<p>It’s weird…most of the people at my school manage to be happy for others without getting grumpy. I told all of my friends when I got into my top choice, because I was ecstatic and because I tell everyone everything. Everyone always finds out within the week anyways.<br>
I guess my case was a little different, though, because to my knowledge no one else at my school applied to my top choice, and the decision came in the middle of February, after people had recovered from EA notification and before RD notification. Still, I don’t see the drama…no one I know at my school would ever be personally upset by someone else’s success.</p>
<p>Last year I got into my top choice ED. Me and two other classmates got in December 14th while 20+ of our classmates were rejected/deferred. None of us wore our Penn shirts the next day, but we didn’t keep the news a secret. I don’t see the reason to keep your acceptances a complete secret, and if you were to tell a few friends, chances are they’ll tell at least one other person and word will spread. I went to a very competitive public with good numbers getting into top 20 schools and even more applying. I don’t know anyone who kept their acceptances a secret. I’m sure some of my peers felt upset, but they got over it and everyone was able to go to a college they were happy with. No one holds lasting grudges and I havn’t lost any friends after getting into school. Tell the whole world where you got in. People might be a tad jealous, but that’s just human nature for an initial reaction. I doubt anyone will hold a grudge for the rest of their lives because you got into X and they didn’t.</p>
<p>I am probably going to let lots of people know where i get in, but honestly, i don’t really care if im “rude”. I’ve worked my butt off for the past 4+ years, so i think i (as well as others), deserve to tell others where they will be attending next year. Its not like i would go up to people and make fun of them for where they didn’t get in, but i think its not unacceptable to wear your college’s clothes to school. I know if i get into stanford,ucla, or duke, i will wear these clothes nearly every day ( as well as a hat ;])</p>
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<p>Yea, I’m glad to say it’s pretty much the same at my school. Believe it or not, so far everybody has been chill about it.</p>
<p>I can completely relate to this thread! I decided that I didn’t want to tell anyone (besides my family-- even close friends) where I was applying. People asked me allll the time, because they know I’m kind of an overachiever, and I guess they were curious. A lot of people were incredulous that my “list” was a secret, and tried and tried to pry information, but I pretty much kept quiet.</p>
<p>The reason I didn’t tell was I didn’t want people to know where I got rejected… so now that I’m starting to hear from colleges, I’m telling some friends and teachers and stuff, and word is getting out. I don’t really mind.</p>
<p>I told only a few close friends and the teachers/counselor who wrote my recs. Needless to say, I received congratulations from people who heard through word of mouth. But there were other people who seemed to take joy in rubbing their acceptance into the faces of the deferred or rejected. I really dislike that sort of attitude since their acceptance could very well have been less happy due to the volatile nature of admissions. </p>
<p>I say, in short, be happy, but be considerate. There’s no need to trod on someone else’s ego for the sake of tooting your own horn.</p>
<p>Wow…it’s really great to know that I’m not the only person who was thinking about this. I guess it really does depend on the nature of your high school, whether it is a super-competitive place where everyone is applying to the top 10, or whether college admissions isn’t really an issue. At my school there are probably about 5 students that applied to top colleges…but it’s a very small school where everyone knows everyone else’s business at all times–it feels almost expected that I tell the principal of a success or what not…when I received a scholarship semi-finalist notice at the beginning of the year, I wasn’t sure if I should tell people, so I didn’t…just my GC b/c of supplementary material. It was hard because some other students weren’t invited to that second round. But then, when some administrators found out, they asked me why I hadn’t told them, which makes it all the more annoying. =) If someone tells me good news, I feel always feel super excited for them, even more than I feel for my own acceptances…but I know that this isn’t the same for everyone, since I told one of my friends about an acceptance and she immediately started listing all the good news she had received thus far; it was strange…</p>
<p>Anyway, its always nice to know I can come on CC for some empathy =)</p>
<p>Best of luck to all of you!</p>
<p>The rumor mill will do its work.</p>
