ED Rejected: What's making you feel better?

Applying to College
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lots of "case studies" on CC, and elsewhere, of kids rejected from their ED school who are very happy at where they ended up.

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<p>Yep. One of my kids was deferred ED, and rejected by the same dream school in Spring. He ended up with 4 other acceptances in Spring, and chose a wonderful school from among them. </p>

<p>In October of his freshman year, we got this email, "If I'd have known how happy I'd be here at my 'second choice' it would have been my first choice all along." </p>

<p>Another help: he began collecting negative stories about his old 'dream school' that wafted onto his campus.</p>

<p>Note to parents: If this has happened, and your kid didn't get the ED acceptance and now faces a pile of unworked applications, we did something that WAS helpful as parents. We immediately cancelled anything distracting planned during the Winter Break. We asked extended family not to visit. Ours stay overnight and are hugely distracting. In all ways, we gave him a clear field to work hard on the other 7 applications. It helped a lot. It let him go full throttle on the other apps without having to do chores related to holiday parties, or hide from visiting guests with the crying babies. It told him we understood his predicament, and destressed the house a lot. </p>

<p>If cancelling is too radical, perhaps just cutting a few corners makes sense. It's only for one year. I felt a lot better, too, and spent the days in late December taking younger siblings out of the house, keeping things calm, and making the atmosphere in the house conducive to work. The following year, all the relatives came back; nobody's feelings were hurt at all.</p>

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<p>There's some chick called writinghannah (it's like the 3rd down in google) who talks about Yale, getting deferred, the admissions process, the crazy history of grades... it totally made me look at things from a new angle. Still bummed but it was nice to get perspective.</p>

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<p>I applied Vanderbilt Ed and if i get rejected tomorrow, i just saved roughly $150,000 which is the difference between Vandy and what UT will cost me, really want to get into Vandy but either way life is good</p>

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<p>I am from a family that has never went to college. My neice who I help mentor in sports and in life would be the first in the immediate family to attend. On Dec 3rd her dream school deferred her, but she felt she belonged there. Her father and mother told her that she should just accept her fate, be happy and go tot he local CC, then transfer in. My neice is from a low income, (divorced mom/dad) family with challenges. Nontheless she was devestated when this Major well known University gave her the "soft rejection" deferral letter. </p>

<p>Me, never one to quit, and too stupid to know better, said to my neice, lets just get in the car and drive 500 miles to the University and argue your case, not really knowing if what I am doing is probably just wasting gas and time........for I figured this "kid"..my neice deserved a second look, due to all of her grades being a quality standard, all well as EC, and commuity service hours. </p>

<p>I figured my neice being the first in the immediate family to even go to college, she deserved this opportunity. Anyway, we drive like 500 miles, I say a prayer with her in front of the Football stadium ( I am a born again Christian) and I ask God/Jesus for his will to be done this day, that if it is "his will" that it will be done. </p>

<p>I then send my neice into admissions she goes and pleads her case. The admissions officer promply shoots her down, and says that her SAT scores were too low, and that based on lasts year they only accepted 200 off the deferral list and in 2007 it was zero! </p>

<p>Anyway, my neice comes out of the admissions office balling her eyes out....saying that her dream is now over and it's time to go home. I remember distinctly looking at my watch and I saw that it was 10:30 am. I remember seeing a sign that said at 10:45 there is an admission meeting session going on for accepted students (students who have been accepted as still deciding). We decided to go even though she was not accepted into the University. </p>

<p>Me never being a quitter....I told her to wipe her eyes, and that we prayed earlier to God/Jesus, and do not worry, that he was the one sterring the ship, and not one addmissions officer. Honestly my thoughts were that if this University accepted 200 students out of 4000 deferrals in the last 2 years, well why not another one?...Technically she was still on this list, and not rejected...right?...so why not keep trying?...was my thought. </p>

<p>Again I told my neice, we have the power of God on our side, and that I "truly" believe somthing big was going to happen this day. </p>

