<p>So today I realized that I'm really pathetic because I've had a crush on the same guy 2 years and never told him how I felt. I never told him cause I'm afraid he'll reject me:( Any ideas on how to get over this fear?</p>
<p>Honestly? Tell him. Rejoice if he accepts. Move on if he rejects you. There are larger fish in the ocean. And you’re not pathetic, you’re normal =)</p>
<p>You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.</p>
<p>Like how should I tell him? I’m bad with boys -_-</p>
<p>Do you know him? If you’re good friends with him then you can kinda just sneak it into the conversation at a suitable moment. Especially when it’s kind of quiet, but not an awkward quiet… that nice, comfortable quiet.</p>
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Seems a good plan to me.</p>
<p>Which approach do you want to use?</p>
<p>I usually go with the blunt approach: “I’m glad that we are good friends but the truth is I really like you and have for a while. Do you think there is any potential for us?” Then smile. If he doesn’t answer right away or fumbles for an answer, say: “But I understand if you don’t want to be in a relationship, but let’s not lose our friendship okay?” Usually guys either go, “yes I like you too” or they say “I don’t feel the same” or some other way to let you down kindly. Just know that either way, the relationship between you two will change.</p>
<p>The subtle way would be engaging him in a conversation and start talking about ideal boyfriends/girlfriends and look for clues. That’s what my friends have done.</p>
<p>Personally I always do the blunt way (to make up for my short stature =D)</p>
<p>MyzyTrang, I’m more pathetic than you. I’ve been in love with the same guy for four constant years…</p>
<p>and have never had the courage to actually admit it. He’s a quite good friend of mine.
It’s kinda disturbing, since whenever I get close to other guys, I start comparing them to him. And one day he met me and asked me to help him pursue this girl.</p>
<p>Worse yet, I said yes, and actually helped him. But he seems happy, so…</p>
<p>@monochromeaddict: Don’t feel bad about the helping him out part. When I first met my best friend, he already had a girlfriend. But as we grew closer, they grew up and eventually broke up. Now the happy ending would be we got together but we didn’t. I ended up helping them get back together. I also helped them to stay together after he cheated on her. And now days, they are so cute together–people make bets on the wedding date.</p>
<p>No. I really didn’t feel bad, I was genuinely happy for him and that girl.
But sometimes my heart still throbs. :)</p>
<p>^^ both of you two are CUTIES! that is so difficult.</p>
<p>@monochromeaddict & dfa4ever: You two are such devoted friends! I would never help him with a girl since I am Viet and have a jealous personality sometimes… I like him so much my heart hurts sometimes… I’m still super pathetic -_- I was gonna tell him that I liked him today but I just have no courage:(</p>
<p>About a week after my best guy friend broke up with this girl (they didn’t date long at all), i told him i liked someone. he said he did too. after playing 20 questions, we got around to saying that we liked each other :)</p>
<p>we’ve been dating for over a month, and love it.</p>
<p>tell him how you feel. it can’t hurt more than it does now :)</p>
<p>good luck!</p>
<p>So, basically…</p>
<p>if u have a crush on someone else and they have no idea about it…</p>
<p>are the chances high that they also like you back? lol…</p>
<p>I am in the same boat as you. Guys are confusing . . . Good luck!</p>
<p>Don’t tell him. I had a crush on a guy for 2 years and decided never to tell him. He was gay. If your head says don’t tell him, don’t tell him.
Guys ask you out if they like you not the other way round.</p>
<p>I think its normal to fear rejection, I know I do.</p>
<p>@Nil desperandum: I want him to ask me out but I guess he’s just not in to me. boo:(</p>
<p>^Or he could also have fear of rejection.</p>
<p>Where did this fear get you?</p>
<p>If you do what you have always done you will get what you have always gotten.</p>