<p>What's difficult here - from the parent perspective - is that others - one in particular - that applied ED with my child - were accepted. One of them is an absolute idiot. And, on balance, as a parent, I guess I just can not believe that the answer for that student was yes.</p>
<p>I bought a bag of Swedish Fish.</p>
<p>I'll let you know whether they're helpful tomorrow when I get rejected from Chicago and MIT.</p>
<p>Why does it have to be exam week though? It really couldn't be a more awful week.</p>
<p>I think about how my mom has cancer and all the radiation and chemo she has to go through. It makes you think about what's really important in life.</p>
<p>Yale's EA comes on Monday~~ I am so nervious now.....</p>
<p>Deferred from Stanford, </p>
<p>Stanford is my dream, and it will continue to be my dream. Though I have not been rejected, I feel extremely lonely and ashamed. Stanford was one of the few things going for me, and surely the biggest goal of my life. I consider myself to be a strong person, but I can't help but cry every time I think of all the wonderful people who were rejected. With four months left until I hear from Stanford again, I can only continue praying, and hopefully, realize my dream.</p>
<p>there is too much pressure. with a perfect brother with perfect grades that is now at an ivy league school. and doctors as parents and my friends at amazing schools, how could I not also be that perfect? I'm nothing comparable to them. everyone expects it, and all of this has been weighing me down. When I got rejected to NU yesterday, I finally broke under the pressure.
I'm not my brother, and I'm realizing it. I can't be someone others want me to be. I need to find myself alone. I need to go to a school that truly fits ME and not what others think I am. I don't want to worry about the outside pressures for once in my life. </p>
<p>After a day to vent, I think I learned that the cure is just to wait it out. I have to be confident in my future. I can only live to the best of my abilities. In the end where I end up is where I was supposed to be along. I am confident that I will find happiness... wherever I end up. </p>
<p>Rejection can be bittersweet. Even though it sucks right now, our success will make it that much better in the future. It will just take time...........</p>
<p>Rejection is never a good thing. For the past year, I had set my sights on Columbia, I applied ED, but I was unfortunately rejected. The biggest mistakes I made, was preparing myself to attend Columbia. I had envisioned myself there, I had picked out what clubs I was going to join, I selected what dorm I wanted to be in my freshman year, etc. Deep down, I knew I didn't have the best chance of getting into Columbia, but I still hoped. When I found out I was rejected, the next four years of my life suddenly became uncertain; I had picked out what other schools I planned to apply to, but aside from adding them to my list, I had never thought to much about them.</p>
<p>What has helped me the most, is to just continue applying and searching for other schools. I'm still feeling a little blue, but I believe that being rejected motivates me to just keep going. Also, just keeping my plate full with school and extracurriculars really helps to take my mind off of my rejection. Having awsome friends help too :).</p>
<p>I did the same thing alexdl...picked out all the activities I wanted to be involved in, etc. I applied early to Bowdoin last year, was deferred and then rejected. Went to another school, went home during orientation because I had an unfortunate family situation and then applied early to Colgate this year (as a freshman) and was rejected. Now THERE'S some rejection for you.... I have another school that I already got into early action and am very excited to go to, so it's fine. Not as "high level" or maybe well known as B or C, but still, certainly a very good school. </p>
<p>It was very frustrating and disappointing to get rejected from colleges after being valedictorian at a fairly prestigious northeastern prep school, since everyone told me I'd "get into any school I could dream of" and "schools would be fighting over me." </p>
<p>Sometimes rejection can be the best thing, after guidance counselors, teachers, and fellow students have built up your ego, when the college admissions process is really pretty random. The school I'm going to end up at I was discouraged from applying to last year because my counselor thought it was too much of a safety for me. As long as I like it and feel comfortable there, that's really all that matters. </p>
<p>I think this whole attitude of "where I go to college will determine the course of the rest of my life" is quite dangerous, because when kids are rejected then they imagine their whole life crumbling before their eyes. If you're smart and a hard worker, where you go to school won't matter for a whole lot however, internships and work experience will.</p>
<p>anothermom3 -- what you describe is painful, a double hurt. the 'complete idiot' gets in and your child does not. but if you are on this board you already understand that the admissions process is imprecise and often inscrutable. don't let it define your kid or your family's experience. we are waiting for son's ED this week and we're playing it way low-key. anything else risks major disappointment.</p>
<p>I'd say the best solution is copious amounts of drugs and alcohol. And punching babies.</p>
<p>well technically i didnt get rejected (oh lets face it, deferred pretty much means rejected ), but having others around me that got rejected as well made me feel better. xD</p>
<p>ok, im not saying that im happy that they got rejected. but the fact that we can all support each other (and the fact that the accepted kids at my school are very gracious about the whole process) is awesome!</p>
