Feeling sad about college - thoughts of transferring

This feels like “catastrophizing” to me.

I had a great college experience, but I’m not in touch with many college friends. Life moves on. Things change. It’s OK. I haven’t returned to my college in a quarter of a century.

You’re not going to get it all perfect. Life is a journey, not a destination (sorry if that sounds cliche).

odds for you of getting int Vanderbilt aren’t very good since they’re lower than what they were when you applied as freshman. However, you can try.
Look at colleges that seem to be +15/-15 on the LAC list around W&L, they should all be very good. Check out the CDS to see how many transfers they admitted last year.

Hey man just stumbled across this. I’m honestly in a very very similar situation, as I’m currently a freshman at Davidson who’s thinking about possibly transferring as well. That part where you mention possibly regretting passing up such an opportunity speaks so well to me. I feel the same way. I’m honestly really unhappy here most of the time, but I keep hearing about what a mistake it would be to pass up such an opportunity. Please keep me posted as to how your second semester goes and what you end up doing. I’m actually on the soccer team here, and if I were to transfer I’d most likely be quitting soccer as well which is adding extra pressure and stress to my life. Again, don’t hesitate to reach out to me on here because I feel you 100% about everything that you said. Hope we both figure everything out.

Here are a few things to consider:

  1. If the total undergrad population is ~2000 students, I can see how it can seem like the reputation of one's fraternity is a really big deal if your whole social life surrounds where your fraternity is in the pecking order of things.
  2. Maybe you'd be happier at a different college. However, maybe you wouldn't. Right now, the only real reasons you've presented for switching schools is that you'd like D1 teams to cheer for and you want to be in a fraternity that has a better reputation at the school.
  3. When you are out in the big wide world applying for jobs in your life AFTER college, nobody really cares about what fraternity you were in. Unless maybe the hiring manager was involved in Greek Life in college, but even then, it likely will not be a deciding factor.
  4. I point out #3 because the reputation at your university of your fraternity may SEEM like a huge deal, but it's really not.
  5. Re: a couple of your fraternity brothers being irritating or annoying - this is part of life. Look at this from another point of view - when you're out in the working world, will you quit your job and go elsewhere just because 1 work colleague gets on your nerves? You might not have the freedom to do that. You might have to stick it out and figure out how to get along with the person. Also, you don't have to be best buds with everybody in your fraternity. Even if you switch schools and join a different fraternity and even if it's the primo frat on campus, I guarantee you that there will be at least ONE guy in that frat who really gets on your nerves.
  6. If you do switch, just make sure that you're switching schools for the right reasons. Sometimes the initial school you end up at is not a good fit and if it's not a good fit, then yeah - you SHOULD transfer.
  7. You haven't mentioned much about the academics so far. How has that been? If you're considering other schools to transfer to, you need to weigh the pro's and cons, especially as it pertains to your specific major. Sometimes switching to a D1 school would be great. But there are other instances in which it wouldn't.
  8. How many of your existing credits would transfer to the new school? Would you still be able to graduate in 4 years or would it take longer at the new school because of having to repeat classes or because maybe your major is impacted and some required classes are only offered once a year?
  9. Are you dependent on any merit scholarships in order for you to be able to afford to go to college? In other words, can you/your family financially afford to transfer?

It’s generally not possible to pledge a different fraternity than the one you’re currently in if you transfer. Once you join that’s pretty much it. You can typically stay in your fraternity if they are present at your new school.

Don’t know if that makes any difference in your thought process