<p>My D got an EA to her dream school in December. She has older friends at schools around the country/world who use facebook walls to check in with each other. The buzz on facebook pretty well got the word out within a couple of days. Maybe some of you will think this is obnoxious, but for about 2 days, the school’s mascot became her facebook profile picture! She couldn’t help it. Reading people’s acceptance/rejection news on line, when you’ve steeled yourself for it, might work for some.</p>
<p>I agree, facebook will take care of it - once one friend finds out (and I don’t see the point in keeping an acceptance from your friends, at least with my friends - I think everyone is excited to celebrate people’s successes), and it pops up on someone’s news feed that “25 of your friends posted on X’s wall” and see that it’s not your birthday - yeah. It wasn’t hard to find out who got in ED at least.</p>
<p>I would tell your close friends, and your family that you care about. If anyone else asks you, it is acceptable to give them an honest answer.</p>
<p>“Excitement Etiquette: Whats socially acceptable when reporting college news”
sounds like a great title for a new book!</p>
<p>^ hahaha! A must-have, along with A is for Admission.</p>
<p>It’s nice to be concerned about others feelings if you believe there may be some disappointment at your good news. Part of me says tough, but part of me says use discretion. With facebook though, if you tell one person, all bets are off. Its good news, you should share and its unfortunate that some may not have the capacity to be genuinely happy for you without envy, jealousy, or some other negative emotion. As far as the “haters”, success is the greatest revenge, lol!</p>
<p>Facebook is definitely evil in that respect. I was rejected ED, all my overachiever friends were accepted… but eventually I got over it. Everything is going to be okay, I think.</p>
<p>I would tell some close friends, and definitely teachers whom I am close with. I am sure word will spread quickly. If anyone asks, you answer their question. No reason to keep it a secret.</p>
<p>I would NOT bring it up in conversation with those whom you aren’t
“close friends” with, as you would risk looking like a jerk, especially to those whose news wasn’t as good.</p>
<p>I would not go around asking people where they got in, especially if they applied to the same school as well. I was recently rejected from a good match school, and this obnoxious acquaintance (I don’t even consider her a friend) asked me if I got in (we both applied). Anyways, I was so embarrased about being rejected from a good match school, that I lied and told her I got in, but that I no longer wish to attend. So yeah, I would ask NO ONE if they got into school X, even if its their safety, because with college admissions like these you never know whats going to happen…</p>
<p>^See, I know someone who applied to my first choice, and he’s FOR SURE the type to ask if I get in. And he’ll mock me if I don’t.</p>
<p>I agree about not asking people about whether they got in or not. Unless, of course, it’s a good friend of yours or something.</p>
<p>wow, maybe my school is just really friendly and totally not cut-throat, but almost everyone shares BOTH where they’ve been accepted and rejected. on top of that, it’s not offensive / taboo to ask about college news - it’s encouraged and readily supplied.</p>
<p>there’s definitely the option to keep this info to yourself, but most seniors opt to share in the celebration/mourning. we have a map in our main hallway where there are red pins and black pins. the black pins represent acceptances and the red pins, rejections. each pin has a flag on it with the students name and the college to which they’ve been accepted / rejected.</p>
<p>then there’s also an ongoing collection of acceptance / rejection letters, most of which are posted on a bulletin board in our guidance office.</p>
<p>i really like the traditions of our school, everyone is excited to hear about acceptances and everyone is willing to console each other about being rejected. AND all the teachers are almost as excited as the seniors themselves! definitely a comforting atmosphere to be in :)</p>
<p>Yeah, I told a lot of people, but like I said, none of them applied to the same school as me and the admissions letter I got came in between EA and RD times.<br>
At our school, the most common phrase is “who cares, I’m already in college!” at which point you ask which one if you want to know, and then can volunteer your info if you feel like it. If you find it depressing, you do neither. Everyone finds out in a few days anyways, and I’ve never seen anyone be upset at others for getting into college.</p>
<p>One of my friends and I applied to the same two schools early. I got into both and he got into neither. He still sort of wishes he got into our top choice, mostly because it has better looking girls than the school he ended up at. He never visibly held a grudge towards me and our friendship has lasted through college admissions. It’s not like we were close friends either, but we were in similar circles. Getting into a top school will not alienate your classmates. Chances are you are considered one of the smartest kids in your class and half your peers expect you to get in somewhere great.</p>