feel lonely in college

<p>I don't really talk that much to my suitemates. Sometimes it seems like they think I'm weird. When they go out they don't invite me, but then again they usually go with their roommates and even though I'm in my room they don't invite me to go play games but they invite other people as they walk in and when they go eat they never bring me along. I feel like an outcast here because they all seem like such close friends already maybe I'm being paranoid but what can I do? They're really cool guys but I don't know, I just have a hard time having a conversation with them and stuff. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Maybe I'm dwelling on the past too much. I just want to be able to talk with them like I do with my old friends, but unsure of how to carry it out. Any help?</p>

<p>That's a standard issue lots of people have. All I can recommend is to try to do more stuff with them. You've got to be proactive, like when you see them about to go out, ask where they're going, and if you're interested if you can come along. Doing that over time will make you closer to them.</p>

<p>It's hard to feel like you do with your old friends in this new situation. Your old friends are just that "old friends" and those relationships have developed over many years together. Now you find yourself having to find your niche in a new place with new people. I suggest, instead of trying to force the issue with your roommates, why not try and find friends by other means. What about in your classes? Join some organizations, clubs or sports intramurals. Do volunteer work or go work out in the gym. Get involved in activities on campus. The more you expose yourself to other people, the more chance you have of finding new friendships. </p>

<p>Your roommates may or may not be the right friends for you. Time will tell, but instead of focusing on them, I would branch out and not limit yourself.</p>

<p>Feeling lonely sometimes is a common feeling for many college students. Try and keep busy...get out, even if it's just to the library. It will help you feel less alone.</p>

<p>Your suitemates have a responsiblity to respect you, but not admit you to their circle of friends. Be nice but remember that you can't force people to be your best pals, and you're much better off finding the people with whom you get along naturally.</p>

<p>Try to make other friends, I don't even acknowledge my suitemates lol</p>

<p>The best situation for roommates is to make friends outside of the room. Do not count on your roommate to be your main friend or main source of friends. It seems as if you are staying in your room a lot. Be proactive. Get out there and meet people through various means, including clubs, partying, even the student union. That would be the best solution to your problems.</p>

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