<p>We then went to the admission meeting ( another addmissions officer) and when the meeting was over it came time to ask questions, I raised my hand. I asked what is the chances of getting off the "differred List?"....I could see she did not want to answer that question. She said is your daughter on that list?...I said, no..my neice is, and that we could talk after the meeting. I am thinking hmm...about what?...wow, could there be something to this simple question? </p>

<p>She then told me that they have a program for first generation students, from single parent households, that are promising kids, but have low SAT scores, etc. She said that the program was almost full, (Maybe a few chairs left out of 350) and would we like to apply?.....would we like to apply I asked???.........well does a bear live in the woods!!</p>

<p>Anyway, my neice applied, wrote an essay why she would like to be int he program, etc., etc....filled out all the paperwork etc. She said in 3 days they are looking at the final applications for the final few placements in program. 72 hours later she gave us the call....saying that my neice made into the program.</p>

<p>All I can say is God intervened and made this possible. My Neice and I humbly cried and gave thanks to our lord Jesus Christ...our Savior. I know now why I was so stupid for driving (1000 miles R/T) with no appts, no nothing....it was only one thing...It was God's plan...and his will ..Will Be done....For there simply is no other explanation than that.</p>

<p>The power of prayer works, if it is God's will.</p>

<p>She will now Be a Seminole at FSU summer 2009.</p>

<p>God Bless all.</p>

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<p>Nice story, Uncleboog, and it was nice of you to be so supportive to your niece. Even if FSU hadn't taken her, though, given the fact that the US has thousands of colleges, your niece could have found a school that would have taken her.</p>

<p>Make sure that your niece can afford FSU. Usually colleges don't tell students about financial aid until March or April, and most public universities lack the funds to meet students' full financial need.</p>

<p>Consequently, it may still be a good idea for her to apply to some other colleges that she can commute to from home. Having some back-ups can be important since college costs are high and are expected to go even higher next year. For many students, their most affordable back-up is their local community college. Many states' community colleges guarantee transfers into the state's 4-year public universities, and may even have merit aid for such transfers who have good grades.</p>

<p>Keep in mind that your niece's starting college in the summer means she won't be able to work then to make money to help pay for college.</p>

<p>Also read the financial aid and scholarship section of College Confidential.</p>

<p>Also, a deferral isn't a soft rejection. It just means the university hasn't yet made up its mind. As your niece found out, being assertive can help change a deferral into an acceptance.</p>

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<p>Could anybody please tell me when exactly on Monday is Yale planning to put up the results of the early action applicants? Good luck to every1 who r yet to get dere ED or EA replies!</p>

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<p>i was just rejected ED from Penn. it was very disappointing since i had been dreaming of it basically my whole life AND i was a legacy. hopefully she gets in but if she doesn't, crying REALLY helped and my mom told me all the bad things about Penn, which also helped. its been 2 days and i already feel much better. if she does get rejected she should have 1 day to mope and then start making plans for other schools. try looking at as a blessing in disguise. its painful at first but planning numbs it.</p>

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<p>a lot of my friends were on kairos and they came back and some got rejected.... but they didn't really care because of kairos.</p>

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<p>Are we really giving up hope if you didn't receive an acceptance by Saturday?????</p>

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<p>Rejected by Stanford, but an experience lost there is one gained at another college. Helps me keep it in perspective :)</p>

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<p>My decision has been delayed for Lehigh University. They moved me to the RD pool. I'm just going to continue to show interest and maybe at a couple more items to my file.</p>

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<p>I had a lot of schools which I liked just as much as my ED school-- and after going out for ice cream with some friends, my rejection from my ED school was far behind me. I didn't really feel sad or angry.</p>

<p>Rejection is a beautiful part of life, as weird as that may sound. It makes succeeding that much sweeter in the end.</p>

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<p>And rejection will make the eventual acceptance all the sweeter</p>

