<p>I see a lot of ED's have come in already. My D's is due Monday. Hope she gets in but if not need advice from those going through it right now.</p>
<p>What is making you feel better if you are VERY disapointed? Food? Mindless TV? Pep talks? Partying? Putting in more apps?</p>
<p>What made you feel better in the hours right after you found out?</p>
<p>that i hav other schools which i liked just as much.</p>
<p>I'm not putting in more apps. Basically what laxgurl0707 said.</p>
<p>D's EA is coming in on Monday. Though she is hoping for good news, she is being realistic and prepared for the worst. This is a very competitive application year. We have been spending time recognizing the qualities of all the OTHER schools to which she is applying. Also, we have been planning ahead by working on these other applications all along. Her last of 10 applications will be submitted tomorrow. One way or other, Monday will be a cause for celebration. </p>
<p>I would be preparing now and thinking about all her other options. Then if the news is as hoped, it may have been a waste of time but if not then you have already begun the recovery process.</p>
<p>Watch Accepted. The movie may be a little juvenile for the "super serious" type, but it sure makes you feel ok to be rejected. The movie should be accompanied with popcorn and snow caps.</p>
<p>For those a little more sophisticated, I hear that the book Outliers by Malcom Gladwell is excellent at describing the randomness of the college admissions process.</p>
<p>I have a mix cd I listened to, too, that made me feel better about being rejected at Northwestern. I went out with friends this afternoon, which helped a lot.</p>
<p>Just non-college related stuff I guess.</p>
<p>I was just rejected from wesleyan today. i felt a lot better after I cried for about two hours and thought about the other schools that I am applying to. I realized it feels good to no longer be bound to a school and to be able to explore the positive aspects of the other schools to which I am applying. I with everyone the best of luck. :)</p>
<p>watch the movie "It's a Wonderful Life". it will really put things in perspective for you.</p>
<p>Peaceplease9100, one of the brightest girls that our high sc hool has produced was placed on the Wesleyan wait list two years ago. She had 800 math and 680 cr. She was also a fine musician and beautiful. She eventually got admitted off the waitlist and is currently in the top 20% of her class. Go figure!</p>
<p>good question. :(</p>
<p>I was rejected from Swarthmore ED when I applied to schools two years ago. Like others who've posted their thoughts, the thing that made me feel "the most" better was the knowledge that I had six other schools to shoot for: Swarthmore's rejection didn't mean that my chances of getting into a "top" school, or any school at all for that matter, were over.</p>
<p>Also, it helped to remind myself that the rejection wasn't a personal, "you aren't good enough, sorry" sort of message. With the amount of students applying to schools today and the low acceptance rates, it's entirely possible--as taxguy brought up in the case of Wesleyan--for someone with scores, stats, and ECs that are supposedly "average" for the school to be rejected, deferred, or waitlisted. Getting rejected from Swarthmore didn't necessarily mean I lacked what it took to get into such a school... it just meant that something about my profile didn't quite fit with what they were looking for.</p>
<p>In a nutshell, it's important to keep thinking positively, to remember that there are lots of good schools out there (and that not all admissions officers are the same in terms of what they're looking for), and that a rejection from one school doesn't mean "you're not good enough" for your others.</p>
<p>I am beginning to believe that there is really no rhyme or reason to college admissions. I think that rejection is a sign that it just wasn't mean to be.</p>
<p>It happens every year to very ambitious, bright, well rounded, POLITE and HONEST students. Its a quirky process and you have to know that going in. My D got hosed two years ago from her "dream school" that was a high match. They took another student a year later who had lower scores. That student, we have heard, is not doing well and is very unhappy. My D ended up at a lower match school and is thriving and doing extremely well. </p>
<p>Our solution? Cried for two days, and a few "venting sessions". It was more painful because some classmates she knew were "cheeseballs" as she called them, got into their dream schools and really didnt deserve it. But we buckled down and applied to several more schools RD. She got into several schools with some generous offers. She narrowed it down to her three top choices AFTER visiting each one, and then the decision day came. That too was painful as she had to tell schools she liked that she wasnt coming and it hurt a close friend's feelings. So more tears. And self doubt. And then Freshman Year drama (which happens to everyone in college). But she is doing very, very well.</p>
<p>The bottom line: This too shall pass. Spend a reasonable period of time venting but no more than a day or two, then get to work immediately on plan B. Even if you apply to a bunch of safety schools you dont think you will attend, it is cathartic. It forces you to look forward and not backwards.</p>
<p>Eventually she will get in somewhere and be very happy. That much I can promise you. It all works out, but the process is riddled with anxiety and frustrations. You are NOT alone. I do hope it works out for her at her ED choice. If it does, Great! If not, follow the above recipe.</p>
<p>Best of luck.</p>
<p>I should have read this before making my post here:<a href="http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/614903-no-time-despair.html%5B/url%5D">http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-admissions/614903-no-time-despair.html</a></p>
<p>Long story short... it's a long story. Rejection today is not the final chapter it's the first. </p>
<p>Find other schools you can love and love them don't think about "what if" </p>
<p>That and a good dinner out to celebrate the great kids we have!</p>
<p>The schools where S was rejected would have been the worst fits for him. His rejections came at the very end, and by that point, he truly did not care. Never opened the envelope for one of them!</p>
<p>just got deferred from EA Georgetown... just hoping for RD</p>
<p>I was rejected from Stanford, but a meal at a good restaurant made me feel a lot better.</p>
<p>I think it is acceptable to cry, feel sorry for yourself, feel victimized, say "life is unfair" in private, for one day only, (during which time parents are to be supportive) then get on with your life. (parents included)</p>
<p>I am serious. I think students should be applying ED only if they truly love a school, it is clearly their first choice and they know in their heart they will be happy there. Getting a rejection under those circumstances is going to hurt, feels like a kick in the gut (or lower), so you grieve... briefly... then move on.</p>
<p>Very good point NJres post #17. For kids applying ED for the right reasons....that they truly think a particular school will be a great match for them (academically, socially, geographically, financially etc.) ....it is very disappointing to be rejected. </p>
<p>But...they will find lots of "case studies" on CC, and elsewhere, of kids rejected from their ED school who are very happy at where they ended up.</p>
<p>I wish more kids could find rolling admissions schools that they'd be happy at. The 2009 admitted thread in the Parent's forum shows that .... prior to ED results....lots of kids have been admitted to very good schools. Many ED schools allow kids to apply to rolling admissions schools. It would at least lessen some of the pain of an ED rejection.</p>
<p>I second the meal. I was rejected from Cornell ED a few days ago and I went to one of my favorite restaurants, and had a good cry or two to grieve over the rejection and all the waiting and work I put into the application. I am now over it and positive about the future, because there are many other schools to which I'm applying.</p>
<p>i just got rejected from stanford. ben and jerry's is always a way to feel better :) also the thought of all the other schools i'm applying to. now that the waiting is over it's a relief, even though i didn't get in. if she doesn't get in, give her a bit to herself so she can cry if she wants (my parents wouldn't leave me alone) and some money to go get ice cream or see a movie</p>