<p>I was hoping you awesome CCers could help me out on
this.</p>
<p>I met this guy at the beginning of my freshman year of
high school. This was at a time when I was just
starting to get used to the whole high school thing,
mainly not knowing anybody in my classes. Without too
many other friends, I began to become really good
friends with this guy. We chatted for months through
AIM, and when he asked me to a school dance, we really
clicked. And after a few months, we started dating.
This was my first shot at a real relationship. Of
course, I was completely naive to how relationships
work in high school. I guess by going out with him
and becoming close friends with him, I missed out on a
lot of opportunities to meet other people. </p>
<p>So now, I'm about to begin my senior year. I just
found out the above-mentioned guy has been seeing this
other girl behind my back for a month now. I'm over
being upset about it. I just want to make up for
lost time, do as many things as I can to get the most
out of my senior year.</p>
<p>One of these things include meeting new guys. I don't
necessarily want a relationship. Actually, I don't
want any committed relationship at all. I just want
to be able to introduce myself and maybe do.. a
little, subtle flirting. The problem is, after being
with that dirtbag for 3 years, I've never really had
any motivation to talk to other guys. </p>
<p>Girls, how do you flirt with a guy without coming
across as too harsh? Also, where are good places to
meet nice, intelligent guys outside of school? It
seems like most of the guys that are my type at my
school are either too quiet or taken. </p>
<p>And guys, I'd appreciate your viewpoints as well.
What qualities attract you to a girl? What do you
like to talk about with girls? </p>
<p>lol. well, i'm sorta in your position. i got out of a bad relationship about 2 months ago and i've met a LOT of new guys :) mainly cuz i'm at a summer program away from the boring old guys i know. as for flirting, hmm, depends on the guy i guess. some girls act really girly, others act sorta stupid but in a "cute" way, others just well, are really direct. flirting isn't something describable... it's just ... something you do? i dunno. but it's all opinion cuz i thought i was being a normal friend when some guy thought i was flirting with him when i was soo not. anyways, nice, intelligent guys? i've met a ton here at harvard during the summer. cute too lol. but they're all young! :( how depressing. i really can't think of places where you could specifically meet guys.</p>
<p>I flirt a lot, and sometimes I can't control it when I talk to guys, even when my boyfriend is around. Lucky for me, he doesn't care too much. -_-; If you want to flirt, the point to get across is that you're available. Get that point across.</p>
<p>As to where to meet guys, x3rose has a point. Going somewhere away from your normal Average Joes is great. But if you're not, check out the guys in your elective classes. They're a good environment for just messing around, and you're not likely to get in trouble for socializing.</p>
<p>uhh... hmph is right. I don't know what I'd do if my boyfriend got mad at me for flirting. It's not something I can help. But he knows it's just play.</p>
<p>ah yeah i go to an all-girls school so i cant even meet guys at school lol. but it's ok because there are all-guys schools around so at sporting events and such it's cool.</p>
<p>anyway, during the summer the beach is always good if you live near one. the gym is usually good too</p>
<p>^ Ouch. I couldn't stand to go to an all girls school. I love boys too much. They give me a reason not to skip class. (Or to skip class, depending on who's in my class... -_-; I'm a bad Asian student... >.<)</p>
<p>But how exactly do you approach the guy? I was watching this thing on MTV (woot for summer) and this girl just went up to a random guy in the restaurant and asked him if her lipgloss looked okay. I'm not sure if this is normal or not lol</p>
<p>^I wouldn't say that's exactly "normal," but if you have enough confidence to do it, go ahead.. though asking about lipgloss sounds sort of ditsy. </p>
<p>As far as where to meet guys goes, I don't think there's one specific place, just be on the lookout wherever you go. I've talked with guys in grocery stores, bookstores, waiters in resaurants, at parties, cafes, really anywhere. Actually, most of the guys I end up being into don't go to my school, which is better in the long run, as I'm not much for actual relationships. </p>
<p>If you see a guy you're interested in, just make an effort to talk to him. This could mean you go up to him and comment/ask about something pertaining to the situation, or maybe do something that you know he'll notice in order to get him to make the first approach. However, before the step above, I would recommend trying to catch his eye--exchange a few glances, you'll find out if he has any desire to talk to you. </p>
<p>Once talking, make good eye contact, look into his eyes when you smile, it'll be quite obvious you're flirting, but you won't be "coming across as too harsh."
Just make sure you don't get stuck talking to a boring, unintelligent guy. </p>
<p>i was just at a dance and i didn't have a date so i was with my group of friends (all girls) and some guys from one group all decided to ask each of us to dance. that was pretty cool. cute guys too :)</p>
<p>leah, i am nice and inteliigent! well im usually nice. im nice enough to admit i didnt read the original post because it was just too long. CONDENSE PLEASE</p>
<p>I was guy deprived this summer due to me being stuck on a stupid private beach where the only neighboors were retired old people. The solution was to wander over to the public beaches. Go somewhere you know lots of people (your age) will be and I dunno, just talk? Actually ignore what I said and listen to what alannancp said.</p>
<p>lol. i agree, being single is sooo much more fun. you can flirt with guys and just have fun without having to worry about another person.</p>
<p>i don't think that if you're with a guy you're less valuable (depends on the guy i suppose) but you definitely are less desired to other guys... 3 guys liked me at one point and i started dating one of them and then the other two stopped. it's good way to get rid of unwanted guys... if you actually like the guy you're dating that is.</p>
<p>hmm, it's tough to find a guy who is intelligent and good-looking but actually respects a girl. my last boyfriend liked the whole "housewife" thing. i said that if i were to be a housewife, i wouldn't go to COLLEGE and waste my money.</p>
<p>Single=freedom, IMO. I don't really need a good looking guy, though. The intelligence and the good personality is enough for me. It just seems that there aren't any in sight. There are some relatively intelligent guys which flirt with 2378275987 other girls and that's a turn off for me. To me, it's like a sign of future disloyalty. And they're not respectful/thoughtful enough to my taste. It's only high school, though, and I don't expect Mr. Right to pop up during high school.</p>
<p>Thus I am a spectator in this love game, and no more. I don't flirt back. I just make friends with them. :)</p>