<p>I rushed as a sophomore and didn't get asked back by any houses after the first round. Does anyone know why this could be?</p>
<p>Rkelly I am very sorry you have been so disappointed. The process is not a measure of your worth or value by any means. Sometimes it’s the squeaky wheels who get the oil or the invitations back. Sounds like you may have fell through the cracks. </p>
<p>Some girls get invitations b/c they have connections already in the house. If you are in classes where you have not connected with girls in the sororiety xyz- most likely you won’t hear from them. If xyz has a lot of economic majors - then their will be a lot of freshman economic majors who get invitations. They have notice in their classes. Or maybe upper classmen sisters are from their hometown so there is a natural connection.</p>
<p>When you went to the parites it is a little bit of social jostling- you need to be assertive so that you are remembered. Everyone likes to have coveted “life of the parties” recruits (but not obxnoius life). Last year. I was on S campus I saw a girl sobbing about not getting into her desired house. My heart broke for her as it does for you. This is a hiccup in your life. Prove them wrong and take on a new passion or… go back to where you got the invitation. </p>
<p>I am also wondering if you were too hasty in declining the invitation. If you, can please reconsider. Many & most of the girls in the house are probably lovely. Being open minded could be the best gift you can give yourself. Besides it’s a ticket into a few parties & lovely rituals (if there is negative hazing then I’m not encouraging you to do it). I don’t think you will regret giving it a whirl and you can drop out later if you really don’t like it. Maybe you can make that house stronger.</p>
<p>Michigan is a huge place, it would be nice if you could be part of a group that makes the school a little more intimate. Keep us posted.</p>
<p>Mayhaps because they saw your other posts you made on another website in which you said that you only wanted 3 of the ‘top houses’, using your real name, and stating that you lived with 3 members of ADPi and have a cousin in Alpha Phi. </p>
<p>Guess what, you made your bed by saying that you only wanted to be a member of a top tier chapter, and now you’re going to have to lie in it. Maybe this will teach you to be more open-minded and less judgmental.</p>
<p>You posted earlier and gave out enough personal information for the sorority women at your school to figure out who you are.</p>
<p>You wrote about how you only wanted to be in the three sororities you thought were “top tier.” AND you named them. That could have offended the women in all the other sororities which could possibly have caused them not to invite you back.</p>
<p>I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling bad about yourself, but I second what soccergurl and coffeebean have said – you made numerous posts on high-traffic forums revealing a significant amount of personal information in which you indicated you were just too good for all but a few “top” chapters. What sorority would want to pledge someone with that kind of attitude?</p>
<p>The exact same thing happened to me last semester. I rushed as a sophomore and was absolutely shocked when I got cut from all of the houses only three days in. I literally sat in my room and bawled for weeks so I know exactly how devastating it can be. I am very kind, fun, outgoing, and always get several compliments for my fashion sense and my good looks. I never said anything out loud, but I thought getting into a top house wasn’t going to be problem. I never dreamed that I wouldn’t make it into any of the houses at all! To this day I have no idea what went wrong and I guess I never will. I have 3 possible theories. </p>
<p>One, I was a sophomore. But like you said, I knew plenty of sophomores who didn’t get screwed over. Second, my GPA wasn’t so hot. I had a 3.1 gpa, and a lot of the houses averaged about a 3.3 to a 3.4. </p>
<p>Third, what I really think, is that maybe I (tried) to fit the “sorority girl” stereotype so well it started to work against me. Maybe I tried so hard that it rubbed the girls the wrong way. The girls may have thought I was very conceited about my looks or that I assumed I would get in because I “believed” I was such a good choice. It was also very obvious I went to great lengths for rush. I walked in with freshly waxed eyebrows, an expensive hair blowout from the salon, and spent an hour on my makeup prior to each morning. I also spent countless hours planning each outfit for each day (like an hour a day for at least a month). In addition, I even practiced having conversations with the girls in the mirror and tried to gauge the questions they would ask me. I also tried to exude a super bubbly personality and appeared maybe overexcited about rush. (In class I am not super bubbly, and am actually very quiet) Anyway, I think this may have been the problem. The girls thought a: This girl is so full of herself and thinks she’s already in or b: This girl is trying wayyyy too hard and seems kind of fake.</p>
<p>Basically, what I’m trying to get at is if you went into rush with a big head or thinking you “deserved” one of the top houses, it may have started to work against you. I know it sucks and I’m sorry things didn’t go your way!</p>
<p>angelfish, I am sorry that it didn’t work out for you. It sounds like you went in with an open mind. </p>
<p>As for you Rkelly, on both this site and greekchat you were told over and over again your express desire to only join a top group and the way that you dismissed your own roommates chapter was most likely a problem. Also, you have bee on campus for a year and didn’t seem to know any other Greek members. Plenty of sophomores do well when they 1) know actives; 2) keep an open mind; 3) have a GPA that matches the members of the house. </p>
<p>I want to be sympathetic, but it is hard. In truth none of us will be able to tell you why only one house wanted to give you a chance. Why not stick with the process and go back in with a more humble attitude. If you wish for Greek life for sisterhood rather than just to wear the letters and meet fraternity guys, you still have an opportunity.</p>