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<p>On Friday at 8 pm, I turned on my computer and logged onto the Hamilton website to check to see what the decision was. My family was with me (but not to close). I opened it up and I read the letter a few times just to make sure I understand. I got deferred. I sat there for a few minutes with my family consoling me and then I realized that being upset wouldn't do anything about it. I went out partying later with my friends, (some who found out they got in that day and some who got denied). It made me feel so much better just to be surrounded by my friends, and not talking about college.</p>

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<p>rejected from cornell</p>

<p>i went out and ate more than 40 sushi</p>

<p>it was worth it</p>

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<p>It's been two days since I got rejected from Stanford. </p>

<p>1) I cried.
I wasn't expecting to get in, but there's still something unnerving about reading a letter insincerely telling you how great you are and yet implying that you just weren't good enough. </p>

<p>2) I wondered what was wrong with me.
It's a sad and silly thing to do, but when you think about how you did everything HONESTLY and tried your BEST, why they still didn't like you for it. My rejection made me feel inferior and lost. </p>

<p>3) I roared.
I'm awesome. Yeah. W/o my ED university, I still rock.</p>

<p>4) I macho-ed up.
Pillows no longer exist at my house.</p>

<p>5) I listened to music, read books, talked to friends, ate ice cream
Normal things to help me relax.</p>

<p>6) I wondered why it bothered me so much.
Because it didn't. Whew, I felt much better!</p>

<p>7) I went onto CC to read other's people's thoughts.
The Stanford board was interesting. I'm sorry for all the other people who also got rejected, it's not an easy thing to take!</p>

<p>8) I'm working on other apps.
Stanford? Rejection? What are you talking about?</p>

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<p>I find out tomorrow about EA for Yale. Of course, I'm shaking in my boots, quite literally. But my parents keep reminding me that I've done all I can by now. There's nothing that is going to change the decision of the admissions office. If you've put in the hard work and sent in your best resume, then there really IS nothing you can do. I think the hard part is that there is a tremendous amount of pressure out there in the world today. People feel that they have to get into their dream school or their world will come crashing down on them. As we all know in our rational minds, this is not true, but I can imagine it seems like it when you get that rejection letter in the mail. My strategy? I'm going to count on NOT getting into Yale. That way, if I get rejected, it won't be as crushing as if I had anticipated getting accepted. If I get accepted, all the better for it!</p>

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<p>I got rejected from my EA school (Stanford) and I've been dealing with it well. I didn't have high hopes before, so when I got the email on Friday I wasn't shocked, I was just a bit disappointed. Stanford had been my dream school, but I realized something:
I spent so much time obsessing over Stanford that I didn't take the time to research some of the other I schools I was applying to.
So, since Friday, I've been OBSESSED with another school. It is absolutely perfect for me and what I want to achieve in life and now it's clear that the rejection from Stanford has just forced me to reestablish what I want to study and where I want to go.
I am extremely passionate about this school now, and I think that things will only get better (:</p>

<p>Moral of this story: Rejection from one "dream" school is disappointing, but it in no way defines who you are or who you will become.</p>

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<p>I am right there with you, Saxophone Girl. I'm counting on NOT getting in, so that way, if I do it will be amazing, but if I don't, it will be expected. </p>

<p>For me, if I didn't get in, I would wallow for a while - probably a day. Just to cry, to rant, to eat chocolate, to get it out of my system. Importantly, I would want commiseration, NOT sympathy... It's a kind of catharsis. But I think the most essential part of feeling better is to realize that you gave something your all. </p>

<p>Hopefully, you tried and tried with all your might and if you still haven't gotten in, just know that you have LIVED by giving your all for something... and if it's not enough, nothing personal, but it just wasn't meant to be. Odds are, if that school decides you weren't right for it, it probably wasn't right for you - and your perfect school is still out there.</p>

<p>I'm pulling for all y'all who have EAs and EDs still rolling in. Best of luck!</p>

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<p>rejected ed from penn</p>

<p>i dunno i thought a flag football tournament would cheer me up but it didn't and i went to a party yeasterday but that didn't do much either. dolphins win today was nice. the best thing for me has just been rethinking where i'm applying and seeing my options.</p>