<p>Well the night after getting defered from cornell was quite interesting. I intern at the afl-cio where after being comended for 6 months and 250+ hours of service was introduced to a woman who runs a local non profit public affairs commitee. She was a Georgetown grad and a fulbright scholar so I figured I might as well go to her meeting. The meeting was supposed to be about the "progressive" communities response to obama getting elected. Now dont get me wrong I dont hate obama but I consider myself a libertarian so ron paul is a bit more my pick. Anyways I knew these people would be left but they werent even on the damn map. Imagine a straight line progressing from middle, to liberal, to socialist, to communist. These people were not even on this line (1/2+ of which publically claimed to be a member of the socialist or communist party). There were a bunch of former balck panthers there, as well as people perpetually high from the sixties. These people thought that obama getting elected was good but that he was too "conservative" lol. Calling obama "conservative" is a pretty rediculous notion imo. Anyways these people were so glad that me and a few friends had decided to attend there meeting. Afterwards I couldnt help but think what had i gotten myself into. Pretty amusing night and certainly took my mind off of cornell.</p>
<p>LoLoLoL I got moved to the regular admission pool because I was missing a TOEFL test that I did not expect I had to take. I mean.. come on, I was born in America. Well, I was notified a week before the deadline for everything to be sent in. I have an incomplete application now.</p>
<p>I am so frustrated. I rather know that I get rejected now than to wait until April. -___-</p>
<p>Just don't be mean about it, and give her space (if she wants it).</p>
<p>I got deferred from Columbia (their acceptance rate for deferrals is like 8% or something like that so yeah it's a soft rejection) and I was ok with it because I really was expecting either a deferral or a rejection (I think this is what really helped me be fine with it).</p>
<p>But THEN. My dad. OMG.</p>
<p>First, he storms into my room, demanding to see the online deferral letter (he seemed to think I was making it up and I had actually been rejected? IDK. This was after he was convinced the day before that I had already been rejected and just wasn't telling them, even though he KNEW the precise date & time decisions were coming out), then tells me I need to pull my grades up to have any chance of getting into college. 1) No $hit. 2) Gee, thanks for being so supportive. I don't care if you aren't supportive, don't be MEAN about it.</p>
<p>But THEN. My dad is so wonderful. <em>sarcasm</em></p>
<p>I got accepted into one of my safeties, UMich, which, ok, at least I won't be going to the local state university or community college. I know it isn't very impressive, especially in light of my Columbia deferral, but it's a f@cking safety. My dad says in the snottiest possible tone, "Oh, it's just Michigan. What, you didn't even get any money from them?" Wow, thanks dad. 1) I didn't apply for aid. 2) Especially this year, public schools aren't going to be handing out merit scholarships like candy. 3) I <em>may</em> have gotten money (doubtful but not completely impossible..like that deferral, hah) but they wouldn't have said so in the email that was just kind of like OMGYOUGOTINCONGRATSLOLZ<333.</p>
<p>/rant over</p>
<p>I didn't get into my ED college either (NYU). Maybe better luck in the spring, but I'm not banking on it at this point.</p>
<p>My counselor just encouraged me to sign up with CAPS (CAPS</a> - Demonstrate Interest to the Colleges of Your Choice) so I can show my interest to my backup colleges. Obviously I have to make some selections (I can't show interest through CAPS to 8 other colleges), but I can do 3 or 4 without an issue and I'm glad that I won't be locked in if I get in either. </p>
<p>One thing I am thankful about is that I will now have some financial options instead of being locked into what NYU gave me.</p>
<p>My daughter got rejected from her dream school NYU. I just got the letter in the mail.She is at school so she does not know yet. She will be crushed! I am upset for her she has been talking about NYU for over 3 years. Im glad I have time to process this before she comes home so I can offer her support and encouragment.</p>
<p>I was rejected from Vassar today and believe me, it's a punch in the gut. I got my wisdom teeth out this morning, so the letter was just the cherry on top of my day. I guess I was banking too strongly on acceptance. I did everything I could; I sent in an extra piece with my supplement, insisted on an interview, and made sure to correspond to their mail and email. But alas, here I am spitting up blood and feeling sorry for myself. I've vented a good amount but it still feels awful. Any advice?</p>
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<p>anothermom3, I've heard that the colleges have all these slots to fill -- long-distance runner, bassoonist, physics geek, math whiz, and so on. So think of it this way: the ED idiot slot just got filled. It wasn't by your kid, because your kid isn't an idiot; someone else's is, so.....</p>
<p>spazzit -- i feel so bad for you....i hate it when parents (or ANY adults for that matter)are like literally clueless about college in general. and they act like they know everything. thank God my parents are extremely supportive...which got me cryin like a 3 yr old at the dinner table. </p>
<p>my dad goes, " u know...it doesn't matter if u get in or not, ur still my daughter...it's the journey that matters sometimes -- not the result -- as long as u tried ur best"......so emotional. i'm crying now again. haha</p>
<p>anyway...i'm sure u'll get into a great college! columbia's not the good good school out there!</p>
<p>I just had an ED rejection which was a bummer cause I saw other kids with similar stats that got deferred. I figured that in a way it was good, cause I could move on now. I wasn't really that upset though because we had just toured DC, Boston, and LA and I found four other schools that I would love to go to....just hope one of those accepts me!! I have some pretty decent solid match schools as well so it will all work out one way or another.</p>