I became friends with a group of girls my first week of college from classes/living together. However, I felt like I didn’t have much in common with them. I continued to hang out with them because I didn’t know anyone else, and in the second week, I became friendlier with another girl in my classes who I seemed to connect with. She was in our dorm and I invited her into the friend group. Eventually, I started hanging out with her and her roommate more than the larger group. It’s been a little over two months now and I am starting to worry. For one, she and her roommate seem to be best friends. They have multiple inside jokes together and tell each other everything. Because of this, I often feel left out. They are also always hanging out together while I am often alone in my room. Sometimes I will ask to join them and they say yes, but other times my friend will say that her roommate is in a bad mood so it is not a good time to come over (leaving me to be alone on a Friday night). I like two of the girls in the larger group, but they seem to have paired up as best friends as well as they are always texting each other and hanging out together and have inside jokes together. Should I be worried about feeling like a third wheel and not having a best friend? I like the girl that I initially met, but I don’t seem to click as much with her roommate. To meet new people I have tried joining clubs and talking to people in my classes. I joined the clubs with my friends and there is not much time to get to know other people, as it is usually just a quick meeting and then we leave. I talk to a few people in my classes, but it has not extended to much more than that as they already have their friend groups. Is there anything I should do, or should I just wait for the situation to hopefully get better with time?
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I feel for you–for me, feeling left out is the worst thing in the world. However, it would make sense that your friend and her roommate would be so close: they live together! Maybe try to think of that when you’re feeling lonely? Also recognize that the semester is almost over and relationships will change due to a different schedule, different activities, etc. in just a few weeks. Hope this helps!