<p>First of all, I want to make clear that I understand what the OP is saying. The system is not fair and it may even be based on a tenet that may not even hold up if ever challenged. The way it works is that you are not independent of your parents until AGE 24, for the most part, for college payment purposes. So you are hamstringing an independent adult to what his parents are willing to do and pay for 6 years after his coming of age. The educations system is counting on the parents wanting the most for their kids and being willing to pay for them. Doesnât always happen. There are kids from dysfunctional families, parents who wonât pay, and they are left without the options of those who have parents who will. The situation is always that way, of course. Those who are lucky enough to have caring, responsible parents, even indulgent parents get more from Day -9months. But we are extending the sentence to 6 full years after coming of age. And the only reason the system is doing this is because that is where the money is. Who else is going to invest a quarter million bucks into an 18 year old other than his parents? And the number of 18-22 that can come with the money to pay for college is about zip. Would bring the system down. You would then have parents who can and are still on board slipping the money to their kids on the sly if you put it just on them. The way it works at least puts some order and tries to help those who most need it. But the way it is set up, those who have parents who canât and wonât pay, but are deemed to have the money, get little or no aid, or whose parents just flat out wonât fill out the forms are also out of contention for much in the way of funds. </p>
<p>So I agree that it is unfair to those kids whose parents are not willing to pay, actually wonât pay when they are deemed able to pay. </p>
<p>There are also a lot of very serious things wrong with the system, that I would love to get fixed, and it is a personal regret of mine that I did not work towards being in position to make changes in that area. But this is not going to help those complaining under the banner of this thread. I 'd like to pull all federal and state finanicial aid like PELL, loans, etc from the private school and put those resources into building better state school choices that are more open to everyone, starting with improving our community college system. But I digress from the point of this thread.</p>
<p>For the most part, this rant is about the private schools, Do keep that in mind. PRIVATEs. Like those schools most kids did not even think about attending, that their parents did not consider from k-12. Like the boarding schools, maybe the names like Exeter, Andover, Choate, will stir up a few memories. You know, the schools that cost almost as much as college. Why all of the sudden there is a crowd that thinks they should get equal access to Harvard when they understand perfectly well what it takes to get into, say, Deerfield or Groton, and didnât even give those schools a thought, is beyond me. Harvard, GW, NYUâŠthe list goes on, are PRIVATE SCHOOLS. They can do what they want with their money. They pick who they want and charge them what they think they can squeeze out of them. They have a pot of money they use to pay for those rocks that arenât gonna yield the water, but itâs their rules. They can come up with any legal way of distributing the money that they please. Itâs like joining a private club or anything that is private. They make their own rules. To be crying that this is unfair is the absurd part. </p>
<p>There is good reason to complain when your state schools, local schools become unaffordable. Or when there are no good alternatives under your state system or there are not enough good choices. Thatâs something that state residents need to address. I wish our state schools were better in the 3 Rs of Recognition, Ratings and Reputation, and feel itâs a shame that they are not. Iâd snatch that money away from the privates in a heart beat and use it to build those schools and strengthen the community and locals state colleges even more, though I think NY has done a pretty good job that way. But where anyone gets the idea that they have any entitlement to get into Harvard, or get paid to go there, or that there is anything fair about the process is being absurd. Those schools are on a mission to get the moneyânot their only mission, but let there be no misunderstanding they pay people with the specific goal as to how to get the most money and meet other goals, and like the bank robbers they hit up where the money isâthe parents who have it. And the banks too who will again turn to the parents and lend the money to THEM, not the kids. </p>
<p>As BobWallace said, however more succintly and directly than I am capable of doing, for those parents who feel this is unfair, itâs not that difficult to get a low paying job and give away your money, and put yourself in the situation of those families you so envy. Going the other way is difficult, but you can always go poor. </p>
<p>What would end a lot of this is if more parents, students refuse to pay. Go join the military, the peace corp, volunteer, find a job, travel, do the things dear to your heart for 6 years and then at age 24 apply to college. Enough people do that, and it would make a real change in the college landscape. </p>
<p>But, yes it is absurd. I agree. But with only so much money in the game, how else is anyone to distribute it more fairly?</p>
<p>To address a direct complaint, yes, those who take out loans and are from families that have higher incomes, are very much AS A GROUP better off than those who come from families that are poor. When I answer threads where the poster is contemplating loans, the family support and financial situation are indeed relevant. If push came to shove, the supportive family that has the means can help out in lean years when making the payment is difficult or not doable. That option does not exist for those who come from families who donât have two nickels to run together at the end of the month. Many parents are helping their kids with their loan payments, and as a warning to all, even a ten year period of paying that things is an exhausting burden. Not like a car paymentâthose parents who are paying it are often doing so painfully as they can also see their kid not living up to the investment made that he canât even pay for his own skin in the game with that $20K job he ended up with after the $200K investment and the measly (in the scope of things) $25K loan that is more than the car he had to buy to get to the job. So that option is there. Also parents who can, most of the time, do help with the finding a job and getting settled expenses. To say that a kid from a home with means does not have those advantages, is ignoring the reality. Yeah, some parents wonât help, many are fed up by then, but by no means are they as stuck like those from families who are looking for money just to meet their own monthly expenses</p>
<p>My sonâs friendâs family is very needy. Always has been, still is. He finds it depressing to go home because the begging for money starts. He got a financial aid package that made it possible for him to go away to school, a good move from a truly dysfunctional family with many problems. They stole from him a few times, one time causing a huge problem, as he, the college kid taking loans and workstudy was the richest one in the family in terms of having any money. So they took it as they would now, if he isnât careful. He has to pay a service to safeguard his SSN as they have and will use it to get funds on his credit. He owes about $40K in loans due to Perkins and Staffords, and it is one rough go for him to make the payments. Heâll be pushing fifty when heâs done. And he is one of the elite in his neighborhood and family, having a college education. If you envy him, you are going down the wrong path, other than envying his strength in character and discipline to go against the very mold in which he was cast.</p>