Ever fall for a friend?

<p>It's difficult to fall in love with someone you've known since an early age. (Have you ever heard of the Westermarck effect?)<br>
<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imprinting_%28psychology%29#Westermarck_effect%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Imprinting_%28psychology%29#Westermarck_effect&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>It may seem weird at first, but if you know an attractive girl/guy (depending on your gender) since you were young, you might have 'Philia' feelings mixed in. Which confound the issue of whether you like the girl/guy or just have protective feelings. </p>

<p>Now onto Freud's 'Progressive theories':</p>

<p>If you are attracted to anyone, then you have sexual feelings toward them.
You are secretly in love with your mother, father, and all of your familly members.
If you dislike anyone you have sexual feelings for them.
If you don't agree with this, then you are in denial about your true feelings and should pay for another counceling session.</p>

<p>I have come to the conclusion that I fail at platonic friendships with women.</p>

<p>Every time I see this thread I get that Buzzcocks song stuck in my head. You know, "Ever fallen in love with someone, ever fallen in love, in love with someone, ever fallen in love, in love with someone you shouldn't've fallen in love with?" :cool:</p>

<p>And yes, I have, more times than I care to count. (That would be three.)</p>

<p>I am very good friends with a guy (he's like my 3rd best friend or so, I'm his first). We've known eachother since 6th grade (I'm a senior) but we absolutely HATED eachother until a little less than a year ago. So after we became friends I started to become somewhat attracted to him. He's super cuddly/romantic and I'm pretty sure that we both fell for eachother pretty hard, but he started seeing another girl and I decided to try and get over it. Now I can't imagine EVER kissing him or anytihng...it'd just be weird. Platonic friendships can exist but it's not incredibly common.</p>

<p>what if you fall in love with one of your professors? and you know that he probably has some feelings for you as well? and the fact that he's also young and single? is this wrong?</p>

<p>If you're still in one of his classes, definitely. Not too sure about the rules otherwise.</p>

<p>i still can't comprehend how u can fall in love with a friend of opposite sex. if u do, i suspect that u have some serious psychological issues so it'd be for the best that u lock urself in ur room and bang ur head on the wall for couple days until that madness departs ur soul.
if u fall in love with ur sister or any of ur relative, i pity u.</p>

<p>i really can't bring myself to believe that so many people falls in love with their relatives.</p>

<p>kevin, ur westernick's effect is a bogus. i think i heard somewhere (from a much credible source than a psychology textbook) that a person who suffers from as kevin termed, westerdick effect, he must be cured immediately. if he isn't cured immediately, he will start practising...what's the word?...anyway, he will start having sex with his dog, or if he lives in a farm, with cows, sheeps, etc. SO WATCH OUT for this desease!</p>

<p>Sauronvoldemort, I truly hope you aren't being serious.</p>

<p>uglies hang with uglies</p>

<p>Going through it now. It sucks.</p>

<p>I think sauronvoldemort has gone crazy.</p>

<p>Yeah I had this whole falling in love with a friend thing. See, the daughter of our Principal, Tina Malhotra, came from London to study at our college , and I fell in love with her the moment I saw her. But the thing is, my best friend Anjali became jealous, and she took it really hard, having taken our "friendship" for granted and she actually left the college because it turned out she was in love with me, though she didn't really know it at first. I took that pretty badly, but unfortunately, Tina died of a terminal illness, but she named her child Anjali (after my best friend) and wrote her a bunch of letters about the whole love triangle thing that went on, and then she hooked me up w/ my friend Anjali at a song and dance camp and I fell in love with her, and now we're happily together! :)</p>

<p>hahahahaha imran that is awesome</p>

<p>Ahhh. I'm pretty sure I'm in the process of that. One of my friends was just an acquaintance last yearish. He still sort of is, but seriously, the more I look at him, the more beautiful he becomes. D: Plus, we've got some classes together, so I've gotten a chance to know him better. Brilliant, openminded guy with the most amazing set of hazel eyes EVER. </p>

<p><em>swoon</em></p>

<p>The story that Imran told is not true. Because it is the story of an Indian film of the late 90's - ' Kuch Kuch Hota Hai' ( Translated as Something's Happening to Me... :D)</p>

<p>You're not supposed to give that away Twist, way to be a killjoy. The people who know will find it funny, the people who don't will find it a bit odd and perhaps a bit humorous.</p>

<p>Rofl sad thing is I saw that movie...I should really kill myself</p>

<p>JEEZ TwistR lol</p>

<p>Been through it. Met a guy in senior year, was attracted to him, and he was a bit of a flirt/cuddle-person. Decided to 'fess up to feeling something, about a month in, and was told he wasn't into me. We stayed friends, carried on as before (to a point where we were literally everything BUT together; no one believed us when we said we weren't) I asked him to prom as I wanted someone to dance with, and my other male friend was taken, and about the time I didn't want to go through the hoop-la of prom stuff because it was 'just for fun', he asked me out.</p>

<p>You fell in love with someone of the opposite sex?! That's illegal isn't it?! What's wrong with you? Don't you realize that your decendants will over-populate the world and that the future generations with curse your name.</p>