out of your league?
That's the worst. You make out with some girl that looks like a model, get her number thinking you're in, and then she flakes. You look in the mirror to see your goofy reflection staring back, and go "doh!" Alcohol is usually responsible for this scenario...girl thought you were charming when you were both drunk...goes on facebook next day, sees your face and goes "what was I thinking?"</p>
<p>Let's not let some negativity or self-loathing make you rationalize things like wutang did above.</p>
<p>Anyway, this girl calls you up to go to your place, alone, at 2 AM, to "just talk"?</p>
<p>Have you ever considered the crazy idea that some times people say one thing but really think and believe another? Crazy concept, I know.</p>
<p>It's quite possible that this girl wanted sex or a one night stand with you, but wasn't going to outright ask you for sex because girls don't do that and she doesn't want to feel like a slut by initiating. When you didn't make a move on her, perhaps you made her feel rejected or maybe she thought you were too big a wuss to make a move.</p>
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This scenario is pretty common for me and most of my friends. I find it frustrating, but the best thing is not to get emotionally attached. Girls are complicated...don't over analyze. </p>
<p>Also, was she way out of your league?
That's the worst. You make out with some girl that looks like a model, get her number thinking you're in, and then she flakes. You look in the mirror to see your goofy reflection staring back, and go "doh!" Alcohol is usually responsible for this scenario...girl thought you were charming when you were both drunk...goes on facebook next day, sees your face and goes "what was I thinking?"
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i kinda doubt it, i'd probably say i'm a goodlooking guy, most girls think so and i'm in good shape and over 6 feet tall. she wasn't a knockout, but she was pretty hot. if anything i'm more confused b/c i'm better looking than her lol</p>
<p>yeah, i guess i was trying to be too respectful. i gotta walk that line of being a gentleman and being a pussy carefully.</p>
<p>Perhaps she's shy sober. She could turn into a maniac drunk, then return to a little hole when sober. Could be why she didn't/hasn't contacted you.</p>
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she didn't seem like the type of girl who'd hookup with a strange guy at a frat party.
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there you go, bud. She normally wouldn't have hooked up with you, but had a little too much to drink that night, and did something she normally wouldn't...now she's embarrassed about the whole thing and about the way she acted.</p>
<p>^^^ word,
hmmm, yeah when i txted her i made a joke, and i could see her taking it as something kind of offensive (about the night)</p>
<p>is there anyway to make her not embarassed? i don't judge, and that is one of the handful of times that i have hooked up while drunk. some girls i wouldn't care about, but this one was (besides being hot) a kind and sweet girl i could tell. under normal circumstances she's the type of girl i'd rather take out for lunch/coffee/w-e.</p>
<p>blehh alcohol makes things so confusing lol</p>
<p>Once again, just give her some space. If you really want to contact her again, do so after some time has passed. Another alternative would be to wait and see if she contacts you first. If she likes you and wants to take things further, she will initiate the interaction. If she doesn't contact you soon, it would probably be better to just move on and chalk it up as a lost. We all have had that person in our past who a potential relationship with never manages to properly get off the ground because of being physical too early on. We can only learn from it and move on to the other fishes in the sea.</p>
<p>^ I understand how she feels because i guess i'm similar to her in that I normally don't do those things, but i have done it before and was embarrassed about how I acted afterwards.</p>
<p>she's not embarrassed about what you think of her - you did the same thing. she's embarrassed about what other people will think, because she's known for being kind, sweet, maybe kind of reserved or quiet and she thinks that if people know she got drunk and hooked up with you, it'll change that. even though she didn't hook up with you, some of her friends might know she went to see you drunk and alone at 2 am, and most people don't do that to "talk". so either she's pretty embarrassed and wants to forget about you, or she might come around and call you back...I wouldn't obsess over it :)</p>
<p>Txt/call her saying you wanna talk, and if she ignores you then forget her. If she goes for it then tell her you maybe want to see more of her, and suggest going out for coffee, then go from there.</p>
<p>it could just be that she doesn't know you're interested & doesn't want to be THAT girl who tries to turn a hookup into an actual relationship every time (i have friends like that)..</p>
<p>i've done that before--didn't wanna put myself out there in case he hadn't been as into it as i was. we ended up running into each other on campus a day or two later, exchanged numbers and started dating casually. </p>
<p>the guy ultimately turned out to be a total a**hole, but that's unrelated. haha</p>
<p>You're not lame, you've got courage to pursue the girl you like, and heart to stick with it, and you were nice to spend that night talking to her. You will get much farther with women with your persistence and focus. </p>
<p>Hope the facebook friendship grows into something for you.</p>
<p>another update for anyone who cares:
i talked to her and i just said i was sorry for putting her in an awkward position. she said it was fine, but she just seemed to be really concerned about what her sorority sisters (who were there) thought of her. so i'm just going to forget about it, because if she is still interested in the future she has my number/facebook/etc.</p>
<p>it just sucks, because i know i'm not the type of guy to hook up with girls. i get too attached and take things really hard. i guess what i really want is a gf, but i'm not sure hooking up with random drunk girls is the best avenue for doing that <em>sigh</em></p>
<p>you won't find a relationship from a hookup; i met my ex-boyrfriend in our french class. try to find girls in non-alcoholic settings; attempting to turn a hookup into a relationship is doomed from the start</p>
<p>sorry for the typos; i'm slightly inebriated..but i edited now and fixed some..so you can read the comment haha</p>