<p>rawr! i'm going to rant for a few minutes from my frustration. so bear with me, or don't read at all.</p>
<p>i dated a guy for 1.5 years, i broke up with him 2 months before he went off to college (i'm still a senior in HS). i knew it wouldn't work out. he's controlling, overbearing, etc. it's really annoying. so i went to a summer program and met a few interesting guys. no dating or anything though, just friends. and then i got back and he went off to college.. was interested in a few girls. it seems that things were going fine. for the past month i've been in school, i've become really good friends with one of my guy friends. we're not dating yet, but i wouldn't exactly call it a friendship either... so now my ex has been calling nonstop asking me to stop doing things (including talking to the new guy) and everything.</p>
<p>are all guys this controlling/overbearing/protective? and why do they do things like that? i mean, if he was interested in a girl when he first went off to college, why can't i date a guy i know very well (more than half my life) as opposed to a girl he knew for a day or two? also, has anybody been in the same situation and has methods that have worked? i'm trying to get him to stop but talking to him doesn't seem to work. a guy's perspective on things would be quite nice.</p>
<p>sorry for sounding so stupid, i'm usually not this type of person but it's just gotten to the point where i'm really annoyed and cannot stand it anymore.</p>
<p>tell him the relationship is over, and he has no business butting into your current affairs anymore. if he doesn't listen, don't answer his calls. he's jealous.</p>
<p>I agree that you just need to be firm and say, sorry, the relationship is over. Tell him you do not want him to contact you any further by phone, e-mail, mail, or other means, but you both need to get on with your separate lives. After saying that, do it. If he calls, do not answer and do not return calls. Do not open or respond to any e-mails and do not answer any letters he may send.</p>
<p>For what it's worth, it is NOT good to be in a relationship where one party tries to control the other, including who the individual can speak/communicate with, spies on the other, and keeps in contact after the relationship has been declared over. If you need help, ask your folks and other adults you trust.</p>
<p>No, not all guys are like that. Damn. My boyfriend ****es me off sometimes because he's so passive. (Sorry I'm kind of hijacking your thread...I'll help later, I promise.) I could cheat on him and all he would say is, "Oh. Okay. I suppose we don't have to keep this relationship going anymore. But okay."</p>
<p>There's a quite obvious solution to your problem. Not answer his phone calls. >.<</p>
<p>the thing is my sister answers the phone and then she's like "come get the phone it's for you" or i dont know who's calling and then i answer it thinking it might be someone else. but i don't return his calls. or emails. or facebook messages. or anything. but he still tries.</p>
<p>Talk to your parents & sister & anyone else who answers the phone in your home & tell them you are NOT home to this person. If you do end up on the phone when he's on the other end, quickly & firmly say goodbye and hang up. After hanging up, please remind your family that you are NOT accepting calls from HIM.</p>
<p>Oops, I assumed he was calling you on a cell phone.</p>
<p>I think there are ways to block certain numbers.</p>
<p>Or the other thing you could do is make up random excuses to not talk to him, like, "I can't talk to you right now. My cat's listening." Or the like.</p>